Sally Pavely MBACP Registered
Haven Day Centre
07815915194 / 07815915194
Welcome to my page. I offer affordable, effective & confidential counselling in Brixham and Newton Abbot.
With over 16 years experience as Head of Counselling in University, as well as counselling for young people in Primary & Secondary education, I have gained much experience working with a wide spectrum of clients presenting different issues.
Life can be stressful and most of the time we all manage but sometimes it gets too much and we all need a bit of support.Some people don't think that their issues are important or big enough for counselling, it is easier to think that things will be better next week, or ' I'll just get through this and things will change'
There are no problems too trivial or too big to bring to counselling! - If it is causes you concern or worry it is important!
These are some of the reasons why people come to counselling:-
- Anxiety - ( Understanding Anxiety.. please read below)
- Family/Relationship issues
- Feeling Anxious/agitated
- Low motivation
- Feeling sad
- Unable to relax
- Panic attacks
- Eating problems
- Self Harm
- Life feels out of control
- Sleeping problems
- Harassment & Bullying
Why come for counselling?
It can help you make sense of your thoughts, feelings & behaviour - allowing you to have more choices in life and make better life decisions.
As an integrated counsellor trained in Psychodynamic & Cognitive Behavioural Therapy with my roots always being Person Centred. My practise has evolved over the years learning different techniques and theories along the way. I'm committed to Continued Professional Development (CPD) in order to become more effective as there is no magic formula, we are all unique and the sessions are tailored to suit your needs.
I uphold the utmost respect to all my clients and their individuality and do not sit in judgement. I offer warmth & understanding in a caring & 'down to earth' manner whilst upholding the therapeutic relationship as key to facilitate change.
We all have busy lives, it can challenging juggling work/home life, so flexible appointments are offered during daytime and evenings throughout the week. Appointments usually take 60 minutes.
I believe that everyone who wants counselling should be able to access it so I also offer a sliding scale of charge so that my services are affordable and accessible to all.
As a registered member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy I work in accordance to the B.A.C.P. guidelines and adhere to their code of ethics.
If you are considering counselling and would like an informal meeting to discuss any queries or concerns you may have please get in contact.
Please contact me via email, Sallypavelycounsellingservices@gmail.com
or visit my website for further information. sallypavelycounsel.wixsite.com/sallypavely
I look forward to hearing from you.
Understanding Anxiety Please read on
Most of the above are symptoms of anxiety, this is a normal part of life. It affects us all in different ways, unlike stress (which is periodical and comes and goes with the causing factors i.e. financial worries, work problems etc) anxiety is persistent and the cause is not always obvious.
Suffering from anxiety can leave you feeling that things in life are worse than the reality. You might even feel like you are going mad, or loosing the plot. It is important to recognise that anxiety is normal and exists as a result of bodily functions that have existed in us from cave- man days which is designed to protect us from danger. When our alarm senses danger our body releases a boost of adrenalin which increases our heart rate and boosts the amount of oxygen going into our limbs preparing us to fight or run. This is known as Flight or Fight.
Symptoms of anxiety
People often experience physical, psychological and behavioural symptoms when they feel anxious or stressed.
Some of the most common physical symptoms of anxiety are:
- Increased heart rate
- Increased muscle tension
- “Jelly legs”
- Tingling in the hands and feet
- Hyperventilation (over breathing)
- Difficulty in breathing
- Wanting to use the toilet more often
- Feeling sick
- Tight band across the chest area
- Tension headaches
- Hot flushes
- Increased perspiration
- Dry mouth
- Choking sensations
Some of the most common psychological symptoms (the thoughts or altered perceptions we have) of anxiety are:
- Thinking that you may lose control and/or go “mad”
- Thinking that you might die
- Thinking that you may have a heart attack/be sick/faint/have a brain tumour
- Feeling that people are looking at you and observing your anxiety
- Feeling as though things are speeding up/slowing down
- Feeling detached from your environment and the people in it
- Feeling like wanting to run away/escape from the situation
- Feeling on edge and alert to everything around you
The most common behavioural symptom (the things we do when we are anxious) is avoidance. Although avoiding an anxiety provoking situation produces immediate relief from the anxiety, it is only a short term solution. This means that whilst it may seem like avoiding is the best thing to do at the time, the anxiety often returns the next time that you face the situation and avoiding it will only psychologically reinforce the message that there is danger. The problem with avoidance is that you never get to find out whether your fear about the situation and what would happen is actually true.
Some people have a very identifiable cause for their anxiety; a traumatic incident, lots of stressors or have undergone a significant life event (moving house, getting divorced, having surgery). However, some people don’t have an identifiable cause for their anxiety and it causes them some distress. One way of thinking about your anxiety is to imagine your stress levels as being like a bucket of water. If we keep adding stressors to the bucket (even tiny ones like the school run or commuting to work), over time it fills up until one day it overflows. This can be a good way of looking at anxiety as it explains why sometimes it can seem to come out of the blue with no significant trigger. However, what has happened is that the trigger was just a very small stressor that tipped us over the edge and allowed our bucket to overflow. What we need is a leaky bucket with lots of holes in to reduce your overall stress levels. Counselling can help.
Training, qualifications & experience
- Postgraduate Diploma - Chester University
- Diploma Creative Cognitive Behavioural Therapy- Dartmoor Centre for Counselling & Psychotherapies
- Working with Children & Young people withTracey Walsaw Person Centred Services
- European Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling Walsaw & North Shropshire College
Working in a HE & FE organisations I've gained great understanding into issues facing young adults. Mental health issues, unhealthy coping strategies, financial issues, meeting deadlines, stress and understanding self harm, bereavement and learning life can be too challenging at times. I worked hard challenging bullying and harassment in the workplace and with LGBGTQ community and campaigned for equality and diversity on many levels.
Having joined the Mentoring & Befriending training courses and set up peer mentoring and befriending when suitable, training sessions also attended Stress at Work workshops, Issues facing men, Suicidal Prevention & Awareness conference, Terence Higgins Trust Aids and HIV issues, Nuero Linguistic Programming
I am keen on using creative visualisations and mindfulness and always work in a creative manner.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Internet addiction
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship issues
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Schizotypal personality disorder
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Tourette's syndrome
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I offer workplace training,
- Anger Management and Awareness
- Understanding Self Harm
- Basic Listening Skills
- Mentoring & Befriending
- Equality & Diversity in the workplace
- Understanding Stress at work
If you are interested in any of the above please contact me for further information.
Sessions are £35 payable at the beginning of each session.
I believe that counselling should be available to all so am happy to offer some of my time at a reduced rate for those who are experiencing financial difficulty. Please contact me to discuss availability.
Reduced rates for Students.
I attend monthly meetings of the Westcountry Association of Counsellors and enjoy networking with other counsellors.
Volunteer my services for the Dartmoor Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy on a Tuesday morning and also offer counselling for The Youth Enquiry Service at The Edge, Bolton Street, in Brixham every Tuesday afternoon between 2pm - 4pm where I run a 'Drop - in' counselling service for its members.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Appointments available weekdays and evenings at Torquay, NewtonAbbot or Brixham offices. Allow 1 hour for appointments. Parking is available nearby, offices are situated near main bus routes
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|