Julian Samiloff

I'm a highly experienced 'Highly Specialist Family and Systemic Psychotherapist'. I work in independent practice and within the NHS in an inpatient setting for young people and in a day programme for Eating Disorders.  My therapeutic relationships are created to be a compassionate, confidential and non-judgmental space where difficult, sometimes painful,  issues can be explored. As a provider of psychotherapeutic services at the highest level within NHS, I have deep experience with a wide range of mental health and behavioural problems for individuals, families and couples & children, teens & adults and older. I have a deep interest in and substantial experience of Eating Disorders and challenges with Neurodiversity.

You may wish to explore relationship difficulties, sexual or gender issues, bereavement, abuse, trauma, anxiety, depression, stress, eating disorders, family issues or addiction. You may also want to make changes to your life so you can throw open the doors to your potential. My work is always respectful & collaborative. In school-aged children and with parents I have extensive experience in the diagnosis of  Autism & ADHD & post-diagnosis support and the design of parenting programmes.

Sessions are usually 60 minutes, though some clients prefer 90 minutes. The therapeutic work is co-created so that sessions can be spaced weekly, 2 or 3 weekly or more and the end date is based on clinical and client judgments, not an arbitrary fixed number. 

Working compassionately with my clients is the very heart of my work. Client care and well-being is core to my personal and clinical judgment. It is important to me to make my clients feel safe, comfortable, listened to and appreciated. Client feedback emphasises my warm humane approach and that clients have felt that for the first time in perhaps many years, they have been able to deal effectively with things that had been locked away for a very long time because of fear, shame and embarrassment, but that they were also able to accomplish so much more than the end of anguish by the gaining of a new joy, motivation for living and happiness.

Areas of Work Undertaken

Anxiety, & Depression, Autism, Family Conflict & Relationship Difficulties, Sex, Sexuality and Gender, PTSD, Self-Harm, Parental Alienation, Sexual abuse, (perhaps suffered in childhood), Substance and Alcohol misuse, Bipolar Disorder, (also known as manic depression), OCD, Bereavement and where there may be Criminal Justice Involvement.

Specialist Child & Teen Issues

Neurodiversity, [Autism & ADD/ADHD], Dyslexia. I can offer ASC/ASD diagnosis and follow-up support

Privacy & Confidentiality - the therapeutic space remains securely private. I will not discuss with anyone else what is disclosed by the client. *There are important exceptions around the idea of Safeguarding and these will be discussed in meetings.

*With an additional 20-plus years of professional experience in research and university work and in family law also means that I am very well placed to help those involved with the family courts and can provide psychological reports where required.

Feelings that life has no purpose or meaning anymore
Feelings of dread
Feeling alone and withdrawn, lonely
Fear of death and illness
A sense of being unfulfilled
Feeling stuck or trapped by life dilemmas
Life / Business / Work balance
Helping high achievers to focus on goals / Business coaching
Addictive and destructive behaviors including substance misuse
Issues around sex, sexuality and gender
Cross dressing and LGBT and other alternative lifestyles
Guilt and shame
Death of a loved one
Inability to make decisions and loss of motivation
Young people and teenage crises
Supporting families through challenges to education system / schools / colleges
Resolving high conflict disputes in partnerships, marriage, business
Resolving child contact disputes in family law / litigation

BASIC PRINCIPLE = I am sensitive to my clients' needs and have created a fee structure that takes into account affordability and individual ability to pay. I will always discuss fees privately with my clients if there are problems with finances.

Fees: General £75 per session per individual or couple or family. Flexible phone and Zoom sessions/internet conferencing sessions are available for overseas clients or frequent travellers or if convenient Sessions can be more than once per week, weekly, or longer gaps between sessions to suit life/work balance and clinical need.

Where there is a challenging financial situation I always discuss rates: please ask.

I have a number of degrees and academic qualifications and expertise in family Law, Science and Psychology and have worked in research at the University of London. I have undergone extensive training in wide-ranging disciplines - the Philosophy of Science Masters programme and the Neuro-Physiology of Behaviour Masters programme run by London University and London Guildhall University respectively. I have scientific experience of; - diagnosed mental health conditions, neuro-pharmacology and prescribed medication.

I set up my psychotherapy practice to provide a much-needed, unique counselling service for families and individuals living on the Isle of Wight and also wider afield. Since then I have expanded and developed my services to take in surrounding counties and London and to provide – uniquely – a personalised visiting service.

I utilise a number of therapeutic approaches all built upon the philosophy of science: Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Existential Therapy, Integrative, Person-Centred Therapy, Psychodynamic and Systemic (Family) therapy. My core area of expertise is family therapy. 

I also work in two NHS young-person inpatient services; low secure and general adolescent unit. 

I have a particular interest in ASD, ADHD and eating disorders and do a considerable amount of family work related to family law litigation and in high conflict cases in particular parental alienation. 

See also my Web Site   www.juliansamiloff.com