How do I parent my children?
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Barbara Allen BA(Hons), Psychotherapist MBACP - Life Coach
5th October, 20150 Comments
Parenting is one of the most difficult jobs that you can do. Here are some tips to raise responsible , happy children:
Children thrive from being shown affection such as telling them that you love them, lots of hugs and positive appraisals. Apologise when you make a mistake, avoid criticising, nagging and shouting and allow them to make mistakes.
Boundaries are very important to children it makes them feel safe. They need to know where they stand and what the rules are.
Be supportive of your child's hobbies, dreams and help them with their homework.
Be an example
You don't have to be perfect, but if you make a promise to them try and keep to your word. Unless you have a valid reason to default, keeping your word allows children to gain trust in you.
Allow them to be independent when necessary - give them chores and responsibilities as it can help them to develop responsibility and pride.
Look after yourself
Most importantly, take time out for yourself to do something you enjoy, it enhances your relationship with your children.
Past experiences may influence the way you parent. If you have experienced trauma in your childhood you may like to seek counselling to ensure you do not risk repeating the same patterns.
About the author
My name is Barbara Allen I am a qualified registered psychotherapist/counselor BACP for 12 years. I have experience of counselling clients who have experienced difficulties with: stress, relationships, panic attacks, anxiety, bereavement, redundancy, depression and addiction.
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