Amrit Sagoo; Psychotherapist/Specialist Counsellor (Trauma), MBACP Accred.

Amrit Sagoo; Psychotherapist/Specialist Counsellor (Trauma), MBACP Accred.

About me

"When you are in the middle of a story it isn't a story at all, but only a confusion; a dark roaring, a blindness, a wreckage of shattered glass and splintered wood; like a house in a whirlwind, or else a boat crushed by the icebergs or swept over the rapids, and all aboard powerless to stop it. It's only afterwards that it becomes anything like a story at all. When you are telling it, to yourself or to someone else." M Atwood, 1996.

Your story: it matters.
... it isn't over yet;

            ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Hi, I'm Amrit. I am a qualified and accredited (MBACP Accred.) Specialist Counsellor/Psychotherapist with a Masters degree in Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling attained in 2010. I completed a post-graduate certificate in Trauma at the Tavistock and Portman NHS Foundation Trust.

My clinical work has been with the NHS (The Havens, a sexual assault referral centre based within King's College Hospital), the prison service, detention centres and various mental health and wellbeing organisations including The Self Space and The School of Life.

In addition to individual therapy, I provide clinical supervision to trainees and honorary counsellors and facilitate interpersonal and reflective groups for women.

I have a deep vested passion and experience in working with trauma in the aftermath of rape and violence. I work with both women and men who have been raped or sexually assaulted. When someone experiences violence their very sense of being is severed from the rest of life, fragmented, disconnected, amputated from the body of humanity. My job is to help you, slowly, to understand what is going on, to then try and pick up these broken pieces and see which ones you would like to hold on to and which ones to let go off. We will look at the loneliness and isolation; the shame and self-loathing that often arise; seeking ultimately to find meaning in what can be quite a confusing and chaotic world.

Susan J. Brison in her powerful book Aftermath (Violence and the Remaking of a Self) describes this process succinctly...

"the tension between living to tell and telling to live, that is, between getting (and keeping) the story right in order to bear witness and being able to rewrite the story in ways that enable the survivor to go on with her (or his) life."

I am trained in Existential Psychotherapy but the longer I do this work the more I realise that method and training is not as important as the bond and relationship between us. If you can trust me, we are halfway there. And this is what helps.

So why would you or anyone seek therapy?
Often we think of coming to therapy when most things we have tried up to this point have stalled. Love has gone wrong. Work is meaningless. The emptiness within continues to grow. There is pain, confusion and sometimes, rage.

Therapy helps to open up what's locked within. And it has helped many of my clients. Please see testimonials below.

Together I will work with you to understand yourself, your feelings, ideas what you can and cannot say; to make sense of your experiences with others along with looking at what it means to be alive in the world in which we live.

What to expect in your first session
Therapy and the safe space I have for my clients allows for deep often intense reflection. I sit and really listen to what you need to say (and sometimes to what isn't). I understand how vulnerable you may be feeling and I would help you with that. My aim is to help you, via a healing therapeutic alliance, to seek clarity; to reclaim your power and sense of control; to understand loss, shame, the impact of life's disappointments, the role of hope, of longing, connecting and belonging so that we begin to re-establish what you need to feel more alive.

I will ask you a few questions if I feel I need to, to help open the session as such. In these session, you would take the lead to explore issues of concern. And I will listen completely with the intention of meeting you in your world and your lived-experience. From my point of view as therapist, I am not trying to “reflect feelings.” I am trying to determine whether my understanding of my client’s inner world is correct — whether I am seeing it as he or she is experiencing it at this moment. You don’t need to have a list or an agenda for the first session or for any sessions with me for that matter. Having worked with many clients I have complete faith that all that needs to be talked about and looked at, will come to the surface naturally and ask for the attention it deserves. So don’t worry about expectations for your first session. Just turn up. At the first session we will decide how we will work together i.e. number of sessions, frequency i.e. weekly or fortnightly etc.

Questions before we start
Please just ask. No question is irrelevant.

Practical details
If you have mobility issues please do talk about it with me when we first speak as I do not have disabled access.

My commitment
I work hard to challenge the myths surrounding violence and the language often used when speaking of a such experiences as language is a powerful thing - it can further embed myths or it can make people see the truth and see it for exactly what it is -- not hide it or worse yet pretend it isn't when it is.

I will be here for you. I will stay. I will listen and support you.

I can and want to help.

Training, qualifications & experience

Educational Experience and Continuing Professional Development:

Advanced Group Facilitation
Gestalt Centre

Clinical Supervision
Metanoia Institute

MA in Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling
Middlesex University

BA (Hons) in Philosophy
Birkbeck University

Postgraduate Certificate in Psychoanalytic Understanding of Trauma
Tavistock & Portman NHS Trust

From Flirting and Banter to Sexual Harassment and Rape: The Role of Power and Control in Sexual Violence
Organised by nScience, facilitated by Christiane Sanderson

Dealing with Distress: Working with Suicide and Self-Harm
Organised by Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors

PTSD Trauma and Beyond: The Essentials
With Dr. Heather Sequira and approved by the British Psychological Society

Trauma, Dissociation and Recovery
Organised by Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors

Somatic Trauma Therapy
Babette Rothschild

Clinical Experience:

King's College Hospital
Health Assured UK
Professional Help GriefChat
Mind, Wandsworth and Westminster
Detention Action
HMP Pentonville
Homerton University Hospital (sexual health)
Terrence Higgins Trust
West London Centre for Counselling
Women and Girls Network

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

BACP
NCS

Accredited register membership

Photos & videos

  • hope
  • love
  • self esteem
  • endings
  • can't talk
  • hope has guts

Fees

My current private practice fees are £70 for a 50-minute session.

My fees at The School of Life is £100 a session and £80 a session at The Self Space.

My fees for external consultations for organisations differ - please contact me to discuss. I have a 24 hour cancellation policy; which works both ways i.e. if you cancel in less than 24 hours you will be charged for the session and if I need to cancel (due to an emergency) I will offer you a replacement session.

I am registered with Aviva and Vitality Health.

Further information

Testimonials

"The initial session was my first interaction with Amrit, and also my first interaction with a psychotherapist. I gathered the courage to confront my relationship crisis and I made the step that I believed was the best for me at the time, I opted for a remote session through The School of Life. In our first session, even though I started very nervous, I began to trust her early and found her very warm and kind. She accepted me for ongoing psychotherapy with her and convinced me to have trust in the process.

In the first weeks it was very unclear to me whether I make progress in my life or not, but I did expect the benefits to come in time. I soon realized that she is striving to make the best of our session time, asking key questions and making interventions with great finesse. She impressed me several times by asking precise questions that made me view the situation from whole new perspectives. Most of all I enjoyed that we made a connection and that she became to me an adult to whom I can confess intimate aspects of my life and have a mature second opinion, enhanced by her great experience as a psychotherapist. Her encouragement and reassuring gave me courage to work with myself in a more brave and systematic way. In our second month I started seeing real positive changes in my day-to-day life.

I also appreciate that Amrit has shown flexibility in the schedule and that at some point I was able to continue the ongoing therapy thanks to her accommodating her schedule to my needs. Prolonging the ongoing therapy continued my self-development and I got comfortable in extending the therapy areas, including my career and my family. The latest part of our sessions have been a real changer in my general way of approaching life's hardships and day-to-day struggles.

I thank Amrit for having the patience to analyze my life so thoroughly and pragmatically, for helping me make a big life decision in a mature way, and for offering me the guidance to the good inner state I have today!" Andrei M. November 2019.

"I saw Amrit in October 2016 after suffering a number of panic attacks and general anxiety over past and present family and personal relationships. Amrit was Incredibly kind, patient, thoughtful and provided the most easy, warm open space for me to just talk, release and heal. I was almost instantly at ease with sharing parts of my life I hadn’t discussed for years if ever with anyone, it was what I needed to move on. Amrit realistically provided me with an approximation of how many sessions I would likely require and offered me follow up sessions during periods that were heightened. Amrit also was available over the phone or email if and when required. As time has gone by and my strength has improved as well as coping mechanisms that Amrit put in place for me I often reflect on my time with Amrit and credit her whole heartedly with assisting me in finding my peace. I know if I go off course, that’s ok, and if ever needed, I can return and confidently speak with her again. Thank you again Amrit for your help x" Anon

Thank u very much. U don't know how much of an impact you have had on my journey.. which has only just begun. Wishing you all the best also. X" Michelle M.

"A BIG thank you for all your help. You've saved two lives!" - - Magda L.

"Thank you for being so brilliant at your job and helping me to get through and make sense of a tricky time. You are very inspiring and have helped me to get more/back in touch with myself and what it means to me to be a woman." -- Becky B.

"I wanted to say thank you so much for everything. I can't really put in words how much you helped me at such a difficult time in my life, but I'm not sure I'd be where I am today without your guidance so thank you for helping me see the light again." -- Nikki G.

"Thank you for all your help over the months. Thank you for believing in me. You are an amazing and powerful woman." -- Anon.

"Meeting you has been an invaluable contribution to my life - despite being on the verge of falling down, you've helped me manage to step up higher than I've ever been. I'll keep it this way!" -- J.

Maps & Directions

London, N21

Type of session

Online counselling: No
Telephone counselling: Yes
Face to face counselling: Yes
Home visits: No

Practical details

Sign language: No
Other languages: Malay

Accessibility

Accessibility information
Wheelchair access: Unspecified

Availability

Weekday evenings with some availability on Saturdays.

Types of client

Adults
Older adults
Groups
Organisations
Employee Assistance Programme