Pregnancy - Stressful Expectations, Jan 2009
Mums in Control Magazine, New Year Issue 2009
Becoming a mother creates a whole range of expectations, whether spoken or not:
• Like, immediately snapping back into the jeans you wore before.
• Turning into some kind of earth mother who buys organic and makes your baby’s every mouthful of food.
• Being up for sex when your partner is.
• Not missing work or the colleagues you spent years with.
Well, in the real world things don’t always work out that way.
If you feel that you are just managing to keep your head above water, minor frustrations are escalating and you feel trapped and lonely this can lead to resentment towards your new baby. Unfortunately baby picks up on these emotions and reacts with fear (crying), which leads to you experiencing greater stress and the cycle continues.
Should these feelings find you feeling low and tearful, struggling to sleep, reduced or lack of appetite and panic attacks then it is possible you are suffering from post-natal depression. Talk to your midwife, or doctor, they can help you through this.
Ask yourself how much of the expectation you feel is yours, where are these expectations coming from? You’re not a pop star or actress whose body needs to hide the signs of motherhood almost immediately it has happened; you can enjoy this time and be thankful you haven’t got to achieve the body of a pre-pubescent girl.
Your body has gone through a massive change and it will take as long as it takes to get back to where you are happy, try not to be too hard on yourself, put your feet up whenever you can and look after yourself, you are no longer expecting – you are experiencing motherhood and nobody said that was going to be easy.
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