Julie Maxwell, Accredited Sex & Relationship Therapist
Ashby De La Zouch
I am an experienced and accredited (BACP & COSRT), Relate-trained counsellor in Ashby de la Zouch, who specialises in relationship and couples counselling (previously known as marriage guidance), individual counselling and psychosexual therapy (or sex therapy) for individuals and couples of any age, gender and sexual orientation. I have over 13 years of experience in assisting clients with their mental, emotional and physical wellbeing.
Do you need support with:
- Relationships - for example: repetitive arguments, poor communication, broken trust, affairs, relationship breakdown, repetition of negative habits/patterns.
Intimacy: sexual function and sexual feelings.
- Relationships with family, friends or colleagues.
Self-esteem and confidence.
Anxiety or depression.
Health and wellbeing.
- Angry or violent outbursts.
Acknowledging a problem can be difficult and asking for help isn't always easy, so if you would like to discuss how counselling or sex therapy could assist you then please phone me for a free 15 minute consultation.
As a therapist, I recognise that you may not find it easy to talk to a stranger about your problems. Giving voice to our problems makes them real and sometimes we don't even know how they came about, let alone how to feel better about ourselves or the situation we find ourselves in. I will provide you with a caring, supportive and confidential environment in which we will look at, and find a way through, the problems you are experiencing (either individually or as a couple). And, don't worry, you won't be coerced into doing or saying anything you don't want to - I feel passionate about empowering you to make changes that you identify to create a more fulfilling life.
In addition to our relationships, keeping our sex lives fresh and fulfilling can be challenging. I am experienced in working successfully with sexual dysfunctions and difficulties, both for individuals and couples, in addition to the impact of childhood sexual abuse and mental health on intimacy.
As a supervisor, I offer clinical supervision and support to counsellors and other staff working in healthcare or the caring professions. I provide supervision from my practice in Ashby de la Zouch or in the workplace.
"The therapy helped me in so many areas. Dealing with my narcissistic mother - I feel I have come to a place of acceptance rather than anger towards my mum, which has been beneficial to my whole family. Understanding that I didn't "need fixing", that there is nothing "wrong" with me and that I am not "self-focussed" as told by the cult, reinforced by my upbringing. In fact, I put others before myself to my own detriment and now that I am more aware of this I am less likely to do it in the future, particularly in any future relationships. This has been a revelation to me and a huge boost to my self-esteem. Thanks to Julie I have also been focussing more on getting my own needs met by myself rather than waiting for a knight in shining armour or expecting my mum to help and being disappointed over and over again. Tackling the DIY in the house, taking holidays alone when I couldn't find anyone to go with me, and taking responsibility for my weight gain and doing something about it have all been hugely encouraging and empowering.
"Julie is non-judgemental and incredibly insightful, making connections which I probably never would have made on my own and which other therapists failed to. I find it amazing that she could recall conversations we had had previously and connect them to current conversations. She has been the key to getting me "unstuck" in my life and for that I am indebted to her. I think she is a fantastic therapist and would highly recommend her services to anyone. I will go back to her without hesitation if there is anything else I need help with in my life."
A, Counselling Client
"The therapy enabled us to communicate to each other on neutral territory. It broke down some of the barriers that existed between us. The questions and comments raised were relevant and seemed well thought out. The atmosphere was relaxed and took the tension out of a stressful situation. There was no bias towards either of us; this impartiality made talking to Julie easy. We both liked Julie, so found it easy to talk and open up about our feelings."
Couple, Counselling Clients
"I think you accurately realised that we needed to work on strengthening our relationship issues before getting into our sexual problems. Whilst talking about problems from our past was painful, you ensured we addressed these issues as best we could before getting into more recent problems. Overall, the therapy was very helpful in resolving our communication, openness and sexual problems. It was certainly easier to talk with an impartial third person in the room than if we had tried to resolve our problems ourselves. I think we both appreciated the fact that you led us through the therapy at a pace that was suitable for us and with a degree of flexibility on what we covered that was very helpful. We both felt we could be open with you and trusted you to be sensitive and understanding at times of great stress to us.
"Overall, we have addressed many of our relationship problems and the communication, intimacy and sexual sides feel much improved. It was a very worthwhile experience."
Couple, Sex Therapy Clients
"Counselling increased my confidence in myself, gave me strategies to manage my own thoughts and, in turn, change my actions/behaviour. It helped me to realise that it's ok to feel some ways and gave me an acceptance of who I am. It was a nice, comfortable and supportive environment, which made me feel at ease and safe." M, Counselling Client.
"The therapy was excellent. I am 73 and had virtually given up on sexual relations with my wife due to confidence issues. Matters are fully resolved and sex life between us is now very good indeed. It was difficult for me to fully open up at first, but Julie put me at my ease and the feelings of embarrassment went away after a few sessions." J, Sex Therapy Client
"Counselling helped me to address my stress issues, which were affecting my health and important relationships. Through this process, I was able to look at situations and put them into perspective and ask 'what is important and why' to help me react more appropriately. It also helped me realise that taking time for myself is not a 'crime' and that things that have happened in my life are not necessarily 'my fault'. I was made to feel at ease from the outset."
S, Counselling Client
"I have worked alongside Julie Maxwell for over 7 years and in that time have followed Julie's progression as a counsellor, trainer, project lead and clinical supervisor. Julie has a strong work ethic and her flexible and creative approach to work means that she achieves excellent results.
Julie's strengths lie in building effective partnerships - she has demonstrated on many occasions that she can work with internal and external colleagues to build strong alliances which produce workshops and programmes of the highest quality. Julie also designed and developed a number of workshops for various partners including schools and the local authority (wellbeing workshops and parenting groups).
Julie is a reflexive and supportive supervisor who can challenge sensitively and build strong relationships with her supervisees.
Julie has always been a pleasure to work with - hardworking, committed and always supportive." CEO, Relate Warwickshire (2013)
Training, qualifications & experience
Here are my qualifications:
: University Advanced Diploma in Couple Counselling (Relate Institute, University of Hull).
: Post Graduate Diploma in Relationship Therapy - Psychosexual Therapy (Relate Institute, University of Hull).
: Relate Counsellor Graduate Certificate.
: Level 4 Certificate in Integrating Mindfulness and Compassion in Professional Practice.
: Certificate in Clinical Supervision (Relate Institute).
: Preparing to Teach in the Lifelong Learning Sector (University of Derby).
I am an accredited member of both the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT), working within their Ethical Frameworks and Codes of Conduct.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Relationship issues
About the sessions...
The first session will be an assessment of your situation, so that we can decide on the best way forward for you.
It is likely that you will attend weekly, however fortnightly appointments are possible, depending on your needs. One-off sessions are also available - whether you want to talk through an issue you cannot share with anyone else or if you feel your relationship needs an 'MOT'.
Daytime and evening appointments are available.
It is impossible to say how many sessions you will need - that decision is yours. However, clients typically attend between 6 and 20.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Daytime and evening appointments are available.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|
Supervision & training
Working in the caring professions means that, as practitioners, we all need help and support at some time.View supervision profile