Jeanette Payne MBACP Solace Counselling Services
Events can sometimes happen that rock your world such as bereavement, illness, relationship issues and work stress, these difficulties can all have a drastic effect on your life and ways of thinking causing great anxiety and depression. I am a qualified experienced Counsellor and Lecturer in Counselling, I work from a number of locations which includes the vicinity of Countesthorpe, Wigston, Narborough, Whetstone, Enderby, Blaby and Littlethorpe.
There are times in all relationships when things don't run smoothly. An affair or betrayal does not have to mean the end of your relationship. If you are experiencing relationship issues and are willing to talk honestly and openly in a confidential environment about what is happening, you may find it will help you to understand yourself better, enable you to put things into perspective and find a way through your difficulties.
Do you feel that you listen attentively to what your partner is trying to communicate to you? Do you feel your partner listens sufficiently carefully to what you say? Breakdown in communication is central to all relationship issues; if you feel communication between you and your partner is deteriorating then talking to an experienced third person can help you to learn how to really listen. You may then discover what has caused the blocks in your communication and take the first steps towards improving your relationship
We are all unique complex individuals. Life experiences shape our thought process and as a consequence affect how we relate to others and how we feel about ourselves, depression can affect anyone at any time. People are not always aware or conscious when they are sinking and experiencing feelings unknown to them before. People often use the phrase 'I'm depressed' to describe how they are feeling about current situations in their life, they may feel unhappy or that life is a burden however if these feelings persist and invade their everyday life early intervention such as counselling can be very effective.
"I don’t readily reveal myself to others but I found I was able to trust Jeanette straight away and shared things with her that I wouldn’t normally disclose. She gives me the impression that nothing would be too shocking or ridiculous or off-key to bring into the light of day. I feel I could safely entrust my feelings to Jeanette and she would help me work through them".
As an experienced Counsellor I have worked with clients covering a wide range of issues. By providing a warm, supportive, confidential and safe environment I aim to help you to explore and gain a better understanding of yourself. Counselling assists you to find solutions to areas in your life that may be troubling you. It can be a great relief to share your worries and fears with someone who acknowledges your feelings and is able to help you reach a positive solution
My background has been varied and my experience and knowledge includes many years working in the Youth and Community services, in the business sector as a Director and in Education as a Counselling Lecturer, the experience gained has proven to be invaluable in my counselling work. It has enabled me to develop a greater awareness and understanding of issues that affect people from all walks of life.
Short term trauma therapy. I am currently involved in a Resilience Building programme devised for victims suffering post traumatic stress. I work as a group facilitator with bereaved families, the course aim is to provide the participants with a set of skills to build their resilience and help them cope with stress, negative thoughts, anxiety, panic attacks, sleeplessness and nightmares. Through this work I have the privilege of working with people during times of great difficulty and distress; I feel this has enabled me to develop a great empathy towards the needs and concerns of others. My priority is to offer a professional service and
to respect each unique individual that I work with.
Bereavement Counselling may be able to provide you with support during very difficult times. People have described their loss to me as totally life changing; they feel as though they have lost a part of their own lives which they will never get back. Each person has their own unique way of dealing with grief and their own coping mechanisms. Bereaved people are changed by the experience of their loss, they do not necessarily 'get over it' however a transformation takes place whereby the bereaved person learns to lives again and come to terms with their loss in their own unique way. I will accompany you on that bereavement journey helping you to manage your grief, respecting your thoughts, views and feelings and provide you with the comfort and support needed as you find your own way through.
Anxiety and Depression
For the Counselling relationship to be helpful I work with my clients to gain a real sense of their feelings and personal meanings. I try to perceive the world as my client perceives it and feel what it might be like walking in their shoes. Embracing this attitude of acceptance and a non judgemental approach facilitates therapeutic movement. My clients are more able to feel safe to explore negative feelings and to move into the core of their anxiety or depression. They are more likely to face themselves honestly without fear of rejection and experience a sense of self-acceptance.
Are you struggling with loneliness, feeling exposed, empty and vulnerable? Talking about these feelings, acknowledging that they do exist and that what you are feeling is very real can help to ease the pain, it can help you feel a little lighter and more able to find ways to cope.
Terminal Illness If you've been diagnosed with a terminal illness, strong emotions and feelings can be overwhelming, you may find it helps to talk to a counsellor who is detached from the situation and is trained to listen and help you work through your feelings.
Bereavement is likely to be encountered by us all. At the time of suffering it is a bewildering and often very lonely and frightening experience.
A good counsellor will create an environment in which grief can be expressed and sorrow shared, in which the mourner feels it is safe and acceptable to sob, to be angry, to shout, to reminisce or sit in mournful silence.
Sometimes just being there is the most helpful way of sharing grief, neither curbing or encouraging tears or words, interfering not at all with what is going on within the mourner’s heart, simply offering a caring presence and a listening ear and accepting that there may be little more one can do.
Sharing stories of your loved one and talking through your loss with your therapist as a witness, and companion on your journey can offer you Solace and Aid Healing.
Talking to a trained Counsellor
Individuals act differently to issues such as affairs and betrayal, bereavement, terminal illness, work related difficulties, stress or depression and these differences need to be understood. It can be helpful talking through these problems with a counsellor to put things into perspective and to try to make sense of what is happening. Sometimes this can be achieved over a couple of sessions sometimes it takes a while longer. Counselling gives you the time, space and importantly the confidentiality to talk about worries and fears in a non-judgmental and empathic environment
My practice covers the South Leicestershire area with bases in Wigston and Narborough which are convenient to Countesthorpe, Cosby, Blaby, Enderby, Glen Parva, Broughton Astley, Earl Shilton, and Kirby Muxloe. I also work in the centre of Market Harborough. Our first initial meeting lasts for one hour in which a history is taken and you have the opportunity to talk through the difficulties you are experiencing. This allows for me to clearly understand the problems you wish to address and work through. It enables us to ensure that counselling is the best way forward for your needs and that you feel comfortable and trust working with me as your counsellor. If it is appropriate we then agree a time for subsequent counselling sessions which will be on an open ended basis.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a qualified and experienced practitioner in Person Centred Counselling; I offer both long and short-term counselling to individuals.
I am a Registered Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and work in accordance with their code of ethics.
In addition to working in private practice, I work as a part time Lecturer in Counselling within a Higher Education College and I am also involved in the voluntary sector for counselling in my local community.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Physical abuse
- Relationship issues
Sessions are for 1 hour and are £35 concessions are available dependent upon individual circumstances.
Solace Counselling is a Private and confidential practice located in the new Two Steeples Medical Centre Wigston LE18 close to South Leicester College and The Manse Narborough within easy reach of Countesthorpe, LE8, Whetstone, Enderby, Narborough, Blaby, Broughton Astley, Lutterworth, LE17 Wigston Magna, Oadby and Knighton LE2.
I also practice in Market Harborough LE16, close to Oadby, Great Glen, Smeeton Westerby, Kibworth, Fleckney, Arnesby, Shearsby and Husbands Bosworth.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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I am available for Daytime Evening and Weekend Appointments at: Countesthorpe Road, Wigston, The Manse at Narborough or Abbey St, Market Harborough.