Depression - Self Help Tips
The following self-help tips can be used for tackling depression yourself.
Try not to withdraw from family and friends. It may help to explain how difficult it is to be cheerful, and to let them just be with you, however you are. Sometimes people can be afraid that their feelings of sadness or despair will be too difficult for anyone else to hear. If you don’t feel there is anyone that you can talk with about your feelings, it may be time to seek professional help.
Challenge the belief that friends won’t want to be with you if you’re not entertaining. “Some of the best moments of connecting with a friend have been when I’ve been able to be honest about how awful I feel. It is great to feel someone else can understand that, without pretending everything is OK, without feeling I have to be cheerful, or entertain.”
“What’s the point of talking about it, it can’t change anything.” True. To an extent. Talking may not solve any of the very real difficult life situations you are faced with. However sharing your feelings with someone you trust can be an enormous relief.
Don’t run away from your feelings. “I was afraid if I let myself feel the sadness that I could sense under the surface, I would become really depressed and not be able to find my way out. I’d be giving in to something that would take over, I would lose the coping side of myself”. This is a common fear. However it is a bit of a trick to believe that issues and feelings we’ve pushed to the back of our mind aren’t affecting our health and relationships now in some way, and won’t re-emerge in the future. These feelings are still there waiting to be dealt with. It can be painful to face your hurt, disappointment, or anger. But unfortunately there is no shortcut. It may hurt to deal with these underlying issues, but it may also be a huge relief.
Look after your Physical Health: When you are depressed everything can feel like a huge effort: exercise, eating healthily, bothering with getting dressed, contacting friends. However these activities will improve your mood, in themselves. Also you’ll feel better that you’ve taken the initiative and done something for yourself. This is empowering and gives a sense of being in control and helping yourself.
Give yourself a break. Be kind to yourself. Notice your ‘self-talk’ -the inner voice, the way you talk to yourself..
Now is not the time to be making decisions. Give yourself permission to leave such decisions until you feel better.
Develop a sense of optimism: Harvard Medical School research found that that friends, laughter, and optimism reduce stress levels and heart disease.
Sometimes concentration is poor: “at work I’m either crying in the toilets or staring at the same piece of paper for hours” Maybe this is a message to yourself that you cannot carry on carrying on and you need to seek help. If you are someone who is usually the one people turn to, it may be hard to let others see your needs and vulnerability. It may be difficult to put yourself and your health first. If you feel worried about letting people down and that it is selfish to put yourself first maybe you need to “reframe” this and remind yourself that you need to put yourself first in order to get better. It’s not helping anybody to be at work but unable to concentrate.
Getting a pet: animals are known to have a positive effect on mental health. This seems to come down to a number of effects – having responsibility, getting up in the morning, getting exercise, and the soothing effect of physical contact. Dogs are number one for therapeutic effect. Their love is unconditional and they are excellent listeners.
Try natural and complementary therapies: A number of alternative therapies can be helpful including massage, yoga, and Tai chi “it helps keep my mind at rest and alleviates the mental anxiety which leads to depression”
Know yourself: recognise the warning signs of depression and your particular triggers and act before the symptoms become overwhelming.
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About Teresa Mulvena
I have 16 years experience as a counsellor and psychotherapist. I specialise in relationship issues, and have been an accredited mediator for 9 years. It is common to feel hesitant about coming to therapy. An initial counselling session to assess if this is right for you is helpful for this.I believe the role of a therapist is to collaborate and think with you about your present problems and how t… Read more
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