62 Rowley Street
07957 234 950
Welcome! My name is Julie Tanner. Thank you for considering me and I am delighted to be able to introduce you to On With My Life counselling and psychotherapy and invite you to take a breath, settle for a while and take some valuable space to consider what I am able to offer you.
Your visit here today probably means that you or someone close to you is struggling in some way. It also means you have the courage and determination to seek a solution to that struggle - and that you are concerned about finding the right therapist to help.
There are a multitude of reasons why you may be considering seeking the support of a counselling professional. You may not even have a specific issue or problem as such - you may simply wish to talk to a caring human about something weighing on your mind, or be seeking a safe, private space to explore a sense of purposelessness or emptiness. Psychotherapy can help when life feels unbearably difficult, and it can also make a decent life even better.
On With My Life Counselling and Therapy can help you overcome stress, anxiety, emptiness, lack of fulfilment, low self-esteem and depression. You will gain increased confidence, a sense of meaning and purpose, closer relationships and increased health and wellbeing.
How will we work together?
I will work with you as an individual to understand your story and where you currently find yourself in your life – you will not receive an unhelpful one-size-fits-all approach.
We will work together to understand the current obstacles to your wellbeing and find realistic and helpful ways for you to overcome these and move towards a more satisfying and fulfilling life.
Depending on your own personal preferences and your current situation, we can decide to focus more on the present, future or past; we will also explore and establish whether you prefer a more or a less ‘active’ approach to your therapy.
In ‘technical’ counselling terms I use a combination of Person Centred Counselling and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT.
Person-centred counselling is an extremely effective form of counselling that focuses on really exploring and getting to the heart of how you are thinking and feeling. It can be very useful to get to the root of deep-seated problems, to make space, to think, feel, and grieve where necessary. Person Centred Counselling has been used effectively since the 1960s and more than 200 quantitative outcome studies demonstrate that it is statistically and clinically equivalent compared to different therapies such as CBT.
ACT is often called '3rd wave' CBT. It is somewhat different to 'simply' talking and embodies a more active approach that involves:
- Learning skills to handle difficult thoughts and feelings more effectively, so they have less impact and influence over you.
- Clarifying your ‘values’: what matters to you, what you want to stand for, how you want to treat yourself and others, what gives you a sense of meaning or purpose.
- Taking action: to solve problems, and do things that make life better.
- Me sometimes interrupting you from time to time – to sort of ‘press pause’ for a moment. If I see you doing something that looks like it might be making your problems worse, I can also press pause, and we can take a look at what’s going on, and address it. And I may also ‘press pause’ if I see you doing something that looks like it might be really helpful or useful.
- Leaving each session with a plan of action – something that will make a positive difference. This will always be an invitation, you will never be ‘obliged’ to do this.
ACT is one of the world’s fastest growing therapies which has evidence to support its effectiveness from almost 200 randomized controlled trials: the gold standard of psychological research. I am excited to be taking ACT out of its currently predominantly clinical setting, delivered by clinical psychologists within the NHS and operating privately, and making it accessible to a broader, general counselling client audience within Staffordshire.
Our work together can be short or long term, depending on the nature of your problem. You can be assured of a results oriented approach to our work together, in an open and honest framework.
What you can expect from our first session
Many clients are naturally daunted at the prospect of a first session, but please don't be! Our first session is really to talk about why you are seeking counselling and what changes you would like to see in your life as a result. Some typical areas we may cover in your first session are:
- The problems or issues you are currently experiencing and things you may already have tried to make it better.
- Counselling you may have experienced in the past and what you did or didn't find useful.
- What problems and barriers you are experiencing to your health and wellbeing.
- Any particular situations, thoughts and memories you struggle with and impair your ability to enjoy life.
- The domains of your life which are most important to you.
My therapy rooms
You will find me less than a 5 minute drive - or 15 minutes walking distance - from Stafford town centre. There is also easy access from the M6 - just 5 minutes drive from J14. Easy on-street free car parking is available and the building has full disabled access and toilet facilities. There is also a bus stop just a couple of minutes away (Greyfriars) which is on the main route for buses arriving from the north and south of Stafford as well as Newcastle under Lyme and Stoke on Trent.
I very much hope to talk to you soon. Best wishes!
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a Registered Member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
I have worked in a counselling setting since 2012, although my interest in all things counselling started way before then when I embarked upon and obtained my BA (Hons) degree in Psychology in 1993, followed by a Certificate in Education in 1994.
I completed my counselling training at Keele University in 2015 and hold a Post Graduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology – a qualification which is accredited by the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
I am also qualified to practise Acceptance and Commitment Therapy or ACT, a strikingly effective type of therapy described as being "amongst the most significant new approaches to behaviour change of the past three decades." (Dr David H Barlow, world leader on anxiety disorders). I am excited to be taking ACT out of its currently predominant clinical setting, delivered by clinical psychologists within the NHS and operating privately, and making it accessible to a broader, general counselling client audience within Staffordshire.
My counselling experience is broad and includes roles as bereavement and grief counsellor; bereavement group facilitator; sexual abuse counsellor;alcohol and substance misuse counsellor; workplace counsellor.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Carer support
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Feeling sad
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
£45 per hour
I have a particular professional interest in the impact of trauma on the human experience. By trauma I mean "an inescapably stressful event that overwhelms people’s existing coping mechanisms" (Van Der Kolk, 1995). This can, of course, include experiences such as sexual abuse and domestic violence as well as the sudden loss of a loved one. My approach is trauma-informed, understanding how trauma can drive unhelpful behaviours such as substance abuse and uses proven evidence-based techniques to successfully manage the effects of trauma including flashbacks, disassociation, anxiety and self-harm.
A further area of work to which I am particularly committed is women experiencing problems with managing their relationship with alcohol.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
I can usually arrange a day and time to suit your needs.
Types of client