Lorna Slade MBACP (Reg) Ad Pro Dip PC, Dip Hyp CS
I am an experienced counsellor, psychotherapist and clinical hypnotherapist working in a peaceful, accessible environment with private parking. I specialise in healing from narcissistic abuse.
Please feel free to telephone or email me in the first instance to tell me about yourself and how you're feeling and ask all you need to know.
After that we would meet for an initial session lasting 1.5 hours to take a deeper look at your situation. If you decide you want to move forward we will set a time to meet each week - be that evenings or daytime.
My approach and experience
I take an integrative approach using a range of tools, techniques and therapies. I am empathic and non-judgemental but also results-oriented as I recognise that you want to make a real and lasting change.
Therapy is not a linear process - it requires a level of motivation and courage to look deeper into ourselves, our life and our relationships: that process might leave us feeling more upset for a time, before a corner is turned.
Often we are comfortable with certain patterns of behaviour that, if we look hard enough, we can see we have repeated for years; but they are one way that our subconscious tries to resolve the unresolved - the need for love, safety and validation that wasn't met in our past. We unconsciously draw similar situations to ourselves time and again and react to them in familiar ways that don't serve us well.
We might also believe our 'inner critic' as if it were stating facts, when the fact is it's also a legacy of our past and nothing more. Identifying and challenging your 'core beliefs' about yourself, as well as becoming more aware of those negative thoughts that compel you to feel and behave in certain ways is one approach we might take.
Our aims are that you will 'become your own therapist'; that you will have a greater degree of self-insight, self-compassion and self-regard. Knowing that the most powerful source of true love and support comes from within.
I am experienced in a wide range of areas including anxiety including panic attacks, depression; low self-esteem; low confidence; bereavement; relationship issues; family estrangement; bullying; scapegoating; stress; emotional and physical abuse; chronic anger; addictions and negative habits such as over-spending, over-eating etc.
I worked as a volunteer counsellor for Basildon Mind for nearly three years. While at Mind I trained in the Rewind technique and have experienced good results with people with PTSD.
In the past I worked as a corporate communications specialist in a number of global blue-chip companies in London. I understand the complex interactions and stresses of those high pressure environments and the impact they can have. I can offer that insight for those seeking therapy for problems at work.
I specialise in working with adult children of narcissistic parents and spiritual, emotional and physical recovery for those who are or have been involved with narcissists.
Narcissistic abuse is complicated to describe. Some of the impacts on the victim include anxiety, panic, a sense of deep sadness and loneliness, problems with fitting into our environments, and a sense that we will always be abandoned, blamed and shamed.
The insidious nature of this abuse isn't helped by the fact it is partly outside of the awareness of the narcissist, and their victim or 'scapegoat' can fail to recognise what's going on, sometimes for decades.
Narcissists, especially coverts, exact most of their abuse behind closed doors; they often carry out smear campaigns by lying or twisting the facts around the victim's words/actions; they play 'favourites' (golden child/scapegoat child) and completely deny that dynamic and their own bad behaviour.
Rather than focus too much on the story, my emphasis is on healing from narcissistic abuse. That comes from undertaking a journey back to self, where we re-claim who we really are and learn how to meet our inner child and form a relationship with him/her, with all the benefits that brings.
See my interview about healing from narcissistic abuse on Phoenix Radio's Mental Health Matters podcast Episode 15, September 2016:
For a more detailed description of narcissistic abuse and whether it applies to you, visit my website www.iwtherapy.com
Method of counselling
I offer face-to-face or skype counselling as people communicate as much through their body language as they do verbally.
I am fully CRB checked and insured and a registered member of the BACP. I am on a register that has been accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Training, qualifications & experience
Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills (Dip Hyp CS) National Hypnotherapy Society; Advanced Professional Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling (Ad Pro Dip PC) National Counselling Society.
Applied EFT Level 2 (Practitioner) certificate
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Binge-eating disorder
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Personality disorders
- Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT)
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Couples counselling
- Gestalt therapy
- Human Givens psychotherapy
£45.00 for the first 1.5 hr consultation and £45.00 thereafter. £50.00 for 60 minutes.
Cancellation within 24 hours of the session will incur the full fee.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Weekdays and weekends. Evening appointments available.
Types of client