Nicola Gadsby MBACP (Accred) UKRCP
I am an experienced, accredited counsellor and have helped many clients struggling with depression, angry feelings, bereavement, addiction, anxiety, low self-esteem, abuse and relationship issues. I see individuals and couples for both short- and long-term work.
I offer a space where you can talk about your feelings without being told what to do. I believe that it’s important for you to set the agenda, so that we explore the areas that matter to you. We can't alter the things that have happened to us, but looking at past experiences can help us to understand why we react as we do in the present - this is not about blaming people, but moving towards acceptance. Often this process leads to change.
I am increasingly interested in mindfulness, and the changes that a mindful approach can bring. Naturally we will each be facing different issues, but my experience has shown that heightening our awareness of the world around us can help us to let our thoughts and feelings be, rather than getting caught up in them. We can even start to identify our values, working out what kind of person we would like to be in the world, and how we might go about achieving this, initially by taking very small steps.
If it seems most helpful to explore your circumstances in some depth, we'll keep our sessions open-ended; if you have a more specific issue that can be worked on in the shorter term, we can agree a set number of sessions. We will then arrange to meet once a week, usually at the same time. You can decide to end counselling at any point, and we will regularly review how the sessions are going.
I think it is important that you both feel you are being listened to, by me, and by each other. We will explore why you have come for counselling, and work out together the main areas you would like to cover in our sessions. This may include looking at issues such as communication, conflict, sexual difficulties, affairs, domestic violence, separation and divorce. I aim to help you to be honest with each other about your needs and expectations, and to negotiate how you might each work to improve your relationship. It may be that you're not sure if you want to stay in your relationship, or you may be quite certain that you want to separate. Either way we can use the sessions to explore how you can cope with the difficult feelings you may be experiencing. Couples counselling tends to be fairly short-term, typically lasting around 10-12 weeks, but this can be flexible according to your needs. Again, you can decide to end counselling at any point, and we will regularly review how the sessions are going.
You can find me on Twitter at @ngcounselling, and on Facebook at Nicola Gadsby Counselling, where I highlight useful articles and blogs that offer insight into all kinds of mental health issues. I also write posts at Perspective, where I explore themes that interest me, and that I hope might interest you. Recently I have written about the challenges of taking the plunge to have some counselling, mindfulness, and how to increase connection with your partner.
Training, qualifications & experience
I have a diploma in psychodynamic counselling, and also trained at Relate as a couples counsellor. I have a post-diploma qualification in time-limited counselling. I am currently training in ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy), which is based on mindfulness (you can read more on my Perspective blog). I worked for two of the largest providers of counselling services in the county for several years, gaining experience with a wide range of clients with many different issues, and I now see clients at Cheltenham Trauma & Counselling Clinic and in my private practice. I am a fully accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and as such I adhere to the BACP ethical framework. This means you can be confident that I abide by a strict code of confidentiality, that I undertake regular ongoing training and that I am appropriately supervised.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Child related issues
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Work-related stress
£50 individuals (50 minutes)
£60 couples (60 minutes)
Please leave a message on my answerphone and I will return your call promptly. Alternatively you can send me an email. You can tell me a little about the issues you're facing, and we can arrange a time to meet, usually within a few days. We'll then have two preliminary sessions where we'll think about how we might work together.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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I offer both daytime and evening appointments.