Win Mainwaring MBACP (Accred)
01691 829220 / 07794 246917
I am a Widely Experienced Counsellor with well over 20 years specialising in working with individuals and couples helping them reach a better understanding of and easing distress they may be feeling in their personal lives & relationships. This covers all the more common difficulties as well as more individual or less common issues.
Any one of us might find ourselves worried, anxious or struggling to deal with situations that life seems to present us with from time to time. It is at times like this that it can be helpful to talk to someone. Someone we feel able to trust to listen to us without judging us, in a place in which we can feel safe and comfortable to talk. Talking things through with a professional in this way - having someone to think with - can help us come to see the problem in a new light. The process of counselling - where existing ideas might be gently challenged, aims to enable us to reach new understanding and make better sense of our difficulty and ultimately to see new and different ways forward. Once we are better able to take charge of our lives again there is the possibility to feel some relief and to enjoy a new level of contentment.
Whether the difficulties you are experiencing right now relate to something in your current personal life or whether they seem to hark back to earlier times, counselling can be useful. If the problem is more a personal issue, then the likelihood is that individual counselling might be the most appropriate way forward. When the problems you are having are more to do with your relationship with your partner, you might decide to come together for couples counselling; however there may be reasons why attending on your own for individual counselling in the first instance, might be more appropriate to work out what you want to do next. There is no one right way. It is always possible and often useful to have a brief conversation before hand or during an initial session, to work out what might feel the best way to begin.
Commonly, counselling involves meeting for face-to-face sessions and may either take the form of short-term work – anything say from 6 – 15 sessions, when working with a clearly identified focus is the aim; or it can also take on a longer-term format, which allows for a broader exploration of the issues and a different opportunity for more in-depth understanding and personal growth. Nothing has to be decided at the outset. Through our discussions, we would agree together what feels best for you. In certain circumstances and where appropriate I am sometimes able to arrange telephone counselling. Counselling is a voluntary process in which you have choice to engage and/or to determine the time it feels right to end - whatever seems right for you.
When you have read through the information here, if you are considering exploring what counselling might offer you, the first stage would be to book an appointment for an Initial Assessment which is a first hour to begin to share your ideas, and talk about your difficulties and for us to think together about your hopes and expectations of any counselling. It is a first opportunity for you to decide whether you believe we could work together and for me to consider whether counselling would be the most appropriate way forward or whether we could be thinking of some other intervention. A few, very particular situations, may warrant being referred to more specialist help.
My approach to counselling is one of collaboration, working together interactively and creatively; and I see the working relationship we are able to build together as fundamental to the whole process and to the ultimate outcomes. The process involves exploring ideas and expanding conversation to talk about the problem, to develop a deeper understanding of it and about the solutions you have already tried. It is only once you have a true grasp of the meaning of the problem that you can then get to the point of considering what a better way to deal with it might look like. So we talk sometimes about explore, understand and act! Let it be said that counselling is never an ‘easy’ process. It demands courage and commitment, but its potential means it can be rewarding and it is not unusual for clients to tell me that they are enjoying what we do. Some clients might also own to be quite anxious and sceptical about counselling at the outset, but once they get involved they frequently come to see its benefits.
I find the work I do deeply satisfying and feel hugely privileged to share in and be a part of the determined and satisfying changes people sometimes choose to make to their lives.
Here, I share just a handful of things clients have generously fed back to me in recent times.
We can now talk together about anything without the fear of it causing problems.
I never imagined a time I wouldn't be depressed. It is such a relief - to feel 'joy'.
We've found our way back to a happy marriage.
It is so good to have someone hear me and understand me and to have found who I am again.
We're so much more affectionate and happier perhaps than we have ever been.
Training, qualifications & experience
My work as a counsellor and supervisor is underpinned principally by Psycho-dynamic, Systemic and Adlerian principles using an Attachment frame. In lay terms this simply means that I work with both ideas that we are aware of and those that are somehow more out of our awareness. I take into account the context of lives both in the past and present, including such things as our families, friends, relationships, work and events that we have experienced and I consider things in terms of the relationships that have influenced us over time.
I know that my own experience as a client myself, was life-changing and something I look back on with enormous gratitude and has contributed to who I am and how I work today.
My counselling career began in 1992 studying the Individual Psychology of Alfred Adler. My interest in the human condition and in relationships, led me to join Relate in 1993 where my work as a relationship counsellor began to take shape and over the ensuing 20 years has seen me gain extensive experience working with both individuals and couples who come from hugely diverse cultural and social backgrounds and bringing and enormous range of issues to the counselling forum. Each client brings their own unique problem. Relationship work has become my passion, whether that be the relationship a person has to themselves, or the relationship they have with others.
My learning and working relationship with Relate extended well over 20 years, completing my PG Diploma in Couple Therapy in 2001 and qualifying as a Clinical Supervisor in 2006. It was about 10 years ago now, when I moved to Mid-Wales, that I then set up my own private practice offering couples counselling, individual therapy and supervision and it is where I continue to offer my professional services.
Post Graduate Diploma in Couple Therapy (2001)
RELATE Certificate in Marital & Couple Counselling (1998)
Adlerian Certificate in Counselling (1995)
Cert. Working with Young People (2005)
Cert. in Clinical Supervision (2006)
Cert. Supervision from Systemic Perspective (2006)
Cert. in Telephone Counselling (2008)
Externship in Emotionally Focussed Couple Therapy - ICEEFT (2009)
Cert. Attachment Narrative Therapy (2011)
Super-vision as an Opportunity for a Different-vision (2013)
Listed Associate to a number of Employment Assistance Programmes BACP (Accredited)
UKRCP Registered Independent Practitioner
Some of the more recent on-going professional development I have undertaken:
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for Depression (2009)
European Association of Body Psychoptherapists - 13th Congress (2012)
Mindfulness & the Body in Couple Psychotherapy (2012)
Understanding children's needs when Parents Separate (2013)
As an Accredited Member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP), I am bound by its Ethical Framework and am subject to its Professional Conduct Procedures. My work is regularly supervised and I maintain a diverse and on-going programme of professional development - to keep me in touch with the latest ideas and practice in the field of counselling and psychotherapy.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Asperger's syndrome
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship issues
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
No issue is ever trivial. No issue too great or too small. If it matters to you, I am interested and it matters to me. The list provided tends to encapsulate the majority of issues that arise. Relationship difficulties or 'attachment issues' - or the ways we find ourselves relating to others, are commonly brought to the counselling process. As individuals, we each have our own unique ways of communicating and engaging in relationships, some of which may, inexplicably, become problematic and give rise to tension and distress within our relationships. Destructive arguing and breakdown in communication is another common theme for many. Life Transitions, (both expected and unexpected) often raise difficulties for us too - any of which might benefit from working with a therapist. Some other more specific themes that I also have experience working with:
'the impact of being adopted on my life'
'experiencing the death of a child'
The IVF experience
Affairs and Repairs,
Separation & Divorce.
Childhood development & family relationships
Trauma and abuse, past and present
The impact of symptoms of Asperger's on relationships
Current Fees for Counselling & Supervision:
£37.00 for Individuals for assessments and on-going counselling [sessions 1 hour]
£42.00 for Couples for assessments and on-going counselling [sessions 1 hour]
Additional £8.00 for all appointments from 6.00pm
£40.00 for pre-booked telephone counselling.
EAPs and other organisations - by negotiation at agreed rates
Payment accepted in cash, cheque or by electronic bank transfer in line with my payment policy. Unfortunately I do not have Credit or Debit card facilities.
Payment for your Initial Assessment is payable on the day. Further on-going appointments are secured at the time of booking by receipt of prepayment. 48 hours notice of any cancellation is requested. Late cancellations may be charged for.
For those on particular benefits or those suffering undue financial hardship a concessionary rate may be negotiable for a limited number of sessions.
I am willing to negotiate my standard rates for 'unsupported' students or counsellors in training.
Supervision: Individual and Group:
A first face-to-face hour free of charge.
Individual Supervision @ £40.00 per hour pro-rata.
For anyone considering running a group and looking for Group Supervision, I would be happy to hear from you. Fee to be negotiated (dependent on number of members in group)
If having read through thus far, you think you'd like to talk to me further about what counselling might mean for you, to discuss availability or book an appointment, I should be happy to hear from you. Please call me, email me or text me if you prefer: I aim, if possible, to get back to you within 24 hours of receiving your request.
Tel: 01691 829220
Mobile: 07794 246917
I look forward to hearing from you.
If I am unable to take your call at the time, and you are subjected to my answer phone, you can safely leave your name and a number where I can contact you. I will return your call at the first opportunity. All calls and messages will be treated in confidence.
As I hope I have indicated any Initial Assessment is a first, one-off appointment with no further obligation unless you/we decide to progress to some on-going counselling when we would normally be arranging to meet regularly on a weekly basis. I take into account that some people have shift work systems and offer as much flexibility as I am able to accommodate these things.
CONFIDENTIALITY:The help I offer is private and confidential, which means that I will not normally share any information from or about you with anyone else, unless I have reason to believe that someone, might be at risk of serious harm. There are certain exceptions where I might ethically or legally be bound to provide certain, limited information to relevant authorities. The safety of any individual is a priority.
I am happy to work with Counsellors in Training; to offer any counselling required during your training or to provide the supervision required during your placement.
I offer Clinical Supervision. If this is an area you wish to
explore, either Individual Supervision or Group Supervision, please call me to discuss.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Appointments on Mondays 12.30 pm - 7 pm; Tuesdays 9.30 am - 7 pm Wednesdays 9.30 am - 7 pm & Thursdays 9.30 am - 6 pm. Fridays by arrangement. In & around Mid-Wales. Call for appt.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|
Supervision & training
My first supervisor remains with me since our first encounter.