I have over 30 years experience in counselling and therapy with Men, Women and couples. I have had a private practice in general psychotherapy and psycho sexual and relationship therapy for over 14 years.
I work at 30 Frogmore st , central Bristol on a Friday 2.00 to 7.00.
I see individuals and couples of any sexual preference for both general problems [depression, anxiety, wanting more from life] and specialise in a full range of sexual problems [erection difficulties, loss of desire, sexual addiction and relationship problems] communication and intimacy problems, a tangled web of problems which have developed over long term relationship and empty nest syndrome.
I also specialise in anger and violence and have over 20 years experience of working with male violence and anger.
I have also developed considerable experience in working with men who have experienced being bullied as a child and adult.
I offer telephone and skype counselling for men and couples recovering from prostate cancer
Training, qualifications & experience
I hold a C.Q.S.W., Post Grad Dip Psycho Sexual and relationship Therapy. Advance Certificate in Psycho sexual and Relationship Therapy. Certificate in Constellation Therapy. Diploma in Life Coaching. Certificate in sexual minority therapy.
I am accredited for practice by College of Sexual and Relationship Therapy
I am registered to practice by the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy.
My main psychotherapy training was over 5 years and based at the Whittington Hospital London and South Bank University. I have over 25 years experience as a social worker in Voluntary agencies.
I am a counsellor for a number of employee assisted providers providing counselling support for a wide range of companies and their employees.
My therapy orientation is Humanistic integrative which includes TA, Gestalt RET, CBT.
My approach is holistic, authentic, respectful, non judgemental and transparent.
I believe that everyone is unique and has the power to choose and has the capacity to change and grow. No one theory or approach holds the truth and living is creative and involves the interaction between the emotional, intellectual and physical aspects of each person.
I believe in using a wide range of skills to fit your needs at any moment. I have developed an interest in Mindfulness Meditation particularly for depression and anxiety and use handouts and prerecorded Cd's to use at home.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Panic attacks
- Physical abuse
- Relationship problems
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Mindfulness has been shown to be particularly helpful for anxiety, stress, depression, chaotic thinking and sexual difficulties.
Life coaching is focused, action based and practical. It focuses on now and the future and uses your strengths and skills to take you where you want to go.
I have expertise in the following areas.
Sexual addiction, including porn cybersex and affairs
problems with erections
problems with ejaculation
lack of interest in sex
lack of closeness and intimacy
I charge £70 for couples and £60 for individuals. However I can use a sliding scale minimum charge £50.00 per session.
A session is 50 minutes long
Sex , Relationship and the older couple.
Our generation of baby boomers will have longer and better lives. Our responsibility is not only to grow old well, but also to turn this experience into something good and happy.
The most recent findings 2012 from English Longitudinal study of aging at University College London, have found that older people who are happier live longer with less disability and stay physically well longer into older age. They also found that older people in a close relationship or married are healthier and live longer.
We spend our twenties and thirties grounding our selves, sexually. Then that ground starts to shift in our forties and fifties and for many of us a major landslide begins in our sixties and seventies. Our bodies, sexual responses and relationships begin changing and don't always work the way they need to.
With self-knowledge, creativity, good communication and a sense of humour, we can roll with the changes and make the earth move again. Sex might not feel or look the way it did when our hormone rush propelled us into jet-stream sex, but it can be highly arousing and satisfying.
"The things that stop you enjoying sex in old age are the same things that stop you riding a bicycle: bad health, thinking it is silly and no bicycle" Alex Comfort, The Joy of Sex.
Comfort gets it pretty right. While we are getting over our hang ups about sex in old age, bad health can derail even the most active and enjoyable of love lives.
Sex does change as we age and that is the good news. Performance anxieties and many common problems occur far more frequently in the young than those in old age. Men and Women are still vital , alive, and sexy at 50, 60,70and 80 years old and beyond; they're sexually confident and experienced too. As long as we don't lose our zest for life we don't loose our lust for lovemaking either.
It might be that you can't wait for the kids to move out and to retire so you can get back to romantic strolls on the beach and love making in the afternoon. If so , enjoy it! But for a lot of couples, the transition they go through as they approach retirement age can put a real strain on their relationship. Its hard to be just a couple again when you're used to being parents, and many find the concentrated time at home after retirement is difficult, rather than romantic.
Relationships are key to a happier later life, but it can also be a time when some relationships come to an end. Many couples find the transition points around retirement and children leaving home very difficult and divorce rates are on the increase for the over 60's. Naturally , this is also a time when people suffer bereavement and face the prospect of living their later life without their partner.
Retirement provides a great opportunity to discover new things and new people. It might be that you're ready for a new relationship, or you might just be looking to widen your circle of friends.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Friday from 2.00 to 7.00 at 30 Frogmore St BS1. Chepstow Tuesday evening from 5.30pm
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|