Find the Missing Piece
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Jane E. Dudley UKCP Registered Pyschotherapist.
28th October, 20130 Comments
Human beings are like seeds. In winter they wait for the ideal conditions to grow. Eventually the sun’s warmth along with the rain and goodness in the soil help this one tiny speck to become what it is meant to be. If the environment doesn’t give the seed what it needs to flourish its life will be limited or, worse still, the seed will wither and die.
Imagine our children as tiny seeds waiting to emerge and flourish into all they can be. Like seeds, they require all manner of care inside and out. They need activity and stillness, safety and risk. They need to be encouraged to think and feel, to do and to just be. Each child has a huge array of different needs.
Many children will have started school for this first time this term whilst teenagers at the other end of the scale are bracing themselves for potentially life changing exams. We live in a society where the emphasis on succeeding academically weighs heavy.
We want our children to communicate well and function happily but not all of them thrive in this pressurised academic environment. Too much emphasis on one aspect means they could be missing out on all that’s in the garden. For life to thrive all of nature has to be involved. We all need balance in our lives.
Many of our young people today are finding the adult world increasingly frightening. They feel stressed, under pressure to succeed, and hurried through their early lives. They are constantly being measured, regulated and assessed for the world of work. Such pressure can lead to collapse, addiction and disaffection, especially if they feel they have failed and cannot find where they belong. All humans need balance. Every shade of existence must be seen, valued and nurtured. Children, like all of us, need music, theatre, art, sport, philosophy - play as well as study - all the colours of the rainbow to make us whole.
Children of course grow into adults and adults, especially from middle age, often turn to therapy to find the missing piece.
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