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0203 286 44 82 or 0121 270 6168 or 01604 211 445 / 07833 143 724 for text messages

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West Midlands


0203 286 44 82 or 0121 270 6168 or 01604 211 445 / 07833 143 724 for text messages

About us

Domestic Violence and or abuse. We run courses / groups at weekends 9.00 a.m. to 6.00 p.m.  in North West London and in Birmingham for people who are violent and or aggressive and or abusive with a partner or former partner and who want help to change, or for people who have been abusive and need to address their behaviour. It takes 2 weekends to complete the work. The weekends are usually exactly 1 month apart.

In 1995/6 4.9% of domestic abuse was recognised as "by women". Now at least 19.7% of domestic violence is recognised as by women. Either the original statistics were a massive understatement or women's violence has increased by 400% in the intervening years!

Training, qualifications & experience

All counsellors have been RELATE trained and have been further trained by this organisation for 25 days. BAC or BASRT or similar membership and accreditation are required.

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* We have verified that at least one professional at this organisation is registered with the relevant professional body.

Other areas of counselling we deal with

We are focused almost entirely on Domestic Violence and abuse, sometimes this is popularly called anger management but our focus is very much more on regulating 8 basic emotions, emotional regulation..
About 90% of our clients are men.

The Duluth model in America has very largely failed with court mandated men to demonstrate any positive outcomes - "Partner Abuse" will give you the scientific data for the main reason that it fails. In the UK RESPECT is bent on proving that Duluth works, despite the outcomes of their flagship project in London who could only claim that 22 men had successful outcomes - from the 230 men that approached them!
In other words 208 men in that year very largely wasted their time!

The focus in this agenda needs to be the safety of children, not just the safety of women . Children are potentially at risk from both parents. Of course when people declare themselves to be victims of domestic violence they need to be believed and their claims need to be carefully explored. When children's safety is in question a healthy scepticism needs to be engaged and the focus needs to entirely the safety of the child, and not potentially compromised by a focus only on " the safety of women".

Therapies offered


The organisation is a charity. To remain sustainable our trustees have decided we need to charge for the service £30 - £35, towards the cost of an initial visit and £480 for a course. £240 must be paid prior to the allocation of a place, the balance may be paid over a longer periods of time. People on benefits are asked to pay 1/10th of those costs. Upon completion of the work we will provide a certificate of completion.

The courts and social services may commission the work. Charges are £120 for the initial meeting, £580 for the course work and £380 for a report. These figures reflect the additional work required.
To protect a client's finances and our reputation we will only write reports when they are commissioned by the authorities.

Further information

Work to stop or reduce violence in families.

Most cases of domestic violence are not about seeking to achieve power and control. A main focus on "power and control" addresses the problems of less than 20% of men.

Behaviour is driven by emotions. Emotions precede thoughts.

A "working model" of primary human emotions is linked into our website along with a great deal of material of a political nature which is openly critical of current policies, particularly those focused on separating couples willy-nilly.

The effectiveness of RESPECT's accredited projects has been very seriously undermined by a call by Dr Louise Dixon for the abandonment of the accreditation process because it is based on feminist ideology rather than scientifically sustainable evidence.  

The Centre for Social Justice concluded in a paper in 2012 that the Duluth based / styled intervention courses should all be closed and a complete re-start should be made.

The Mirabal project 2015 commissioned by RESPECT researched outcomes from 4 RESPECT accredited projects, no doubt running at least 7 projects. Presented in percentages in the executive summary the figures look quite encouraging. Read the main report, pages 8 and 9 and you'll see that those percentages are based on 36 men. The RESPECT accredited projects have still not learnt how to counter the criticism of the Joseph Rowntree sponsored research of DVIP in 1998. By contrast our two half projects completed work with 56 men and women last year.

The fact that CAFCASS, charged with the safety of children, and in the fce of so much contradictory evidence only recognises projects accredited by RESPECT is frankly amazing, and it is really a minor political scandal!

0203 286 44 82 or 0121 270 6168 is available. Emails can be sent to david@temper.me.uk or denise@temper.me.uk.

Maps & Directions

Birmingham, B8
Harrow, HA1

Type of session

Online counselling: Yes
Telephone counselling: Yes
Face to face counselling: Yes

Practical details

Sign language: No
Other languages: None


Our telephone numbers are generally available from 7 am - 10.00 pm daily except at weekends when a course is being run.

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