Addiction - asking the right question can really help you
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Paul Lipman - MBACP. Accred reg. - Individuals, Couples & Family.
12th May, 20170 Comments
Firstly, my article doesn’t deny the existence of what would be explained as an “addictive” personality. What I do know is that very often the wrong question is being asked.
That question is: “Why am I taking this or doing that...?”
I believe a more helpful question is “What am I using this drug, obsession, type of behavior to avoid or defend against?”
As with so many difficulties, once the underlying cause is identified and cleared away, the “symptom” (in this case, the desire or craving) simply lifts away itself because the defense is no longer needed.
I have worked with those who drink, take drugs and overeat as three of a long list and in our work rarely has the focus been on the choice of addiction.
Sounds simple. Well, in theory, it is. Of course, the difficulty is that, very often, whatever is underneath can be painful or difficult to face and, for many, so ingrained that it takes time for them to become aware of the root.
If you’ve not thought about your addiction in this way, I hope this little piece of information was helpful for you.
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