Alan Bruce Reg Member BACP, Couples Counsellor and Supervisor
Has your relationship become unstuck or really difficult since lockdown or before? These are difficult and testing times, with so much extra stress involved in almost every single aspect of life. We have had to make huge adaptions to the way we have been living, taking on different roles, working from home, increased time with our children. For couples, this can result in more frustration, irritability, or lack of appreciation generally. One partner can feel that they are carrying an unfair share of all the tasks that need dealing with, sometimes it can seem very hard to get a relationship back to how it began, when two people felt really attracted to each other and there was a strong sense of love and mutual care.
What can I offer?
I would like to support you to get your relationship back on track. I can look at the ways you behave, communicate and understand each other as a couple. We are all unique individuals with our own ways of expressing ourselves, sometimes our upbringing and past experiences can affect how we talk to one another. We can easily neglect to show affection, that we care, that we understand each other. Above all, we need to have trust and mutual respect in order for the lost parts of a relationship to return. I offer a collaborative approach where you will both be heard and treated with the utmost respect in order that your relationship can flourish again.
Who am I
I write this as someone who knows what it has felt like to have had to visit a Couples Counsellor myself, then worked to successfully recover my own marriage! I am a highly experienced Counsellor who has worked as a Therapist within the NHS for 16 years, I work in my quiet and tranquil and completely private garden room where you can relax and voice whatever it is that is troubling you, knowing that whatever you say, I will respect your confidentiality and will work within the professional guidelines of the BACP.
Why not try a free consultation session for Couples or Individuals with me?
Some problems I can help with Anxiety and related issues
Depression, handling loss,
Family and relationship issues
Identity issues, making sense of your life
Finding meaning to life
I believe our life experience affects the way we feel about ourselves, sometimes causing us to feel anxious, sad or depressed, often because we may find it difficult to remember to appreciate ourselves or look after our own needs. Particularly when we are stressed.
Rather than having the resilience to cope with life changes; we may feel overwhelmed or despondent, perhaps feeling that we do not deserve to receive what we want out of our lives. This can lead to a feelings of hopelessness and exhaustion -we may feel 'stuck', inside ourselves, in our friendships, choice of partners, work, attitude to life, and in other areas. When we stop being critical of ourselves, our confidence begins to flow and we can begin to use our creative energy to appreciate and even love ourselves.
When I trained as a Counsellor I felt empowered by the insights I gained into my behaviour and the way I related to others; I realised that the only person I could change was myself, and that there is no limitation as to how much one can change if the will is there. I work creatively using techniques derived from Art therapies, and other resources to suit the uniqueness of each person work with.
My pledge to you
To be heard, to feel understood
To be put at ease that what you tell me will be treated with respect and in confidence.
To feel received and welcomed, whatever you are feeling
To be given clear and honest feedback about what we might achieve within Counselling
To be able to work towards identifying and achieving specific goals
I am married with a son and a daughter. I have a great love of nature and spend much free time exploring Dartmoor, I am a musician, a wood carver and an artist.
Training, qualifications & experience
Advance Diploma in Drama and Movement in Therapy
Certificate in Counselling Skills
Certificate in Counselling Theory
Certificate in Couples Counselling
Foundation Certificate in Integrative Psychosynthesis
Diploma in Humanistic Counselling
Diploma in Creative supervision. Iron Mill Institute
Registered Member of BACP
I have worked as an Arts Therapist within a Therapeutic Community for people with Personality Disorders.
I have worked as an Associate Lecturer and Clinical Supervisor for the South West School of Dramatherapy
I have been a tutor on the Sesame Dramatherapy Course
Group Therapist on Exeter M A in Dramatherapy Course
Project Manager for Exeter Based charity, Magic Carpet's Drama Moves group
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Health and Care Professions Council
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Registration means that a health professional meets national standards for their professional training, performance and conduct.
Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
1 hour Initial consultation free
I normally charge £40 a session but provide some concessions
Creative Supervision £40.00 a session, (£30 concessions)
Couples Counselling £60.00 one hour 15 mins session
I also offer free Counselling during this Covoid crisis to NHS workers
A Chinese philosopher called Lao-Tse once said; 'a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step' .I would encourage anyone who is uncertain just to take the time to take that one step to come to Counselling and break with the limitations of the past, in so doing, you will naturally discover your own amazing potential .