What is Anger and Anger Management
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: David Woolfson - Anger Management Specialist and Psychotherapist
24th September, 2010
Anger is a feeling. Anger Management involves managing the behaviour which is driven by the feeling and understanding where the feeling comes from. All in all the question is "how can I be a little different in this world, be who I am in a different way?"
This is true for individuals, couples, children and families.
Humans routinely feel anger, sadness, hurt, happiness and fear. This capacity gives us our humanity yet many of us think that anger is a “bad” thing. We are ashamed and beat ourselves up for feeling angry. The real problem is not feeling anger but what we do with it through our behaviour and self criticism. Identifying this simple truth can be a huge relief. Behaviour – however habitual - can best be changed by understanding the feelings and perceptions that drive it.
Anger is therefore an opportunity, it tells us something is wrong. This something may be real or imagined. Through looking at our anger we can become aware of how we create our own lives and look at how we can be different in the world.
Anger and angry behaviour are habit-forming. Anger Management involves “retraining the brain”, breaking old habits and changing the way we look at the world. This work can be revelatory and life-transforming. You will be better able to deal with domestic trauma, to understand why relationships and families may be breaking down and develop strategies to save them. You will find that you have the power to transform the way you live your life - your attitudes and behaviour - and to make new choices. After a period of working on your anger you will develop skills, understandings and a new awareness that will help you to manage your feelings of anger, hurt, and sadness. You will learn how to modify your behaviour and reduce your feelings of stress and conflict. You will begin to transform your life and your relationship with yourself and other people..
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