Kim Wylie

When thinking about taking the first courageous step towards change, it is common to feel daunted by the prospect.

Paisley Counselling offers a safe, non-judgemental, and confidential environment in which you will feel seen and heard.

We invite you to make contact to discuss the purpose of counselling as well as exploring how we can help you as an individual or as a couple.

A little bit about me

My name is Kim Wylie and Paisley Counselling is my company.

I am a highly experienced integrative counsellor with training in various trauma modalities.  My specialism is in supporting adult survivors of childhood trauma.  

In both individual and couples work, I incorporate protective techniques which enable clients to process their experiences without being flooded by intolerable emotions.

I like to work collaboratively, remaining attuned to each person’s needs throughout our work together.  

I have a passion for helping people heal and strongly believe that counselling can facilitate clients to realise their aims and goals.

My work with individuals

My special interest is in helping clients who are living with trauma, whether it be recent or from the distant past. 

The effects of trauma can manifest in various ways, including:

loss of a sense of self, low self-esteem, feelings of hopelessness, shame, anxiety, panic attacks, mistrust, self-harm, substance misuse, eating disorders, compulsive behaviour, headaches, irritability, depression, feeling numb, or feeling overwhelmed by emotions.

Furthermore, adverse experiences in childhood often impact our behaviour and relationships as adults.

As an unconscious strategy for safety, traumatic memories are often hidden.  This enables people to cope and avoid overwhelm.

Unfortunately, these protections, once necessary for survival, often end up causing more harm than benefit.

I help and support my clients to develop resources which allow them to process painful memories without being overwhelmed.  They can then move towards their release from the harmful effects of trauma.  

My work with couples

There are many reasons why you as a couple may wish to come for counselling:

·     Loss of connection between you.

·     Unfaithfulness in your relationship, 

·     Loss of trust between you.

·     Difficulties communicating with each other.

The Goal is Connection

My hope when working with couples who wish to work through their issues and stay together is that you go on a journey where you learn to listen to each other and speak to each other without fear and where your goal becomes connection to each other.  When the goal is connection, then neither partner is trying to ‘win’; both partners are concerned with the other’s needs which creates a safe place for you both to bring your disagreements without being on the defensive or in attacking mode. When your goal is to connect, I believe that you can work through the most painful issues. 

Couple counselling is a safe space for you to decide together if you wish to continue in the relationship. 

If you choose to part then this can be navigated in a safe, respectful manner adhering to each other’s feelings and needs.

Counselling model for couples

I use an Integrative approach to couple counselling, utilising several different models and influences: from the work of Harville and Hendrix, Dr Sue Johnson Gottman and the wonderful Esther Perel.

Our team

Our dedicated team of both experienced and trainee counsellors are trained in a variety of counselling modalities and techniques including:

·     Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

·     Comprehensive Resource Model (CRM)

·     Integrative counselling

·     Person Centred 

·     Psychodynamic

·     Transactional Analysis (T.A.)

In both face-to-face and online sessions, we work responsively and collaboratively with our clients to help them achieve their goals for therapy.

Childhood trauma including physical, emotional and sexual abuse.

Working with trainee counsellors
We choose our postgraduate trainee counsellors very carefully, selecting mature people from high profile, professional backgrounds who are studying on reputable courses. 
You can be confident that if you are seen by a trainee counsellor, you will be working with someone who is sufficiently trained and experienced to help you.

Sessions with trainee counsellors last 60 minutes and cost £50.   
(Half hour telephone assessment prior to working with a student costs £40.)

Initial assessment and sessions with associate counsellors last 60 minutes and cost £65.

Individual initial assessment and sessions with Kim last 60 minutes and cost £80.

Couple Counselling initial assessment and sessions with Kim last 90 minutes and cost £150.