Anger management - letting it go
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Rachel Shattock Dawson BA (Hons), MA, Registered MBACP.
7th June, 20120 Comments
It is not a good idea to continually suppress negative feelings like anger, as this will lead to other problems, such as depression or high blood pressure (there is an old therapy saying that depression is anger turned inwards). Instead, think of your emotions as like a shaken up cola bottle. Rather than opening the bottle at once, let the pressure go in small spurts, a little at a time, until it has all been let out safely. So when its safe and practical to do so, release your anger in a controlled way. Here's how:
10 ways to release anger safely
1. share the story and all the details with a good friend
2. talk it through with your therapist or counsellor
3. go for a brisk walk or a run
4. work-out in the gym
5. thump a pillow
6. have a good shout in your (parked) car
7. write out your thoughts and feelings, or keep an anger diary
8. get the vac out and have a vigorous cleaning session
9. tear up a newspaper or pop some bubble wrap
10. read up on assertiveness and practise how to act assertively (not aggressively)
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