5 simple steps to good mental health
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: J. Jessy Paston
15th January, 20180 Comments
The simple things work best, and this guide is here to help you have better mental health.
So, what are the steps?
1. Self compassion
At first, as most say, it means being your best friend, being in your own corner with kindness, gentleness and love. The first step is observing the way you talk to yourself. Observe what you are saying to yourself but without judgement. If you are being mean, don’t then beat yourself up for being mean to yourself. Take a step back, take a deep breath. Whenever you catch yourself being mean, bullying or unhelpful, simply use that kind, caring voice.
Journaling is great because you are doing something physical and because of that, it forces you to take time out of your day just to sit with yourself, talk to you yourself and before you know it, you start forming a relationship with yourself. You start to figure out what experiences are teaching you what, which people energise you and who drains you, you start to give yourself advice even and dare I say it – you start caring and loving yourself just that little bit more. This helps reinforce the self compassion as it is in written form.
Go on, give it a go. Buy yourself a lovely notebook and start writing in it.
We’re so busy, aren’t we? We don’t stop to appreciate, we don’t stop to realise how much we really have, we don’t slow down enough to SEE any of it, to FEEL any of it.
You can start by simply saying, “Thank you” to things, out loud or in your head. Gratitude is opening your heart to see and feel what is around and not join this modern world game of always rushing to the next thing.
If you want, you could also write in your journal, perhaps at the end of the day, things you are grateful for.
4. Ta-da list
All too often we look at what we haven’t done, don’t we? Perhaps at the end of the day, list all the things you have done and TA DA!!! Wow, look at how much you have done!
Focusing on achievements gives a sense of accomplishments, boosts self esteem and confidence and gives a feeling of calm that you are going in the right direction, things are getting done, you can slow down the pace and yes, it will all be OK.
Why don’t we play as adults? We seem to get into a rut of work, chores, passing out, work, chores, passing out (note I didn’t say sleep)...
Those adults who have hobbies they can dive into and time flies are happier because they are resting on so many levels. And no, it doesn’t have to be the gym, although exercise does help.
I’m talking about fun here, playing, letting your inner child out and taking the lead.
What does play mean to you?
About the author
I’m Jessy, a qualified BACP person-centred counsellor and coach, supporting clients with emotional and mental issues using talking and phototherapy through in person and online sessions.
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