David Robert Lewis Parry
Hello I am David Parry a Counselling Psychologist: I can offer you appointment times (including evenings and weekends) to suit your availability; a sliding scale for fees; urgent appointments are available (often on the same day as your enquiry). Please note: due to my concerns re the COVID-19 Virus I am only meeting clients via social media such as skype, facetime and zoom. To set up an initial consultation or to discuss any questions you may have re your therapy, please contact me by telephone or e-mail. I have extensive experience of counselling people in the NHS, for Insurance claims, for private health care and in private practice.
I offer brief to long term psychotherapy and counselling for individuals and couples: short-term therapy (which can range from anything from 1 to 12 sessions) tends to be focused on a specific concern or life changing event such as bereavement or thinking about ending a relationship whereas open-ended therapy involves deeper and broader explorations of your biography and experiences. Sometimes clients find they only need one or two sessions to clarify how they think and feel about a concern.
All enquiries are confidential and you do not need a GP referral to make an appointment.
During my career as a psychotherapist-counsellor I have worked with individuals and couples from diverse cultural backgrounds and from the ages of 13y to 80y. I have also worked with people who have physical and/or sensory disabilities; and as a group facilitator for MIND with men and women who are experiencing anxiety and depression. I also have extensive experience of working psychotherapeutically with people who have been diagnosed or labelled with:
personality disorder; OCD, DID, PTSD (related to, for example, road traffic incidents, being attacked, and being in abusive relationships) ADHD and IBS. I also have considerable experience of working with couples.
How I practise as a therapist: I aim to adapt the way I work to your needs and your preferences which I will help you to identify during your initial consultation session. That said generally my way of working with you is to let you tell me about whatever ‘it is’ that concerns you at your own pace. It involves a process of exploration by us that aims to try to understand whatever concerns you with an open attitude as to what we might find.
It is therefore not my aim or intention to fit you or whatever concerns you into some pre-existing category or way of understanding (even if I am familiar through my training, reading and personal experience of your concerns; although obviously I will share with you anything that I think will be of help in trying to understand your concerns). Thus for example if you are concerned that you are ‘depressed’ I will explore with you what being ‘depressed’ means for you and how you experience being ‘depressed’. This way of engaging with your concerns is based on the premise that ‘the more understanding we can bring to an experience' the more choice we will have regarding what to do with it; and the better placed we will be to process it healthily and move forwards.
My approach to practising psychotherapy and counselling is mainly influenced and informed by existential philosophers and writers; humanistic writers such as Carl Rogers, psychodynamic and attachment theory; CBT, Positive Psychology, Polyvagal Theory and my own experience of being a client in therapy.
From my own experience of being a client in therapy and as a therapist this is what can be achieved and experienced through being in psychotherapy-counselling: To feel supported, encouraged, understood and listened to; to feel more in control of your life; to have a better understanding and awareness of yourself, your feelings and your relationships with other people; to have a better understanding of your past and how it may be impacting on how you are now; to become more aware of your options; to feel more self-confident and more aware of your strengths.
My basic philosophical approach to life is: the more ‘self-aware’ we are, the more we can choose ‘how-to-be’; and the more I am open to my own experiences of being the more open I can be to other people’s experience of being.
My interests include: Academic and creative writing, philosophy, sociology, psychology, politics, physics, music, dance, the arts, comedy, sport, nature, documentaries, food, Zhuan Zhuang.
I also offer coaching. As your coach I can help you to: manage your life and time better; have a clearer understanding of what you are trying to achieve and how you are trying to reach your goals; have a clearer understanding of how to use your thoughts and feelings and experiences so that they become a positive resource as opposed to a hindrance. As your coach you will have someone in your corner who is: supportive, encouraging, sympathetic, empathic; and able to offer you alternative ways of looking at things; and challenge you in ways that aim to promote your self-development without undermining your confidence.
My availability: weekdays-evenings and weekends.
Training, qualifications & experience
(post) Master of Arts Diploma in Existential Counselling Psychology: Regent's College School of Psychotherapy and Counselling.
Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology: Regent's College School of Psychotherapy and Counselling.
Advanced Certificate in Therapeutic Counselling: Psychodynamic approaches (CPCAB): Clapham College
Certificate in Therapeutic Counselling: Humanistic approaches (CPCAB): Clapham College:
Certificate in Counselling Skills awarded by The Counselling & Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body (CPCAB): Clapham College.
Roehampton Institute affiliated to the University Of Surrey: Bachelor of Science (Honours): Second Division (upper division): Psychology with Sociology Sept 1990-July 1994.
Registered / Accredited
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Health and Care Professions Council
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Registration means that a health professional meets national standards for their professional training, performance and conduct.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Areas of particular interest:
CPTSD and PTSD: Helping clients to understand, process and digest the impact that a traumatic experience is having on them. Offering clients exercises and practical advice that has been shown through research to be helpful.
Understanding: our relationship with our bodies; affairs of the heart, relationships, sexuality, sexual identity and behaviour; discrimination and bullying; spirituality; bereavement; depression; mood swings (bi-polar disorder/manic depression); anxiety, panic attacks; gambling; shopping; abuse; anger, rage; our inner child; psychosis.
Self expression through art and sport.
Life coaching: Performance anxiety and concerns (for example playing competitive sports; as an artist; public speaking).
The process of relationship separations and divorce. I am very interested in helping and supporting parents who are experiencing difficulties in maintaining contact with their children due to divorce, separation and the legal system.
Separating from and managing relationships with narcissistic people.
Helping people to cope better with the affect that abusive and threatening language is having on them. Helping people to cope better with the affect that bias based on racism, sexism, appearance, sexual orientation and disability is having on them. . Helping people experiencing work related issues such as going through grievance procedures.
Another area of particular interest involves how to manage IBS (irritable bowel syndrome) and Tinnitus through the practice of Zhuan Zhuang and self-massage.
I am also interested in the notion of Mindfulness and in particular Zhuan Zhuang. The practice of Zhuan Zhuang involves meditation plus exercise. I have found this very useful for: improving balance, keeping fit, aiding digestion; developing self-awareness, relaxation, managing stress.
EAP/Health Insurance Providers
If your annual income is between:
Couples fees for an hour session:
If your joint annual income is between (no proof required):
I became interested in Counselling and Psychotherapy when I decided to enter therapy many years ago due to my own experience of personal crisis and distress. That choice I made way back then and my experience of being a client opened up my awareness for the vast potential of counselling and psychotherapy as a way to help people. My experience of being a client undoubtedly influenced my decision to return to education which led eventually to my training in counselling psychology. And I have continued to be in individual therapy because it is so helpful in my professional and personal life. I have a background in playing competitive games and am interested in self expression through art.
Some reasons to choose to be in private psychotherapy or counselling:
1) You choose (whenever possible) the time that is most convenient for you to attend sessions.
2) You decide how often (for example weekly, fortnightly, monthly) and how many sessions you would like.
3) You decide whom you want to be your therapist.
What can Therapy help you with?
My Published academic papers:
Ethics as First Philosophy and its Implications for Psychotherapists and Counsellors.
Journal for Existential Analysis, (19.1) January 2008.
What makes me separate from you? Journal for Existential Analysis, (21.1) January 2010.
If you would like a copy of these papers please let me know.
My videos on YouTube:
How I cured my IBS by practising Stand still be fit/Standing like a tree.
Stand still be fit/standing like a tree: how it has helped me cure my IBS and develop mindfulness.
How I engage with my experiences of Fight or Flight