Monica Khosla MBACP(Accred)
Experienced BACP accredited counsellor and psychotherapist, specialising in working with trauma alongside more general counselling work (e.g. in the areas of relationships, anxiety, depression, stress, bereavement etc).
Many of us are familiar with feelings of stress, anxiety and tiredness. Perhaps we also feel a sense of being ‘on guard’ much of the time and find it difficult to relax fully. In some cases, perhaps following specific trauma such as sudden bereavement, abuse, assault, loss of job or relationship, medical interventions or an accident, this can be accompanied by sleep disturbances, feelings of panic, a sense of ‘reliving’ events and other symptoms.
These experiences are likely to be related to over-activity of the sympathetic nervous system. Even without significant traumas, everyday life is filled with situations which can be perceived as dangerous. This could include driving or crossing a road, being surrounded by strangers, difficulties at work or home, imagining things that might cause harm or distress to ourselves or our loved ones, noticing symptoms of possible disease in our bodies etc. Like other mammals, our nervous systems respond to perceived threat by releasing chemicals that prepare us to fight, run away, or sometimes, freeze, in order to avoid danger. Unfortunately this is not always useful in human situations and we are left feeling more stressed whilst our bodies struggle to process the side effects of the nervous system activation.
My short-term work often focuses on helping people to fully recognise when they are really safe, which in turn signals to the nervous system that it can calm down. This is reinforced using gentle body awareness techniques and an exploration of beliefs and assumptions about life that may be perpetuating unnecessary stress. When we feel calmer we tend to experience more enjoyment in what we are doing and are also able to think more clearly, which helps us to resolve problems and function more effectively in our lives. For those wanting to explore specific traumas or other areas of difficulty more fully, I also offer more long-term counselling work.
I work with adults, teenagers and couples, and provide supervision to other therapists.
Training, qualifications & experience
I have been in private practice in the Totnes area since 2005. I am also Senior Counsellor and Supervisor at the Heartwood Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy.
Relevant Qualifications and Experience:
BA(Hons) Psychology 1990
Counselling with Childline from 2001 - 2005, and Young Devon 2003 - 2008.
Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling 2005
(Humanistic with an emphasis on Gestalt Therapy)
Completed training in Somatic Trauma Therapy with Babette Rothschild 2007
I have been an Accredited Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP(Accred)) since 2007 and aspire to follow their ethical framework.
Body Psychotherapy Training 2008-2009
Diploma in Clinical and Creative Supervision 2011
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Borderline personality disorder
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Special interest, training and extensive experience in working with Anxiety, Stress, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and the after effects of any events or situations that have been experienced as traumatic. This includes the integration of understanding and research relating to the workings of the nervous system and techniques from various therapeutic approaches including Gestalt, EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, CBT, Body Psychotherapies, Neoro-linguistic Programming, Transactional Analysis and Mindfulness.
Individuals £40 - £45/ hour
Couples £50/ hour
Introductory session £20/hour
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Please contact me to see if we can arrange a time to suit you.
Types of client
Supervision & training
Supervision can be supportive, challenging, interesting and creative.View supervision profile