Sue Trevelyan, Couples Counsellor, MBACP (accredited)
Welcome to couple counselling. I am a trained and experienced counsellor and have worked for more than twenty years specialising in relationship work with couples and individuals who are experiencing difficulty. While there are many kinds of problem, each relationship is unique with its own character and needs. I will work with you to achieve your particular aims.
Many people have pressing concerns which cause a relationship or marriage stress and even depression. Our feelings and expectations may change over time, perhaps gradually or even quite suddenly. It is helpful to to talk to a trained counseller, who is there as an ally, to listen with an approach that is empathic and not judgmental. The process puts you more in control of your difficulties. You now have the opportunity to make your life and relationships a priority, and use your sessions as an empowering and often comforting strategy to find wellbeing. I will be there to help you find a useful focus, and more understanding of your particular concerns and clarity for the road ahead.
These last an hour and take place in a confidential setting in a community building. There is good access including for the disabled, and free parking or pay car parks nearby. Buses and trains are accessible within 10 minutes.
The number of sessions varies according to clients' wishes. Sometimes there is no 'quick fix', so more than one or two may be useful, sometimes this extends to 6 months or more. If you like you can plan a series of four to six sessions.
It is important to feel you are making the right choices so do please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or you would like to talk before deciding to arrange a meeting.
I will have my mobile to hand before your session so that we can meet easily. You may want to come alone or with a partner, be married or single, live locally or come from further afield. We will establish who wishes to come, the cost and your contact details, and I ask that we have a brief telephone conversation beforehand to verify these. All ages, ethnicity and sexual orientation are welcome.
During your session
Central all ways of progressing is to talk with you about what has prompted you to seek help, if a couple to give time and thought to each person to express your concerns. Conflicts and lack of communication may be an initial focus, there may be others too. Towards the end of a session we talk about strategies that may be useful for the week ahead.
All concerns are relevant, however small.
The sessions are very personal to you and each one is special. The process can be hard work, bring sadness, be of great interest, invariably needs commitment. Counselling is never dull, and can even be really good fun!
I am committed to the process of each client, and to a careful and empathic approach.
Your information and your sessions are confidential with the exception of any harm to yourselves or another person coming to light. This is normal practice for counsellors, is part of the ethical code of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) of which I am an accredited member and to which I am bound. My details are also on the BACP website. The organisation is a very well established and accredited body supporting the interests of the public and the standard of the counselling.
Reasons for seeking counselling
are very varied, and may include
- lack of communication
- work concerns
- loss of a previously happy relationship
- concern about the future
with accompanying anxiety, loneliness, ongoing arguments, worries about babies, grief, depression.
The list may seem daunting but of course not all these will apply to you. The important thing is that every concern is of importance and can be aired, and to remember that hope may be round the corner even in the most difficult and distressing times, because they feel more bearable and you can make choices and achieve longed-for goals. Sharing with your spouse or partner helps to make you a team.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a fully trained and experienced couples and relationship counsellor, and have worked continuously over 20 years to use different therapeutic approaches (including systemic, psychodynamic, TA, cognitive behavioural, and person centred). Throughout I have attended additional training days to extend and update my practice.
4 year diploma, London Marriage Guidance (awarded 1997)
4 years as salaried counsellor with London Marriage Guidance
9 years BACP accredited Relate licensed practitioner in Cumbria
4 years independent BACP accredited practitioner in Cheshire
The diploma training at LMG included training sessions with the Tavistock Institute for Human Relations, and I subsequently worked at the Tavistock for two years before moving to Cumbria and then Cheshire.
I have been an accredited counsellor with BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) since 2003; my accreditation is updated annually. The BACP website has full details.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
Other areas of counselling I deal with
These issues are frequently helped in counselling - the list gives some idea of the range of distress that may be of concern.
Breakdown of communication; marriage guidance; all issues that may arise at different stages of life in heterosexual, gay and lesbian marriage and relationships; intimacy and connection to sexual desire; deciding to commit; problems in first year of living together; having a baby; couples parenting young children; teenage children, children leaving home; difficulties in deciding not to have children, in not being able to conceive; in deciding to adopt; issues with grandparents; a 'problem' child; loneliness in a relationship; illness; feelings of needing to separate, difficulties in separating; mediation; post-separation tensions including access to children.
Handling ones own emotions, telling a partner about your emotions, what to do when being unsure what you or your partner feels, telling a partner you don't feel heard and/or understood.
Fears of being misunderstood, put down, disregarded, neglected; experiences of abuse and bullying in a relationship.
Fees are as follows:
£60 per hour's consultation with a couple.
£40 per hour's consultation with an individual person.
Please be assured that reduced rates are available, dependent on income. As with the number of sessions this is something that can be discussed at any time.
Commitment to the sessions arranged and the time set is important, even though it may sometimes be difficult to keep to arrangements.
Cancellation charges Generally the full fee is payable if less than 48 hours (excluding weekends) is given.There is no payment required for missed sessions if due notice is given.
I can offer help over the telephone - this is a pre-paid option for counselling of half an hour or more.
Professional I have benefited from a thorough, broad-based training and accreditation through professional counselling organisations which updated their training continuously to include a wide variety of couple relationship work, emphasising the agency and value of the individual within the couple.
Clients may be adult couples of all ages, ethnic background and sexual orientation, married, cohabiting or living separately, and single adults at any stage.
Remember that people can feel as if they are going crazy in a relationship that seems fine to the outside world. So don't be afraid to seek help.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays only 1-7pm; Contact by mobile, or email from this site. Please do leave a message if I am not available and I will get back to you on that day if possible.
Types of client