Geoff T Cox
A very important aspect to consider before entering into counselling is that there is no quick fix! Understanding the underlying aspects/issue is essential before it/they can be resolved which may take time. Much of the consequent processing will take place in the intervening time between appointments when there is time to reflect upon what has been said and what feelings may have been raised.
The most important element of counselling is the therapeutic relationship i.e. the one between the counsellor and the client. I hope the following will give you some insight into me and the way I work. If you would like more information I would be delighted to have a chat of no more than thirty minutes, either over the phone or at my place of work in Cookley, at no cost and with no obligation, before you make a decision.
I offer a comfortable and private space in my counselling room and the opportunity to discuss whatever issue is disturbing you in strict confidence. With an understanding, empathy and expertise, developed over several years, and the development of a unique therapeutic relationship I assist clients to resolve disturbing issues, achieve greater self-awareness, gain a greater understanding of 'why they are where they're at' to achieve the empowerment they may be seeking to enjoy a more fulfilling life.
Initially a teacher with a career which spanned over 30 years I am now a counsellor with more than 25 years experience of assisting many clients to resolve a wide variety of issues in a variety of contexts. In each of my roles as teacher and counsellor I have facilitated others to make the most of their aspirations, talents and abilities.
As a person-centred counsellor I am non-judgmental and offer unconditional, positive, regard to all. Person centredness is a way of being not just a way of counselling. It is not an approach which can be adopted as the situation demands.
I believe that each of us has all the answers we are seeking within our 'self' - we may just need someone who is not emotionally involved and who knows only what a client chooses to disclose, to help discover them. I'm non-directive and encourage clients to realise and appreciate the choices available to them and to choose the ones which are in their best interest. A consequence of this is the enhancement of self-awareness, greater personal development and self-actualisation. Consequently clients achieve autonomy and gain the ability to choose the life they wish to lead.
In addition to working with clients of all ages, who have issues they wish to resolve, I also enjoy working with those who are purely seeking greater self-awareness and personal development.
As a person-centred counsellor I encourage each partner to take their responsibility, and not blame the other, for the difficulties being experienced in their relationship. Issues are co-created. We cannot change the other, only our self. If we are able to do that, our way of being and the perspective of the other changes. If each is able to do this, greater clarity is achieved and the choices available are recognised. It may be an acceptance that a diiference in personal growth, of one or other partner, is such that the relationship they once had is no longer viable, which may lead to an amicable separation.
As a Prepare-Enrich facilitator I offer a programme which helps couples prepare for marriage, living together or, if married or in a long term relationship, one for the enrichment of their relationship. Completion of a well-researched inventory gives a snapshot of a relationship then, by working with me, couples can build on their strengths and learn skills to help improve areas which present more of a challenge.
Face to Face or Online
I work face-to-face and online. If you live in the West Midlands/Worcestershire area you may wish to make an appointment to see me in Cookley or, especially if you do not live nearby, you may prefer to meet me online. Online counselling is conducted via phone, email, Skype (with or without video), Zoom or in the virtual world via ProReal.
ProReal - Using avatars in the ProReal 'world', clients are able to create scenarios in which they can explore their issues. This is an exciting way to work and is suitable for clients of all ages. It may be likened to psychodrama, if you are familiar with that approach. In the ProReal 'world', there are fields, woodland, a fast flowing stream and a castle, in which you can set up a scenario to illustrate a significant event or situation. Along with avatars for yourself and others there are metaphorical props e.g. a clock, mirror, elephant, road barriers etc to help indicate feelings and obstacles to your progress. The more imaginative you are the more you will be able to get in touch with your feelings and your situation which you are able to view from a variety of perspectives, you own, any other person in the scenario, from a distance or from above.
I work both privately and as a member of the ProReal (see - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pa0teWyf9NY&feature=youtu.be) coaching team.
Comments from clients:
A heartfelt thank you for all your support, empathy and understanding. It’s been an incredibly long journey, you were with me all the way. Thank you for believing in me, and helping me believe in myself.
You have given me the tools to a better life, they will stay with me for ever.
Couldn’t have done it without you.
I am so grateful for what you have helped me achieve, for the first time ever I feel happy with being me.
“I have suffered with anxiety in my working and personal life for most of my adult life and was diagnosed with GAD three years ago. Counselling, for me, was a step into the unknown and whilst I appreciated that talking things through with an impartial person could hold benefits for my situation, I felt that it may be an admission of personal failure.
Having attended 6 sessions with Geoff over a number of weeks, my fears could not have been further from the truth. Geoff’s approach is in no way judgemental and allowed me to explore, over my time with him, the reasons behind my worries. There was no ‘silver bullet’ but, by understanding more about the ‘why’, I have been able to understand myself better, forgive myself for my imperfections and put in place my own coping strategies to stay calm and mitigate my feelings of anxiety moving forward.
Thanks Geoff - Matt”
Staff of the Centre of Inclusion of a school:
'A heartfelt thank you, on behalf of the staff and kids, for all your time, care, dedication and kindness. You have brought a little sunshine into so many lives, offered a hand to hold or been a shoulder to lean on, and you will be sorely missed. You arrived a colleague, you leave a true friend.’
Thank you for helping me and making me happy in myself. I am proud.
A client DW:
'I just wanted to formally thank you for all of your help. I never realised how good counselling could be and will highly recommend it to anybody I meet who would benefit'
A client CO:
‘How can I thank you for your kindness, support and understanding? I don’t think I would be at the point I am now without it.’
A client MD:
‘From a low personal ebb to a higher plain, you have helped me get things back into perspective. I value your innovative thinking, the depth and quality of your understanding, your consummate interpersonal skills and the robustness of your challenge. You have the gift of inspiring trust and delivering excellence with total professionalism and complete integrity. Thank you for all your care and support.'
Paul Stokes, a client
'Thank you for all your fantastic support and encouragement. I know I am in such a different place to when we first met. The counselling has been a great help and I feel I’ve been set on the right path now to travel onwards in a new journey.'
Simon, a client
'I know it’s been a while, things have changed in more ways than I could have imagined - and for much of that I need to thank you.
The sessions, although tough at the time, provided me with an escape, a chance to understand my mind & process information. It also helped me understand what was important to me.
So the journey started at those sessions, and still continues in many ways, however I am in a far better space, more relaxed and ready to accept life.
I have moved jobs to British Wheelchair Basketball, as the Talent Development Officer, basically allowing me to work within the sport I love, combining my passions of my job within Sport Development, along with Basketball. It was less money, but allowed me to do the other element I needed to address, spend more time with the family - so I now get home at around 5.30 each time for family dinner, and the stress levels have dropped markedly.
I have taken time to connect with my family, brother and Uncle (he lost his wife recently with cancer which I supported him through) to talk about my mum, and dad - it was nice to hear that my brother has had similar thoughts, and we are both conscious of connecting with our 'lost uncle and his family'. We are now spending time together at least once a month.
I must thank you for your time and effort, you helped me immensely, which I am eternally grateful. I know I will always miss my parents, but I also know they are proud of what I have achieved, and the person I have become.'
'Thank you for helping me have a happy life
Thank you so much for all you have done for me – I will carry your wisdom always!'
Besides the good quality of the sessions, what impressed me the most was actually your voice, very kind, very soft very reassuring that my problem has an answer soon or later. I thank you for your time and for being my counselor (sic).
Cris, Los Angeles
It has been helpful to consider such things as the importance of my inner child and how to divide what decisions are 'in my best interest' It has been good to be challenged and although I don't want to perceive myself to be the most cooperative client, it seems to be a necessary stage for me to go through, to resist the suggestions of others. I felt that we developed a friendly rapport over the time and it was easier to talk through the problems I have. My scores may seem less positive but I have been in this situation for so long and there is no easy way to resolve it. I do feel better after a counselling session but reality soon takes hold again. I did try to be more positive over some aspects of the caring role and I do appreciate the time you gave me.
Loneliness and a feeling of isolation are very real issues and these were helped.
Training, qualifications & experience
Cert. Ed., (Birmingham) 1965, Dip. P.E. (Carnegie) 1968, Dip PE (Leeds) 1974, Cert. Couns. (Coventry) 1993, Dip. Couns. (Warwick) 1995, Cert. Youth Counselling (The Listening Ear) 1999, Cruse - accredited counsellor and supervisor 1999, Online Counselling Skills (OnlineCounsellors.co.uk) 2008, MA Counselling Studies (Nottingham) 2007, Cert. Facilitator of ProReal 2015
I am a Prepare-Enrich facilitator working with couples preparing for marriage, building couples relationships and supporting couples in crisis.
In over 20 years of counselling experience, I have worked for voluntary agencies dealing with general issues, as a Cruse Bereavement Care counsellor and supervisor, working with clients who have suffered loss and as a telephone counsellor for an Employee Assistance Provider (EAP) dealing with a wide variety of clients, including counselling teachers on the dedicated service for teachers.
Since 2008 I have been working privately in Cookley, near Kidderminster, face to face and online (Phone, WhatsApp, Skype, with or without video, and in the virtual world with ProReal) with clients who self refer or those referred by EAPs.
2016 Business Excellence Awards: Best Online Counselling Service Provider – UK
Registered / Accredited
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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
The Association for Counselling and Therapy Online
The Association for Counselling and Therapy Online
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Self-awareness and personal development
£50.00 per session
Free initial in-person, telephone or online session
Concessions offered for
Individuals £50 per session Couples £70 per session
Telephone (Skype, Zoom and Psychology Today Sessions- with or without video) - £50 Individuals £70 Couples per one hour session
ProReal £50 per session (Introductory session £30)
Special offers: Book and pay for five sessions in advance and receive one free session. If you choose to not continue before all the paid sessions have been taken those not taken will be refunded if more than 24 hours notice has been given.
Concessions can be negotiated for those on low wage, or none, or benefits.
Companies/Organisations and Critical Incident Debriefing by negotiation.
Monday and Wednesday 14.00 - 20.00
Tuesday and Thursday 09.00 - 20.00
I am an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), the Person Centred Approach Associaton (TPCA), Online Therapy Institute (OTI), the International Society for Mental Health Online (ISMHO) and the Association for Counselling and Therapy Online (ACTO).