Matilde Tomat - The Resting Tree - IB, Dip.Couns., MBACP

Matilde Tomat - The Resting Tree - IB, Dip.Couns., MBACP

Blackburn
Lancashire
BB2

07576 007363

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Blackburn
Lancashire
BB2

07576 007363

About me

*** Due to the increase in anxiety, depression and issues within the family and in relationships, please be advised that I will be providing my services even during the festivities. This will include the option of Telephone Counselling.***

Welcome to The Resting Tree Counselling & Healing Service

I don’t consider myself a counsellor or a therapist; I see myself more of a facilitator, a catalyst of change. My approach is definitely eclectic.”  Eclecticism is defined as “the practice of choosing doctrines from various or diverse systems of thought in the formation of a body of acceptable doctrine.” (Ray Woolfe).

There is a quote from a movie I watched lately which somehow summarises the basic concept behind any session: “You’re an emotional jigsaw, you need to piece yourself back together. Start with the corners; and look for the blue bits.” As a catalyst for your change, I “stay with you and your pain”, in a supporting role, while you put those blue bits back together.

Depending on the needs and situations, I might for example use skills from: a) Gestalt (‘unfinished business’ and the ‘here & now’ of the relationship between client and therapist and/or feelings – immediacy – in order to look behind the story and explore what is producing a certain behaviour, such as past conflicts and traumas); b) TA in order to explore/explain relationship issues where especially co-dependency is shown (the Dreaded Drama Triangle); and c) from a Spiritual perspective, having been trained as a chaplain.

I might also suggest trying new forms of expressions (writing, scrapbooking, catharsis exercises and possibly behaviouristic phenomenology); I try to tune in and mirror body language, verbal language and behaviour during the sessions and pay attention and reflect back to changes in body expression and attitude; I might also mirror and exaggerate feelings, emotions, and behaviours. I do believe in taking theory into the room at times and if appropriate: I strongly believe into treating you as an equal and hence showing intellectual respect.

At the same time, I particularly like to work with Archetypes, attuning to my personal Chirotic and Hermetic energies, which I consider my own gateway to compassion and healing, in order to assist you in finding your true and individual purpose and to provide you with a safe space for you to strengthen your sense of inner balance. I like to explore the various depths of the subconscious and universal mind, using at times even tools such as images or Tarot Arcana to ease imagery, insights and inner clarity. It is not the image itself which is important, but the reaction we have to same. There, it’s where the authentic exploration really begins. Of course, when working with imagery, there is no prediction, fortune telling or clairvoyance since you, as a client, have already all the answers within you; what you need is just that time and safe space to explore possibilities, options and potentials. And the roots of your pain. Images are just a different form of language using a diverse set of symbols, keywords; and representing archetypes, correspondences, correlative thoughts which might assist us into seeing our life as a Fool’s Journey. Using images during the sessions provides hence a map, without mistaking that said map for the terrain (our free mind).

As a (trained) chaplain, I am not scared in bringing spirituality into the sessions if issues of trust, hope and faith in the future might show an indication that exploring beliefs could be of help; and this is not limited to any form of organised religion; but on a purely spiritual level. Should I have to define my approach with just one word, as a practising Nichiren Buddhist, I would use the word Kyo (literally vibration, voice, sutra) but which encompasses the Oneness of the Mind (Therapy), Oneness of the Body (Action) and Oneness of the Environment (Relations, starting for the one-to-one relationship between therapist and client, which is assessed and explored as a possible mirror of external relationships and needs). The word Kyo also includes both the latent and manifested expressions of the Self, which are the basis of therapy. In my work with clients in addiction, as in my personal journey of discovery as a Wounded Healer, I have noticed the need for meaning and purpose, and to make sense of the Why behind Life; I have observed the absolute fear in making choices and how frightening the whole concept of freedom can be; how difficult it is to start taking responsibilities; how crippling self-doubting our capacities of discerning right from wrong is; how necessary it is to learn from experiencing, and how learning is always connected to relationships. This is somehow existentialism in a nutshell: in this sense I strive to see you as ‘flesh and bone’ and not just ‘mind’; always as freely choosing beings, as subjects and not objects, as an indivisible whole which does not belong to me.

In order to achieve this, I promise you I will be congruent, authentic, at times challenging (I know…) but still genuine; and at all times within the boundaries of my profession, because it is within those well-defined boundaries that your healing towards a self-reliant, autonomous, and self-actualised beautiful You, can take place.

As a member of the BACP I do abide by and deeply believe in its Ethical Framework in working with you, for your own wellness, at your pace, and within those well-defined boundaries, creating a safe island where healing can take place. I am fully insured, supervised (both on a one-to-one basis and also within a group supervision), I am E – CRB checked, and I do respect my own Continuing Professional Development.


Feedback:

  • Matilde’s workshop series is inspirational and has enabled me to gain a deeper, more comprehensive and probing insight into my history of addiction, but more importantly a greater clarity around my choices for a healthier, self-actualising future life pathway.
  • Matilde possesses a special gift, a razor sharp empathic awareness of our individual struggles, an emotional intuition, a particular form of sensitivity and insight into the depths of human vulnerability.
  • Dear Matilde, thank you so much for your time and effort over the last seven weeks. I’ve really enjoyed working with you and I have learned so much about life but most of all I’ve learned about myself.

Working with / towards: Please, see below.

Training, qualifications & experience

  • Introduction to Family Therapy (ongoing training)
  • L4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling – CPCAB
  • L3 Certificate in Counselling Studies – CPCAB
  • L2 Certificate in Counselling Skills – CPCAB
  • Grade 1 – Nichiren Buddhism
  • RRR – Recovery Coach
  • Celebrate Recovery Leaders Training (with John Baker)
  • 12 Steps : Christian, Buddhist, Zen, Mindfulness
  • Perfect Daughters – Adult Daughters of Alcoholics
  • MindMapping for Happiness
  • Branding & Lovemarks : a new you
  • Art Therapy, Journalling, Scrapbooking
  • Quality Decision Making
  • Therapeutic Journalling
  • Public Speaking
  • Chaplaincy – course sponsored by the Buddhist Healthcare Chaplaincy Group including hospital placement hours
  • In-house L1 – Eating Disorders
  • In-house L2 – Eating Disorders
  • Book: "The Men at My White Table, a Collection", available on Amazon Kindle, celebrates 20 years of a creative life and explores pain and personal awareness in 5 short stories, photographic images and poetry

Member organisations

BACP

Accredited register membership

Other areas of counselling I deal with

I have noticed during my experience that I tend to be found by clients who need to:

  • become more energetic
  • work on that deep rooted sense of loneliness, sadness, anguish and heartache, emotional pain and weight they are carrying around within them
  • let go of emotional pain (especially within families where there is/was addiction)
  • release addiction, including smoking
  • work towards a personalised Wellness Recovery Action Plan (WRAP)
  • explore and manage anger
  • heal the past / childhood trauma (including physical and sexual violence)
  • heal sexual abuse (including incest) and violence (including traumatic/criminal death) in childhood
  • heal a relationship (birth family, marriage, work)
  • understand the difference between temporal and everlasting happiness
  • explore and work with the inner child
  • go through a divorce or break-up
  • connect to a higher purpose / meaning / significance
  • ease grieve / bereavement / discuss and explore the significance of Death
  • facilitate one’s own passing
  • feel more in touch with the Divine / sense of divine
  • practice mindfulness and awareness
  • understand / cope / live with anxiety and panic attacks
  • assistance while going through a phase of emotional (fertile) emptiness, transitions, menopause, crisis (spiritual and not)
  • explore in various ways Erikson’s stages of psycho-social development


I have also noticed that particularly lately most of my clients come to me with questions regarding:

  • personal morality vs professional ethics
  • meaning / value / purpose of life
  • sense of fulfillment
  • inconsistency of belief system
  • practical vs theoretical congruency

Photos & videos

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Fees

Fees per 50 therapeutic minutes (fees as Sept 2016)

£30 adults – first session: £20 which includes free initial consultation

Adults: 1 free session when pre-booking a series of 10 (total of £260)

£20 students with proof of attendance for the course (max 10 hours)

Archetypes and Tarot tester : £15 for 20 minutes

Telephone Counselling : £30 per session to be pain online in advance

[fees will be changing as Monday 15th of January]

Further information

I do work with adults and on a one-to-one basis, from home:

  • I see clients only if they have previously pre-booked the session with me; please, be mindful of the time which is dedicated only to you and arranged in a way to protect both your privacy, other clients, and my family members;
  • I will not tolerate any form of verbal and / or physical abuse and / or aggressive behaviour in any shape, form or measure. You cannot, under any circumstances, attend sessions while under the influence of drugs or alcohol. You will not be able to access the premises if under the influence of any substance, including heavy medication;
  • My fundamental values follow BACP’s ones. These are defined to protect both of us, in our therapeutic relationship, and also my own premises:

a. Respecting human rights and dignity;
b. Alleviating symptoms of personal distress and suffering;
c. Enhancing people's well-being and capabilities;
d. Improving the quality of relationships between people;
e. Protecting the safety of clients;
f. Ensuring the integrity of practitioner-client relationships;

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For anyone who is interested, I do offer outdoor counselling and hence assisting you in exploring your story and pain while immerse in nature (fees to be agreed depending on location); and walk&talk experience, especially when coupled with mindfulness breathing and walking, mostly along the Leeds/Liverpool Canal.

At home, I do mostly share my space with Virginia, a cat. She won't be participating to the sessions, but please bear this in mind if you are allergic.

Should I not be able to answer the phone, please do leave a message or send a text and I will contact you as soon as possible. I will then send you via email directions and contract.

I am available to be booked for week-end workshops or group work.

For any information or to book a session, please call 07576 007363 or send an email to info@therestingtreelancs.com

Maps & Directions

Blackburn, BB2

Type of session

Online counselling: No
Telephone counselling: Yes
Face to face counselling: Yes

Practical details

Sign language: No
Other languages: Italian

Availability

Mon - Fri --- 10am - 8pm

Types of client

Adults
Older adults
Couples
Groups
Organisations