Mary Stack MBACP Senior Accredited Counsellor
Over 20 years' experience of counselling I firmly believe that it is my ability to truly 'hear' what the client is saying - or wanting to say - that is the key to a positive outcome. I am told that I have such an ability and I love my work.
I counsel from my home which is in the heart of the countryside overlooking fields. This offers a tranquil place in which to think and reflect. I feel I have a warmth and ease of manner which enables my clients to feel comfortable in what is a safe and confidential environment.
I offer space and time for you to speak about your difficulties. I will not judge you or advise you but see myself more as a fellow traveller - that together we might understand your concerns whether they be to do with:
- anxiety and panic attacks
- bereavement and loss
- transitions - from country and culture, change in living circumstances, children leaving home
- change and upheaval such as divorce or separation
- abuse and neglect, or other destabilising events
- those affected by being sent away to boarding school or institutionalised from an early age
I believe that having the opportunity to talk through and make sense of our problems, particularly in the light of our past experiences, can have a profound and lasting effect on how we feel both within ourselves and in our relationships with other people.
I work differently with each person, according to their need, but fundamental to my practice is the belief that what we learned from growing up in our families plays a major part in how we conduct our lives in the present, often in a most enriching way, but often to our detriment. These would be areas for exploration.
Training, qualifications & experience
Advanced Diploma in Integrative Counselling - Edinburgh's Telford College
Understanding and working with adolescents - Scottish Institute for Human Relations
I have trained with Boarding Concern to work with those who have been affected by being sent away from home to boarding school at an early age.
Introductory training in Family Therapy which has helped me understand the Individual in the context of their Family System.
I set up the first 'embedded' Counselling Service for pupils in a private boarding school near Edinburgh.
I was on the team of the Edinburgh University Student Counselling Service for 3 years from 2003 - 2006 before moving South.
Private Practice alongside these projects.
Counselling for those struggling with their faith and working with ordained men and women in the estabished and non-conformists churches.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Carer support
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I work with those facing a whole range of life's experiences, e.g. loss or bereavement, moving home/country, those struggling to understand relationships or problems with intimacy. Anxiety and depression, mental health problems and eating disorders.
I have a particular interest in helping clients through past or present traumatic and/or abusive circumstances and those who feel they may have issues stemming from living or working within institutions or being brought up or educated in a boarding system whether from a very early age or later.
I believe that clients need to be genuinely 'heard' and given the opportunity to talk about things they may feel bad or ashamed about and issues which may feel difficult to speak out about. To understanding more clearly how you may have been related to in the past will shed light on difficulties being experienced at the present time. For example, if you want to know how to manage your anger I would be interested in you telling me how you have learned to express or withhold powerful feelings, what it was like for you when family members became angry, how you responded and how resolution was or (wasn't!) reached. Often gaining some insight into why we behave as we do is the first step in enabling change to take place.
I charge £45 for a 50 minute session for individuals. I charge £60 for a 1.5 hour session with couples.
I allow up to one hour for the initial session for which I do charge.
Having the opportunity to talk through your concerns and to focus on what you really need can be a most valuable experience in itself.
I wrote about my experience of boarding school called "The Making of Her" ISSN 1753 5980 in Attachment Journal New Directions in Psychotherapy and Relational Psychoanalysis Vol. 2 No. 3 November 2008.
I was responding to another article about the effects of boarding school and in response to reading Nick Duffell on the British Attitude to Children and the Boarding School system entitled "The Making of Them" ISBN 0-9537904-0-1.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
9.00a.m.- 5.00 p.m. and later appointments available Wednesdays and Thursdays
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|