Marla Prudom MBACP, Couples and Individual Counsellor and Supervisor
I trained as a counsellor twenty five years ago since that time I have developed and honed my counselling and supervisory skills in many different settings, latterly as a Head of counselling of a charity. Previously my work has included working in a children's hospice, hostels, bereavement services and mental health centres. I also ran a private practice in Brighton for many years.
Working with individuals
The service I offer is weekly one to one counselling which is largely psychodynamic, and takes place in my consultation room. I aim to establish a relationship of trust and empathy with you, this will take time, we are after all two strangers meeting. During this process your patterns of relating will be illuminated, we will explore whether the ways in which you relate, and act particularly when under stress are relevant and helpful to you today. We will delve into where, why and how the origins of certain behaviours came into being. Together we will work through and process some of the fears, anxieties and sad feelings that you have brought into counselling. Through counselling you can reach a better understanding of your motivations, explore options, and discover a more authentic and integrated way of being you.
Working with Couples
I am familiar and experienced in couples work. The way in which I work with couples is to focus less on the two individuals and more on the relationship that has been developed between the two. I am interested in exploring how the relationship came into being which will also take into account the early attachment history of each person and its impact upon the couple, in other words what "emotional baggage" from the past is brought into the relationship. Together and over time we will look at how, and what each person has to do and be in order to get their needs met and what happens when needs are not met. Couples come into counselling because they have run into problems and the relationship is suffering. This may be expressed in all manner of ways usually through conflict, anger, witholding, distress, anxiety and stress. The process of opening up, being vulnerable and honest towards one another can be hugely painful and threatening and people may fall back into familiar ways of protecting themselves by attacking,blaming, getting angry and emotional or simply cutting off and not engaging and denying the existence of problems. However, it is possible through committment and trust in one another and the process of talking and feeling that ruptures and pain in the couple relationship can be healed. Part of the work will entail looking at the strengths and resilience of the couple. Often in the midst of conflict and distress it can be difficult to retain the sense of the good "stuff" that exists and is shared between the couple. Counselling provides a space where the origins of the difficulties can be talked about and processed and an understanding and resolution reached.
My thoughts on Counselling.
Whilst I believe in the power of counselling it's not for everyone, there is no magic cure, quick fix or guarantees. It is not a decision to be taken lightly. It requires commitment, time, energy, patience, and financial investment. However, for those who are not familiar with counselling and would like to discuss it further please call me and we can talk about it. For those who venture forth the results can be hugely rewarding, immeasurable and life affirming.
On a personal note I have undergone my own therapy over a long period. As an experience it was initially tough, bewildering and very anxiety making, principally because I fought the therapy and therapist. My head told me that I could benefit and gain from the process if only I would engage with it whilst my heart fought against being so vulnerable and exposed. Fortunately my therapist encouraged me to talk about my fears and anxieties and I turned a corner. Over the course of time I learned so much about myself, the knowledge was hard won. Today I am comfortable in my skin and my relationships are much more honest. I don't have all the answers to solving the dilemmas and adversity which come my way but I have learned to ask myself certain questions to help me think through and process stuff and that in turn helps me achieve a clearer perspective and balance in life. I don't always get it right but I am open to learning which is what therapy is about.
Training, qualifications & experience
Diploma Attachment, Psychoanalysis and the Couple Relationship. Tavistock Centre for Couple Relations. London.
Certificate Graduate Certificate in Systemic Practice. (Families and Couples). Institute of Family Therapy. Birkbeck. London
Certificate Certificate in Supervision Skills. Institute of Group Analysis. North London
Certificate Pre/post Adoption counselling. Post Adoption Centre. London
Certificate Introduction to Group Analysis. Brighton University
Diploma Counselling and Supervision. Sussex School of Counselling
Certificate Theory of Psychodynamic Counselling. Lincoln Institute. London
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Child related issues
- Dependent personality disorder
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I have worked for several years as a Bereavement counsellor and I have a particular interest in the area of loss of all kinds and in grief work. This can range from life events leading to feelings of humiliation,shame, and concomitant feelings of anger, anxiety and depression; to issues of loss of identity and purpose arising from retirement, redundancy, empty nest syndrome, infertility,and so forth to an actual bereavement from miscarriage, terminal illness to violent and sudden death.
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The first session and what to expect
If you are interested in making an appointment please contact me on my mobile number 07780-707122 for a no obligation consultation. I apologise in advance if you get my answer machine please leave a message and I will return your call as soon as possible. We can then arrange an appointment for a time that is mutually convenient and I will endeavour to accommodate your schedule.
When we meet we will discuss what brings you into counselling and I can explain how I work. There will also be some practical and ethical matters that I will need to bring to your attention, such as the parameters of what I can and can't offer, issues of confidentiality and my responsibilty to you as a counselling practitioner.
The initial consultation usually lasts up to an hour and the fee is £45 for an individual and £55 for a couple.
If we decide we wish to work together the fee is £45/55 and sessions last 50 minutes. All fees are payable at the end of each session and if you wish you can pay by on-line banking.
A note on cancellations.
If you cancel at short notice (less than 24hours) I will always try and reschedule an appointment for the same week however, if it is not possible I will still charge my fee. When we make an appointment to meet I hold that space for you and you only and I am committed to the work I do with you.
If you decide you would like to proceed with counselling I would ask you to commit yourself to at least six sessions. This gives us time to get to know one another and the consistency of sessions allows for a more coherent presentation of the difficulties and issues you would like to work on.
If for one reason or another you decide not to go ahead with counselling and that is fine I would hope we would be able to talk about your reservations. If you wish I can also signpost you to another person or service more suitable to your requirements
Counselling takes place at the same time, same place each week. I have a pleasant and private consultation room which I share with another psychotherapist. There is limited disabled access to the consultation room, please contact me if I can be of help. There is street parking and I can offer both day time and evening appointments Monday to Thursday.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Monday to Thursday, daytime and evening
Types of client
Supervision & training
Experience as a supervisor.View supervision profile