Paul Weeden

At times we all have to confront the parts of the human experience that we find challenging.

We may feel a combination of fear, dread, loss, regret, resentment, anger, guilt, and shame.

Everyone at times struggles with- confidence, anxiety, depression and lack of direction or focus.

Sometimes we may get stuck with any of these, and feel paralyzed by the fear of what to do next. Or we may be in denial or going round in circles.

I'm passionate about helping people to heal their past and find purpose and meaning in their personal & professional lives.

This begins with taking a look at your current circumstances and what brought you here. As well as exploring your past and how you feel about it now.

In my work I experience every individual as unique and special in their own way, my integrative counselling & embodiment coaching training reflects this.

The way we typically design a working agreement is by formally assessing your current situation, deciding together a focus of the work, which is often unresolved issues with yourself and possibly others in your life. Then once we decide to work through these issues so that we can process the unresolved emotions. we can then replace any unhelpful underlying beliefs and barriers with new more empowering ways of seeing things. We then have the opportunity to come to greater self-acceptance of who we are and what brought us here.

We can then focus our attention on what we do day to day and consider what activities are beneficial and which as not serving you.

Many people I've treated, like most of us at times feel a combination of; frustration, anxiety and depression about areas of their work and personal life. Many of us have underachieved potential that remains stuck in our cells as latent energy. It is likely your body is trying to communicate to you through your subconscious in some way, probably as a discomfort, like a sort of warning light trying to get your attention.

A lot of the clients I work with find that after addressing the emotional blockages from their past, and committing to pursuing interests and activities that give them meaning and purpose, they then start to feel a bit better. By that I mean they feel calmer more positive and more in control again.

Some of the ways we decide what might be good to try is by examining your physical and emotional patterns of behaviour in your daily life.

Your breathing patterns and posture, the way you talk and walk. And then within that, looking at how you go about your day. Most of us do this unconsciously at least half the time.

For example- we might consider your communication style and then look at the pros and cons of your approach.

Another example- we could look at whether you are someone who always makes plans that you keep or whether you are making choices more spontaneously. What might be the advantages and disadvantages of either approach?

Either way, we can practice making adjustments to bring you more balance and choice into our life.

Whatever we would like to develop more or less of, we can work on a plan and strategy that will involve trying new and interesting things that you can learn and grow through the experience.

Please send me an email or phone if you would like to discuss having a free online assessment for a one to one counselling or coaching session or workshop.

I have helped many people to develop their self aware, and to recognize their true potential.
I also offer embodiment coaching as well as  brief goal/solution focused therapy.
I have experience of working with survivors of childhood abuse,
and conditions such as bi-polar, ADHD & aspergers.
I've also worked in organizations as well as in private practice with children and young people.

£80 per one hour session at peak times in London
Concessions are sometimes available

£60-70 per one hour session in East/West Sussex
Lower cost sessions are available at certain times

Couples sessions are charged at £100 per 80 minute meeting
Lower cost may be available at times

Zoom online conference meetings- £60
Lower cost sessions are available at certain times

Short term contracts - Solution/Goal Focused Therapy ( SMART) - sometimes we encounter a dilemma in life that only requires an external point of reference for a brief intervention whilst we adjust to the change in feelings or behaviour.
Part of working this way involves experiencing feeling heard and understood, whilst implementing Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) tools to reality test the way we are viewing things.

Brief Psychotherapy & Counselling -

At times, perhaps for practical reasons, we are only be able to work so much on a specific issue, we may just need to feel a bit more able to cope rather than completely solve a problem, or there may be something we have not felt able to share or process that we may benefit from spending some time working through.

- Where achievable we might agree on around twelve 50 minute sessions.

Open-ended contracts -
Integrative psychoodynamic/humamistic therapy

Our primary experiences with our care givers shape the way we engage with the world for the rest of our lives. In an open ended contract we can explore how the past is influencing us in the present, through developing a relationship based on trust, consistency and empathy, whilst working at a pace with which you feel comfortable. During this process we can uncover unconscious drives and defense mechanisms that have become parts of our life script.

- Open ended contract work is usually most suitable for issues that have been with us for most of our lives.

- Where possible we will agree to between 6- 12 sessions  in our initial contract and review your progress as we go along.