Janet Butterworth UKCP, MBACP (Reg), Relational Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist
Is life not working out the way you hoped?
Feelings of stress,depression or anxiety can leave us feeling stuck in a rut, or in repetitive frustrating patterns that makes it feel we are going round in circles with no way out. Maybe family, romantic or business relationships are under strain; seem to keep going wrong or you 'just don't feel right'.
Sometimes it is something unexpected that rocks our life, sometimes a past event may keep getting in the way or it can just feel that everyday life is getting on top of us.
If feelings of anxiety or depression are spoiling things, if stress, panic or grief is getting in your way, talking with an experienced, approachable therapist can help.
Could you benefit from a confidential space to take some time-out?
... to explore your thoughts and feelings
... find new ways forward
... to get back on a front foot again
We all need help from time to time, and it can be helpful to talk with someone who is only focused on you. We don’t necessarily want to turn to family and friends and they can’t always help in the same way as a trained therapist.
By looking at these pages you are taking a positive step towards making life different. Trying to disguise the way we feel, trying to ‘soldier on’ and put worry out of mind, has consequences. It is exhausting, and in addition to our own well being, relationships at home, at work and with friends often start to suffer.
Talking to someone who is professionally trained to listen and help in a specific way can really make a difference. It can help bring relief and make sense of things that feel confusing or stressful.
If you are looking for an experienced, well qualified counsellor or psychotherapist who is approachable and warm, and won’t just leave you sitting in silence, please make contact by whichever means feels most comfortable.
I have a comfortable consultancy room based in Farringdon, EC1R, a tranquil space centrally placed just a few minutes walk from Farringdon station.
To arrange an initial no obligation appointment, you can Email me via the link, have a brief informal phone call, leave a voicemail or send a text. Whichever method feels easiest for you.
I work in all the general areas of counselling outlined below. My areas of expertise include relationships, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, parenting and bereavement.
We all need relationships, they are at the core of human experience and we are hard wired to seek them out from the moment we are born. Relationships colour our feelings about the world and about ourselves. They are crucial to our well-being. They affect every part of our lives – whether they are with family, friends, are social, personal, business or romantic. Research indicates that emotionally fulfilling relationships are integral components of our mental and physical health; so it’s no wonder that when they go wrong major parts of our life get disrupted and the knock-on effects are massive. We can be swamped by all sorts of emotions, some unexpected, that can leave us feeling angry, hurt, disorientated, distressed, anxious or stressed. Sometimes we know why and how our relationship went wrong and sometimes we don’t. It may be this particular relationship that has been difficult or it may be something that seems to keep happening.
Therapy can help you to make sense of things if your relationship is
- Troubling or breaking up
- Affected by repeating patterns such as picking the wrong partners. Jealousy or an inability to stay faithful
- Is / was affected through a life change such as illness or accident
- Often seem to dissatisfy, keep going wrong, or are a source of stress or anxiety.
Depression can take all the enjoyment out of life for us and those close to us too. It isn’t just about ‘feeling sad’; it’s much more than that. It can interfere with every aspect of life, eating, sleeping, working, finding any pleasure. It saps energy and makes it hard to function the way we used to. Everyone’s experience is different, and feelings might also include guilt, hopelessness, restlessness, emptiness, anger or feeling unable to feel settled or satisfied with life.
You may feel you know the cause or you may not. There isn’t always a single reason; depression can be the result of a mixture of things. It may stem from a serious and upsetting life event like bereavement, redundancy, disablement or divorce, or be the result of things that have built up over a long time, or come from unresolved issues from the past which may get in the way of life now. One thing is sure, you are not alone - depression is a very common experience. Self confidence may be badly affected too and life can seem so tough when you are feeling depressed, that even simple things feel overwhelming.
Medication can help alleviate the feelings of depression and talking therapy can help to understand and relieve the worries that underlie it. Talking therapy is an opportunity to look at your problems in a different way with someone who is on your side, who will respectfully listen and encourage your own thoughts and decisions.
Research indicates that a combination of anti-depressants and talking therapy together creates more successful outcomes than a single approach.
Don’t feel you have to struggle on, trying to manage alone. Talking can make a difference. Making contact by whichever means feels easiest, Email, phone or message, can be a step towards overcoming the problem and starting to make things change.
Stress and Anxiety
We all feel stressed or anxious occasionally and that's normal. Almost everyone experiences stress or worry if something important is happening in life, and it can be helpful, making us more alert and ready for things like a job interview, an exam or a deadline. Feeling like this may continue for a few days if you are having a stressful time at work that is causing you to feel worried and anxious, but it's neither normal nor helpful if these feelings are frequently happening to you, or feel out of control. If you are finding it hard to manage your worries, often feel panicky, or if stress or anxiety is interfering with day to day life, perhaps causing physical symptoms too, talking to someone can help take the weight off your shoulders.
Counselling can help to bring relief from those things that are feeling out of control through understanding the underlying factors that have contributed to the anxiety. Together, more satisfying ways can then be developed to overcome them, take back control and develop lasting change.
Low self esteem
Self-esteem is the way we think and feel about ourselves and is central to our sense of who we are. If you often feel worthless or find you put yourself down by thinking or saying things about yourself that you wouldn't say to a friend, you may have low self esteem. Lots of things can lower your self-esteem such as separation, loss, bullying, being passed over for promotion, not getting a job you wanted, relationships being difficult to get into, not achieving the body stereotype promoted in the media or a relationship breaking up.
Low self esteem lowers your potential not only in the work-place, but also at home, socially and romantically. How we feel about ourselves has a distinct bearing on how we live our lives. Fear, guilt, shame and self-blame plague and rule so many thoughts and decisions when self-esteem is low. It can alter your feelings about everything. It limits confidence to try new things, meet new people and even enjoy the everyday activities of life.
Counselling can support you while we work to find the reasons behind your low self-esteem and establish, in manageable steps, new more positive and satisfying ways to develop and improve it.
Bereavement and loss:
There is desolation in grief that feels awful, but it is a natural response to losses in our life. This may involve the death of someone close to you, but grief can also be triggered by other losses such as a miscarriage, a relationship ending, moving away from people or losing your health. Everyone reacts to grief in their own way. While some people may try to ‘move on’ quickly, others may be completely overwhelmed and unable to function. There is no right way and there is no time limit.
Grief is one of the hardest emotions we face, it is complex, but it shouldn't disrupt our life forever. If, in time, the pain you felt is such that it prevents you from resuming life in the way you want to, you may need some additional support.
If there is something interfering with your enjoyment of life right now or things are getting on top of you, give yourself some space, and the chance to sort things out. Do something that is just for you.
Talking as openly as you can, to someone who is impartial and will not judge you, and is professionally trained to listen and to help in a specific way can really make a difference. It can bring relief, help you to take back control, and develop new, more satisfying ways of coping.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a Clinical Psychotherapist registered with the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) as an attachment-based psychoanalytic psychotherapist. Additionally I am a Registered Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and adhere to their comprehensive code of Ethics and Good Practice, placing great value on each person's individuality and life circumstances.
I established a busy private practice in 2006 and also worked in a large counselling charity of which I was for a time, Chair.
4 year UKCP training in Attachment-based psychoanalytic psychotherapy 2009-2013
BA Hons in Counselling, 2008;
Diploma in Contemporary Psychodynamic Counselling, 2004-2006;
Cruse Bereavement Counselling Training 2005
Certificate in Counselling Studies, 2004.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Adult attachment difficulties.
Abandonment and separation distress.
Counselling or psychotherapy sessions last for 50 minutes and are charged at £65.00
The way I work:
Long-term face-to-face work, Short-term face-to-face work, Time-limited work.
Clients I work with:
Adults, EAP, Older Adults
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|