I am a psychodynamic counsellor which means that I work with you to resolve current life difficulties by understanding their root causes in the past. Although we cannot change the past we can change the impact it has on the present by working through unresolved emotions and adjusting learned behaviours and automatic responses (repeating patterns).
If we could resolve our difficulties by willpower alone no-one would need to see a counsellor, but the fact is that much of what controls our present life is out of everyday awareness. The psychodynamic counselling process is about bringing this into awareness and dealing with it so that it no longer has such an influence on our lives.
Although it is a cliche to say that "it's all about my Mum" the fact is that our childhood relationships and experiences influence our neural programming from the moment we are born. We carry this programming through life until, as adults, we become aware of it and can then begin to take control. These repeating patterns can govern our relationships, unwanted habits and emotional reactions to situations. Sometimes traumatic emotional experiences, such as an early loss or sexual/physical abuse, can be at the root of symptoms such as anxiety, panic attacks and dissociation.
The psychodynamic process proceeds gradually, like an archaeological dig, uncovering the past, understanding its importance and, if necessary, working through unexpressed emotions in a safe environment. Psychodynamic counsellors see the process as a voyage of discovery that client and counsellor undertake jointly, with some profound and often difficult stages on the way.
Paradoxically as well as facilitating change an important part of the process is learning to accept who we are, as we are, and gain true self-respect, possibly acknowledging a more authentic self that has been too afraid to express itself in the world. This can release us to live a more fulfilled life coming from our core rather than being shaped by society or the expectations of others. This search for true meaning often comes later in life as we find out that the things that used to keep us focused and motivated no longer satisfy us (or perhaps they never did...).
My particular areas of interest include transgender issues (such as cross-dressing, gender dysphoria, confusion over gender identity, etc.), relationship difficulties (such as partner betrayal, inability to form relationships, isolation/loneliness, etc.) and the search for meaning (such as mid-life career change, spirituality, personal identity questions, etc.).
Sessions last for 50 minutes and are held weekly at the same time.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a qualified psychodynamic counsellor and registered member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy). I entered counselling following a successful career in business.
I have worked as a Samaritan for several years (and was chair of the local branch) and have worked in three counselling agencies.
Diploma in Psychodynamic Therapy (BACP Accredited) with Distinction
NLP/Hypnotherapy Master Practitioner
BSc/MSc Electrical Engineering
Redhill Counselling Centre
Sutton Counselling Centre
The Albany Trust
Areas of counselling I deal with
- £80 for assessment (total for 2 x 50 minutes sessions)
- £60 per 50 minute session
If you feel you may be interested in working with me as your counsellor please contact me for an initial informal chat and to book an assessment where we have a chance to explore more fully whether psychodynamic counselling with me would benefit you at this time.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
I currently have some availability on Monday and Wednesday during the day.
Types of client