The Truth and Nothing But the Truth!

Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Anita Jackson

9th July, 2007

What is your truth? Do you love yourself enough? If you’re not sure, you will find this useful…

In our relationships we must have balance eg having fun, laughing, playing, exercising and eating healthily. This really honours ourselves within the relationship. The truth is, we must love ourselves first before we can truly love, care or support our loved one. To have a good relationship and make love work, we must be good role models, lead by example and be who we truly are.

For me, part of being who I truly am in a relationship is about truth. Now there are two sides to this: being truthful and being true to myself. Being truthful is really knowing deep down what my truth is and being true to myself is knowing what and who I am, what my beliefs and values are and what I want to be, do and have in my life. For me, this means acting and speaking from my heart. Just try it, speak as if your heart is doing the thinking and speaking.

As we speak from our hearts, we connect with our higher unconscious and the universal unconscious. We also connect more lovingly with our loved one. For me, this seems to bring a sort of peaceful knowledge that I am right for me and there is no struggle or confusion about getting it right or wrong for my loved one; I just know the message or what I am doing is right for me in that moment. This could evolve and change.

It is really important in relationships to make “I” statements and this enables us to be who we truly are. By making “I” statements, we take responsibility for who we are, how we feel at any given time and no blame is attributed to our loved one.

Fear can keep us stuck and unable to move forward in our relationship. We may be scared to say how we truly feel, what we want to do and/or what we want to have. Notice this and stay focused on what you want to say, do or have. It is important not to focus on the fear. I have found it useful to practise saying what I want to say out loud and in front of a mirror. I have also found it useful to have an image of the person ie my loved one, and say what I want to say, step into them as if an actor stepping into a role on stage…really feeling, standing, speaking and acting as they do…and get some feedback from the image person. If necessary, I adjust what I am saying and try again.

To practise saying or doing something that would be more true to me, I hold an image of myself on the cinema screen of my mind and see myself saying or doing what I want. Before practising saying or doing something, I might think of someone in a film or play that I have seen doing or saying something similar. Or, I might think of someone I know, like a friend, who has successfully said or done what I want to say or do. I then act as if I am them in my imagination. I move my body how they do. By doing this, it will give you a completely new way of being and acting with your loved one. You then have the choice…to stay with your current way of being and doing or to actively choose the new way.

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Anita Jackson, speaker, counsellor/psychotherapist and healer, is the Author of Rekindle The Magic In Your Relationship! Making Love Work and has been featured in The Times of London, interviewed on BBC Radio, Sky TV and other media.

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