Mike Clark - Individual, Couples and Relationship Counselling MBACP BA (Hons)
New Direction Solutions
Room 35, Royal Mail House
Counselling in central Southampton for individuals and couples struggling with personal issues and relationship difficulties.
Couples and Relationship Counselling
An experienced therapist specialising in couples counselling and relationship differences.
Relationships change over time. As they do this can lead to conflict, loss of trust and emotional/physical distance. The causes are many and varied from the impact of children, lack of fulfilment through to trauma and affairs.
The work is collaborative in nature and the first phase seeks to:
- Consider how your relationship first began; the individual strengths and attributes that first attracted and drew you to each other.
- Review what has changed and is happening or not happening now, including external impacts on the relationship
- What do you need and want from the relationship now, what are your unmet needs and wants. What do you want the future relationship to look like.
The next stage is to look at what changes are necessary for each individual to meet their unmet wants and needs and if they can be met within the relationship. This is difficult at times but is also enhancing and empowering.
I do not apportion blame, criticise or shame my clients. My approach is to understand, support and encourage positive change individually to enhance the relationship where possible.
Tools such as learning how to use 'positive conflict' through listening, acknowledgement and empathy coupled with 'finding your voice' are important tools to moving forwards without criticism or feeling diminished.
You can access ‘getting the most from couples counselling’ from my website at: http://newdirection.solutions/southampton-couples-counselling-getting-the-most-out-of-sessions/
Please note I do not work with couples where there is active psychological or physical abuse within the relationship. In this instance individual counselling should be sought in the first instance so that the abusive behaviour can be understood and stopped. Further information is available on my website.
For clients who are experiencing stress, anxiety, depression, a lack of direction in life or relationship difficulties.
Working with me will give you the time and space needed to explore and express those thoughts and feelings that lie behind what you are experiencing and to make better sense of them.
You will be able to reflect on your needs and hopes. It is common to experience being stuck between conflicting values and directions so lacking motivation. You may seek to move away from something that it limiting and yet fear the unknown. There is frequently a desperate desire for change and also a restraining fear of change.
Often there is an internal dialogue that is self-critical with judgemental and limiting thoughts. By prioritising yourself coupled with valuing and caring for yourself those distracting and thoughts and feelings can be challenged.
With greater awareness comes understanding which leads to choices and options. When decisions are then made this creates change that brings about more positive feelings, optimism and energy
It also enables recognition of those things that have past, changed or been lost to you, so you can reflect on and come to acceptance with the situation.
You can access how to ‘get the most from individual counselling’ from my website at: http://newdirection.solutions/getting-individual-counselling/
Walking through the door takes courage and is the first step in moving toward a better place.
I will treat you with respect and dignity whether an individual or a couple. Counselling is not about judging, criticising or telling you what to do. It is about supporting you through difficult times, bringing insight and hope, whilst encouraging positive change that empowers you.
I use Transactional Analysis to bring into awareness how you relate with your internal self and to others. This shows patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviours. When you recognise those ways of being that no longer meet your needs they can be revised so they do meet your needs.
I have a Person Centred approach which recognises that each individual knows at a fundamental level what is right for them and what they need so as to realise their potential.
My private practice provides a confidential, discreet and safe environment to work through whatever you need to. It is conveniently located in Royal Mail House with on and off road parking nearby. Please note it is located on the 2nd floor and does not have disabled access so is unsuitable with those with restricted mobility.
I can work with you open ended; short or long term depending on your needs. Initially I work weekly with clients, reviewing progress against your initial goals on a regular basis. As changes are experienced the frequency of sessions are typically reduced until the outcome is achieved and sessions are ended.
Please visit my website www.newdirection.solutions for more information and feel free to contact me with any questions you may have.
Training, qualifications & experience
B.A. (Hons) Humanistic Transactional Analysis Counselling
Certificate of Couples Counselling.
Training in: Anger, Rage and Relationship
Gambling and Alcohol addiction
Currently in training with Dr Bader of the Couples Institute
Organisations worked for
Options Counselling Service
Hampshire Carers Trust
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Carer support
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Personality disorders
- Postnatal depression
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Initial Assessment: Individuals £25,
Initial Assessment Couples £30
Individual Session: £40
Couples session: £50
Coaching session: £60
Payment by online BACS, cash or cheque made payable to Michael Clark.
Please note I do not take card payment.
Cancellations received within 48 hours of your scheduled session will be charged for at full fee.
For more information on my practice, about me and how I work please visit my website; www.newdirection.solutions
I also provide coaching for those individuals that want to make progress, achieve goals and realise their potential. For Counselling and therapy in Southampton please consider my services.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Sessions currently available: Saturday daytime , Monday 6.30pm, Thursday 12.30pm.
Types of client