Shabina Cummins BACP & COSRT. Individual & Psychosexual& Relationship therapist
I am a therapist and a coach and have been in psychological services for over 15 years. I now head up Neu with like-minded therapists who are also committed to bringing research together with compassion and a commitment to long lasting change.
I work with individuals, but also have 3 +years of specialist training in working with Relationship and Psychosexual issues. I work often within an attachment based experiential model. My continual development in this field has brought me to significant research based models that have been transformative for people that I work with.
Individual clients come in often with a myriad of issues from anxiety, grief, loss of identity and feeling lost in life or weathering difficult life transitions. We take time to take these apart and look at how they are impacting your current life situation.
Couples work alongside trauma work has become my area of interest and focus. These areas can bring a tremendous difference to our wellbeing and resilience. We work together to try and empower and bring about sustainable change internally and with how we might be relating to the outside world.
I work with couples both online & in person. I myself am based between the New Forest and London.
Couples work can sometimes benefit from an intensive period of therapy when the relationship needs active focus to change. This can be when the situation in the relationship has become difficult or that the couple have a reduced amount of time in busy schedules.These intensives are often better for couples who are not dealing with an immediate crisis but have been perhaps weathering longer term issues that are coming to the surface.
We have 2 current bases, Central London & the beautiful New Forest (where we can organise a retreat styled relationship space) Please email to find out about these intensives. These can also be organised in a situation close to your home if you cannot get away.
I have a deep understanding of Psychosexual issues which can often impact relationships and add to the bag of relationship difficulty. This can be out of the remit of normal couples therapy.
Often couples appear where one is feeling despondent or fed up with the relationship as it stands and the relationship has become stranded.Some couples may have weathered many years in relationships but feel disconnected from each other and feeling like the relationship doesn't bring them any pleasure.
I also specialise in couples who are stuck in conflict or are recovering from affairs or addictions.
All of the team @ Neu have ample experience in this science based couples counselling. This is particularly important as these times in a relationship can be stormy and need someone who has the right experience to steer the helm. Its always helpful to realise the pilot knows how to charter bumpy terrain.
We are a practice who specialise in family and relational therapy.
This can be from people who are struggling to feel secure, content, connected in relationships. Or even those who feel like relationships have too many barriers and are confused by them.
I have chosen to focus on using Gottman's model & Sue Johnsons' Emotionally Focused Therapy which has a high success ratio for helping couples navigate tricky water. This is an empirically researched model of working with couples.
I highly recommend the book :Hold Me Tight - Dr Sue Johnson- Is a good resource to read if you would like to understand more about the model we use.
The therapy space that you will come into will be a place which is safe, confidential, kind, non-judgemental and warm. It is in this space that we can then begin to look at the issues you are facing and why they may be troubling you. Meaningful relationships allow us to feel connected in the world; having connection is a significant stress buster to handle day to day challenges. Sometimes we are ourselves unable to know why we have become discontent or face anxiety. It is in this reflective space we can become known to ourselves and we can be guided by our own responses to things.
All of the therapists @ Neu are chosen because we become involved in the process of getting to know your world inside out. Piecing together the map that you have lived within is the first step to creating a map you would like.
As a small intimate practice ,each of the therapists is chosen because of warmth, compassion and knowledge.
As co-facilitators we use the map we have to help you work through the issues you are facing. We collaborate with you to try and bring internal awareness and insight. It is handy to know and be guided into a meaningful life that can bring us more satisfaction.
Neu practice therapists are informed by current Neuro-scientific research and contemporary psychological studies. This means that we are all equipping ourselves each year with new research that helps us help you. All of our therapists are committed to high levels of CPD.
We post often on our instagram & facebook . We also blog regularly - add articles and references that you might like :
I am member of BACP and COSRT and adhere to the codes and ethics set out by these.
Therapeutic support can help you with:
- Anger and Assertiveness training.
- Obsessive compulsive Disorder
- Post Traumatic Stress.
I run a specialised clinic in Psychosexual and Relationship issues. I work with both couples and individuals of any orientation.
Issues may include:
- premarital concerns
- separation or divorce
- communication problems
- anger and conflict
- gender roles
- sex issues
- chronic illness
- Body image
- Female Orgasmic Disorder
- Female Sexual Arousal Disorder
- Fetish & Compulsive behaviours
- Gender Orientation
- Male Erectile Disorder
- Male Orgasmic Disorder
- Premature Ejaculation
- Sexual Aversion
- Sexuality & chronic illness
- Sexual Desire
- Sexual orientation/coming out
- Sexuality & physical ability
- Sexuality & spirituality
- Sexual value reassessment
- Vaginismus/Sexual pain.
Please check out the website and blog for current information and press clippings.
Training, qualifications & experience
Contemporary Psychotherapy and Counselling - Integrating both short term solution focused and more relational work. ( 3 years )
Trauma work : Complex PTSD through body and somatic work
Emotionally focused therapy : Attachment based experiential work
NLP Master Practioner - Using short term models to help people.
CBT -short term solution focused therapy
Behavioural based therapy with Couples.
Attachment style experiential work
Integrative Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy ( 3 years )
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Attachment disorder
- Attachment disorder in children
- Behaviour problems
- Career counselling
- Child related issues
- Childhood bereavement
- Childhood bullying
- Children’s learning difficulties
- Depression and anxiety in children
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Gender dysphoria
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Separation anxiety
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Compassion-Focused Therapy
- Couples counselling
- Existential therapy
Fees are dependent on timing and locations.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Types of client