Lesley Murray BA, PgDip, MBACP. Couples/Individual/Counselling Supervision

Lesley Murray BA, PgDip, MBACP. Couples/Individual/Counselling Supervision

Blackheath Standard Counselling and Psychotherapy
Delacourt Road
London
SE3 8XA

020 8293 1891 / 07971 281121

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Blackheath Standard Counselling and Psychotherapy
Delacourt Road
London
SE3 8XA

020 8293 1891 / 07971 281121

About me

It is very important that you find a counsellor that you think you can work with.  I offer a low cost assessment session for individuals, without commitment to further sessions (£20 for assessment hour).

I am an experienced counsellor, psychotherapist and supervisor registered with BACP. I offer both short and long-term therapy in the Greenwich and Blackheath area from my peaceful and discreet therapy room in Blackheath Standard. I view therapy as a collaborative process, in which we work together to enhance your quality of life and explore your issues in a safe and trusting space.

The practical:

  • I offer psychotherapy to individuals and couples - fees are £60 for an individual (1 hour) and £100 for couples (90 minute sessions). This is payable by cheque or cash. I offer daytime, evening and weekend appointments.
  • I also work as a clinical supervisor and welcome students in training as well as more experienced therapists. My fees are £90 per month for the 90 minute session. You can either visit the practice for the session or I am amenable to Skype and telephone supervision.
  • There is free on street parking outside the practice and the area of Blackheath Standard is well serviced by bus routes. The nearest stations are Blackheath and Westcombe Park (both about 20 minutes walk).

Training, qualifications & experience

I have been working as a therapist for more than 10 years and have qualifications in counselling, counselling supervision, creative arts therapy, and online counselling. I have previously taught the Diploma and Certificate in Counselling. Prior to retraining as a psychotherapist, I worked for the Ministry of Defence and the police authority. I have a special interest in counselling individuals who have suffered trauma while working as civil servants or in the public sector.

My areas of experience include couples counselling, addiction, stress and anxiety, trauma and general counselling. I also offer counselling to children and young people in schools. I am currently the school counsellor for Kensington Prep School and have extensive experience in the independent sector. I also offer stress reduction sessions for children preparing to take part in selection tests, GCSE's and A levels.

Member organisations

BACP

Fees

It is very important that you find a counsellor that you think you can work with.  I offer a low cost assessment session for individuals, without commitment to further sessions (£20 for assessment hour).

Fees are £60 for an individual (1 hour) and £100 for couples (90 minute sessions). This is payable by cheque or cash.

Further information

About Couples Therapy

The idea of counselling is often unnerving to people, and the idea of doing those sessions with another person can be downright terrifying. Nothing is really going to change that potential dread before your first appointment, but knowing what to expect makes it a bit less unnerving.

Couples therapy seems like a pretty simple idea: you sign up for a session when your relationship is in trouble and you need help dealing with it.

Perhaps you and your partner are arguing about the stupidest things and these rows quickly escalate into something nasty.

Or your relationship feels stale, and if the two of you were not so busy leading separate lives you feel you would die of boredom. Sometimes there is a big issue - such as money, sex, infidelity, in-laws or children—about which you cannot get your partner to understand your viewpoint.

The main purpose of couples therapy is to put you and your significant other in a room with a neutral mediator to help you make sense of what's going on. If you're having trouble communicating with each other, then the counsellor is going to help guide you through talking about it.

The main point, as you'd expect, is to get you talking through whatever issues you have, or to simply figure out what those issues are. In the case of couples therapy, it's useful to find a counsellor who will suit both of you. You can give me a call and talk over what you're looking for in the sessions before committing.

As you'd probably expect, the first thing I'm likely going to ask you is something along the lines of, "What's going on?" or "Why are you here?" It sounds incredibly simple, but it's worth taking the time with your significant other to prepare to answer the questions. Couples might be unhappy for six years before seeking counselling. At that point, it's pretty tough to narrow down and fix any problems.

You want to prepare yourself to answer a few rudimentary questions during that first session. In fact, the whole process is likely similar to one-on-one therapy, which means the therapist will likely ask about your history and expect both of you to be open, somewhat talkative, and honest.

Depending on the situation, your counsellor might also talk to you both individually for portions of the appointment. Don't expect the first visit to a couples counsellor to produce results. Things might come up you never knew about the other person, or you might let something slip out of your own mouth that you didn't even know you thought. Basically, couples counselling has just as much potential of being positive as it does negative, but that's just part of the process. Talking about your problems with a counsellor might not be easy. Sessions might pass in silence as you and your partner seethe over perceived wrongs—or you might bring your fights with you, perhaps even arguing during sessions. Both are OK. Your therapist can act as mediator or referee and help you cope with the resulting emotions and turmoil.

Be prepared for some awkward conversations, because chances are they'll happen. As time goes on you will probably set goals in therapy while you work out your issues.  You will also learn to set boundaries with each other so that your relationship is more purposeful.

Maps & Directions

London, SE3 8XA

Type of session

Online counselling: Yes
Telephone counselling: Yes
Face to face counselling: Yes

Practical details

Sign language: No
Other languages: None

Availability

I offer daytime, evening and weekend appointments. There is currently good availability for evenings.

Types of client

Children
Young people
Adults
Couples
Families

Supervision & training

 I also work as a clinical supervisor and welcome students in training as well as more experienced therapists.  My fees are £90 per month for the 90 minute session.  You can either visit the practice for the session or I am amenable to Skype and telephone supervision. .

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