Green Stairwell Counselling is the practice of Alexandra Kubit-Hope, located in Dartford, Kent. I am an integrative counsellor, which means that I will not limit us to one fixed way of working, but that I will choose the best way of working with you depending on your individual circumstances, and what your individual expectations are in regards to what you would like to achieve as a result of therapy.
What to expect in your first session
It is perfectly normal to feel nervous about something as new and unknown as counselling may be for you. Hopefully during the first session you will be able to relax and tell me about your individual situation, and problems or issues that are troubling you. I may ask some additional questions to help me understand your situation better, but you will never be forced into talking about something that you do not want to. We will discuss and agree on what would be the best way for us to work together, and agree on the initial number of sessions, and time and day that we will meet. Depending on your individual needs, you may only need a few sessions, or long term therapy. I will make suggestions on how we move forward, but the final decision rests with you.
How counselling can help
I believe that you and your circumstances are unique. It might be that at this moment in time you need a better understanding of why you feel, think, and act in a certain way at present, which may involve looking at your past, or perhaps right now you prefer to concentrate on your current situation and see how you can view or handle things differently in the present, in order to have a better quality of life here and now. You may feel that you need a bit of both, as understanding what happened to you in the past can help you to successfully shape your present and future. Finally, you may not have any strong ideas of what you would like to achieve, but you feel that things are out of control, and you would really like to talk to someone who will not judge you or tell you what to do.No issue is ‘too small’ for counselling. If it bothers you or disrupts your life then it is big enough both for you and me as your counsellor.
I believe that you already have a huge potential and arsenal of resources to help yourself on the way to healing and leading a satisfying life, but often access to these resources can be somehow blurry or obscured, or impossible for you to access. My role is not to give you advice or tell you what to do, but to work together with you to help you find a state where you are satisfied and happy with your life. This will involve exploring and expanding your strengths, resilience and knowledge, which will be unique to you and your individual circumstances, and which will enable you to take the first steps towards a happy and fulfilling life. I like to call it your ‘toolbox’, which hopefully you will find helpful, not only during therapy, but also long after the therapy is finished.
I hope you will find that I am a warm and genuine person and counsellor, and able to create a safe, confidential, and non-judgemental environment in which you can feel safe and comfortable to talk to me.
Training, qualifications & experience
I hold MSc in Therapeutic Counselling from the University of Greenwich, and a Postgraduate Diploma in Psychology. I am an experienced counsellor and a registered member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). I also posses an Online Counselling Skills Diploma, and I am a professional member of Association of Counselling and Therapy Online (ACTO)
I work with individual clients in a one-to-one, face-to-face setting and in a one-to-one setting online. Before setting up my private practice, I also worked as a counsellor for Mind, and as a bereavement counsellor for Cruse Bereavement Care. I have experience in working with a wide range of issues including bereavement, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, suicidal thoughts, and emotional abuse amongst many others.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
The Association for Counselling and Therapy Online
The Association for Counselling and Therapy Online
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Helping people with bereavement and loss is a particular interest of mine, and I have several years’ experience of working with bereaved people. Death can often be a taboo subject in society when even the people closest to you do not know what to say, or simply avoid talking to you. At the time of deepest despair after the death of a loved one, you may find yourself either isolated or surrounded by well-wishers urging you to think positive and move on, which does not really help you. The process of grieving can be (made) even more complicated when a death is very sudden as a result of suicide, accident or murder. Surprisingly, the death of someone who hurt or abused you in any way may also prove very difficult to deal with. Sometimes you may feel that you are denied the right to grieve properly when a relationship with a loved one who died was kept secret from others, who cannot now fully understand the extent of your grief.
I also feel very passionate about working online with people who cannot access face to face counselling or who for many reasons may prefer this type of counselling. In the current climate this method of working may become increasingly popular.
You may find, that even years after the loss, you are not feeling any better (and everyone expects you to). This is not at all strange. I believe that time can contribute to healing, but that healing cannot be left to time alone. It is very important to begin the process of talking, and understanding that grief and pain can never be eliminated, but that you can learn to live with it.
The overpowering feeling of loss can of course be brought on by things other than death. You may decide to seek counselling because you suffer from a different kind of loss, for example, a loss of health, happiness, life satisfaction, job, money, security, loss of love or friendship, loss of opportunities and many others.
During many years of working with clients in a face to face setting, I have grown to understand that the decision to seek out support and begin therapy can often be a daunting one. You may have thought about counselling for some time, and instinctively feel that it can help you, but the idea of arriving at a therapist’s room, sitting down face to face with a counsellor, and beginning to talk about the things in your life which are often difficult, painful, or even unspeakable may have pulled you back from seeking support. I appreciate how having to be physically present in the room with a therapist can add an extra layer of difficulty in making this big first step, and may even discourage you from reaching out for the help you so desperately need. For that reason I also offer online counselling by email, Instant Messenger (Vsee) or video link (Zoom).
If you would like to find out more about online counselling and whether it would be suitable for you, please visit my website for more detailed information or simply contact me and I will be happy to explain in more depth about what online counselling can offer and how it will work.
The duration of the counselling session is 50 minutes.
Fees are £45 for a 50 min session.
I believe it is important for you to decide if a particular counsellor is right for you and whether you can see yourself working with them beyond the first session. For that reason I offer the first 'taster/chemistry' session for a reduced fee of £35.
My current availability is weekday evenings (5pm - 8pm) - please contact me for more details and availability in any given week.
I also offer online counselling. More details about how I work online can be found in my profile information section and on my website.
My therapy room is located in central Dartford, close to buses, and is only a 5 minute walk from Dartford train station. Free parking is available across the road.
If you decide on online counselling, there's no need to travel.
My current availability for face-to-face sessions is Wednesday and Friday evenings. I also offer online counselling, please contact me for more details.
In the current situation you may be seeking counselling support online perhaps more often than you did in the past. It is important to remember that online counselling is not simply switching from face to face environment to using a computer, but that it is quite different (albeit equally helpful) way of working, and therefore I would urge you to seek help from someone who is qualified to work this way.
I can work with you using Instant Messaging, Video or email, whichever method suits you best. I am qualified to do this work and I am also a professional member of Association of Counselling and Therapy Online (ACTO)