5th February, 2009
Eating disorders involve a disturbed relationship with food, through which a psychological conflict is expressed. This conflict involves regressed needs for love and nurture, which seem to threaten a need for independence and self sufficiency, which in turn seek to suppress and deny those regressed needs. Anorexia, bulimia, and compulsive eating, occupy different positions between the extremes of this conflict. Anorexia perpetrates a vicious attack on any sense of dependence and need, and denies that there is anything that needs to be nourished within. Compulsive eaters, at the other extreme, are overwhelmed by the feeling of an emotional hole within themselves. The food that they stuff themselves with is an attempt to fill that hole with a substitute for the love and nurture that they felt deprived of at an early age. Bulimics are constantly torn between the two extremes, and on giving way to a binge, the food in their stomach is effectively ‘poisoned’ by their own self hatred. On purging there is a sense of relief and a swing towards the anorexic side of the equation in which they can feel virtuous for rejecting nourishment.
In reality a person may occupy different positions on the eating disorders spectrum at different times in their life.
The origin of the eating disorder can generally be traced back to problems in early attachment during the first few months of life. Subsequent relationship pressures, particularly in early adolescence, can lead to a sense that their true nature is unacceptable and unlovable, and that this needs to be replaced with a manufactured personality which fits with the expectations of others.
A counsellor explores how the eating disorder is expressed in the therapeutic relationship, and what is involved in allowing the authentic personality, which has been suppressed, hated, and somatised, to be expressed. Dreams, painting, and symbolic expression can be a valuable tool in facilitating the natural healing capacity of the psyche in this regard.
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