Amy Mills BACP Accredited Counsellor for Children, Young People and Adults
I am a BACP Accredited counsellor and psychotherapist with over a decade of experience counselling adults, young people and children with a wide range of emotional problems. I offer counselling and psychotherapy to children and adults aged 5 years upwards (there's no upper age limit). I also offer supervision to other therapists from a range of theoretical backgrounds.
Counselling for Adults
People come to counselling for a vast range of reasons. Sometimes something specific has happened that remains unresolved, sometimes it might be because things have been building up for a while. Sometimes people are not sure exactly what the problem is but fundamentally they know that something “is not quite right” in life. All of these reasons are valid.
Counselling aims to help a person clarify difficult feelings, get to know and accept themselves better, think about the choices they have and consider any changes they might want to make in their lives.
When someone comes to me for counselling they are taken seriously no matter what their reason for coming is. They are listened to without judgement or blame. They are not interrogated and they are not laughed at. What they say is kept confidential. They are encouraged to talk about their reasons for coming as honestly as they can. They are encouraged to attend agreed sessions to give the counselling the best chance of being helpful.
I am an Integrative therapist which means that I incorporate a range of counselling theories in to my work and can adapt my style to best meet the needs of each person.
How I work with adults
I listen to what you are saying and pick out the key themes which are emerging in order to clarify for you what is going on for you at the moment. People often feel relieved by this process and you may find that this is all you need.
However, some people may want to know how their attitudes, thoughts and feelings interlink and where they originate from in order to understand themselves better. If this is the case then I can help you to think more deeply about how your beliefs have come to be formed and how they are affecting you now.
You may want to go on to think about changes you would like to make in your life. These could be changes to your way of looking at yourself and at the world, at your past and at your future, or they could be practical changes to your daily life. You could choose to talk with me about what changes you would like to make and together we can think through a plan for how these changes could be made, and embedded, so that they stay with you after the counselling sessions have finished.
More Information and Appointments
There is more information about how I work with adults on my website including answers to frequently asked questions. To book an initial appointment you can contact me confidentially by telephone or email using the details on this site, or there is a direct appointment booking facility on my website. I aim to reply to enquiries within 48 hours.
Counselling for Young People and Children
Children from 5 to 18 years find counselling useful for a whole range of problems. Sometimes something specific has happened which they might need support with, sometimes it’s a whole combination of things. Sometimes it’s not always obvious to adults what the cause of the problem might be but they can see that their child is unhappy.
A few examples of what children might be dealing with are: bereavement, moving house or school, parents not getting on well with each other or separating, a sibling’s illness, changes to friendships, bullying, concerns about school work or sport, a sense of not doing well enough in life. Older children may also be figuring out a new identity for themselves as separate to their family both in person and online, negotiating changing friendships and relationships, considering their sexuality or gender identity, becoming familiar with their changing body as it goes through puberty, dealing with bullying, worries about exams and their future. Some children have been unfortunate enough to have been the victims or perpetrators of abuse and some may have been placed in care.
Many children assume that they are the only ones who have ever experienced particular problems, and consequently can feel isolated, ashamed or abnormal. Counselling can help children to understand their feelings and behaviour as responses to their difficulties and their lives more broadly.
Giving children time and a neutral, confidential space to think about their worries and develop healthy ways of coping helps them feel happier now and also gives them invaluable skills for their future. When a child comes to me for counselling they are treated with respect. They are listened to without judgement or blame. They are not interrogated, they are not talked down to and they are not laughed at. Each child is encouraged to talk about themselves, either with words or through pictures, worksheets and creative representations. It is the child who sets the agenda for sessions and decides what will or won’t be discussed.
How I work with children
I listen to what children are saying and pick out the key themes which are emerging in order to help clarify what is troubling them and how they are feeling. Often children (and adults!) do not have the vocabulary to describe complex feelings in words so I work with a range of creative materials (e.g. puppets, dolls, drawing, sand-tray) to help children describe situations and feelings using metaphor. Children often feel enormous relief at this process which can give them a profound sense of being understood.
Children have less autonomy to make practical changes to their lives than adults do. However, they still have choices about how they interpret situations, how they feel and how they behave. Some children want to think about changes they would like to make to their lives. For example, changes to the way they express their feelings, who they are friends with or what they choose to take responsibility for. Some children also want to discuss practical changes they want to make with their parents or carers and I can help them think about what they want to say or facilitate a discussion with both the child and their parent or carer present.
More Information and Appointments
There is more information about how I work with children and young people on my website including answers to frequently asked questions. Usually I am contacted initially by a parent or carer who is seeking to arrange counselling sessions for their child. To start with I prefer to meet with the parent or carer by themselves to discuss the child's circumstances and what they hope counselling will achieve. I then go on to meet the child. To discuss whether counselling with me could help your child, you can contact me confidentially by telephone or email using the details on this site. Alternatively there is a direct appointment booking facility on my website. I aim to reply to enquiries within 48 hours.
All counsellors and psychotherapists are required by their accrediting bodies to consult and actively reflect upon their clinical work with an experienced supervisor on a regular basis. This relationship gives opportunity for confidential discussion of any difficulties the therapist is facing, promotes professional development and ensures that the therapist is working in line with the law and ethically in the best interests of their clients.
I have supervised therapists since 2013 and have worked with over 50 practitioners to date. These have included therapists from a variety of theoretical orientations including person-centred, psychodynamic, integrative, gestalt, cognitive behavioural therapists, art therapists and drama therapists.
I offer both individual and group supervision to therapists, both those in training and those who are qualified. I am able to supervise therapists working with children as well as with adults. I am a BACP Accredited member and supervise in accordance with the BACP's Ethical Framework.
My supervisory model
I base my supervisory model on Hawkins and Shohet’s* 7 eyed model meaning I actively hold in mind and consider 7 aspects of therapeutic work: the client; the therapeutic techniques used by the therapist; the relationship between client and therapist; the therapist’s process; the relationship between the therapist and supervisor; the supervisor’s process; the wider context (both organisational and societal) within which the counselling is taking place.
I also use aspects of Page and Wosket’s** cyclical model in that I seek a clear supervisory contract, to structure each session with a mutually agreed focus, and will explicitly ask supervisees how reflection in supervision will be applied in the counselling room.
I value empathy and honesty in the supervisory relationship, creating a supportive secure base from which to work. I enjoy using creative materials and techniques when helpful for the supervisee(s) to enrich clinical thinking.
I am trained as an Integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist, integrating the person-centred approach with solution-focused, and underpinned by some psychodynamic thinking. I have also undertaken training in attachment theory, systemic theory, CBT, mindfulness, narrative theory and using creative materials in the therapy room.
*Hawkins and Shohet (2012) Supervision in the Helping Professions. Open University Press
** Page and Wosket (2014) Supervising the Counsellor and Psychotherapist: A Cyclical Model. Routledge
More Information and Appointments
There is more information about my work supervising for therapists on my website. I offer both individual and group appointments of varying lengths to suit your needs. To discuss whether supervision with me could be helpful for you, you can contact me confidentially by telephone or email using the contact details on this site. Alternatively there is a direct appointment booking facility on my website. I aim to reply to enquiries within 48 hours.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am an Accredited Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP Accred). My qualifications include:
- Masters Degree in Counselling and Psychotherapy from the University of East London
- BACP accredited Post Graduate Diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy from the University of East London
- Certificate in Therapeutic Counselling Supervision from CPCAB
For the past ten years I have specialised in working with children and younger people, from 5 to 25 years old. I have run counselling services in a dozen East London schools with Place2Be, counselled university students at the University of Roehampton and counselled younger people at the Wimbledon Guild in South West London. This has developed my passion for working creatively with younger people, helping them to express themselves through artwork and play as well as with words. I am also very experienced at supporting parents, carers and teachers to reflect on and develop their relationships with children in order to better support them.
In addition, I have twenty years’ experience supporting adults of all ages (from 18 to 80 years old) with their mental health. I have counselled adults and run psychoeducational groups with Mind, supported adults with mental health problems, in addition to roles with Saneline and The Retreat Psychiatric Hospital in York.
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Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Attachment disorder in children
- Behaviour problems
- Bipolar disorder
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Childhood bereavement
- Childhood bullying
- Children’s learning difficulties
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Depression and anxiety in children
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Separation anxiety
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
- Young carers
Other areas of counselling I deal with
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My fees are:
- Assessment session for counselling and psychotherapy (60 minutes) £50
- Counselling and Psychotherapy session for one adult (60 minutes) £50
- Counselling and Psychotherapy session for one child (60 minutes) £55
- Counselling and Psychotherapy session funded by an insurance agency or employer (60 minutes) £55
- One-off consultation session (60 minutes) £50
- Individual supervision session (60 minutes) £50
- Individual supervision session (90 minutes) £75
- Individual supervision session (120 minutes) £100
- Group supervision session: the fee varies depending on the number of supervisees in the group (the greater the number, the lower the financial cost for each individual person). Appointments are available for 60, 90 or 120 minutes.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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My counselling room is on the third floor. There is lift access from street level. Accessible toilets are available. There is a waiting area if you arrive early. There is car parking across the road and many bus stops directly outside the building.
Appointments are available on Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays 10am - 7.30pm. Appointments can be booked online via www.paperplanecounselling.com/book-online or by contacting Amy.
Types of client
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Supervision & training
I offer both individual and group supervision to therapists, both those in training and those who are qualified.