Graeme Butler PGDip MBACP (Couples & Individuals)
About me: People have described me as being "warm, friendly and down to earth". Before becoming a counsellor, I had a long career in industry, working in a role which required building strong relationships, overcoming problems and developing trust, it was good preparation for what I do now ! I really enjoy being a counsellor, it's extremely meaningful working with people to achieve the changes they require
Couples Counselling: I am a fully trained couples counsellor and also work for Relate in Crawley (working with up to seven couples a week). In real life (rather than romantic fiction) relationships are often difficult, complex and are affected by what else is happening in our lives. Couples come to see me for a wide variety of reasons such as arguments, poor communication, recovering from an affair or perhaps needing to revitalise a long term relationship. I offer a supportive space where we can talk non judgementally about difficult things, acknowledge each other viewpoints and break out of repetitive arguments.
Anger management: I work with people to help them manage their anger more effectively. We break anger down to alter the process and often even small tweaks can yield great results. For example sometimes a fifteen second thinking delay between getting angry and expressing it more calmly (rather than exploding) can change things radically. Sometimes this type of work also ties into my work with couples.
Alcohol and drug's: Several years experience of working at a drugs and alcohol service (C.R.I. in Brighton) has taught me that each person's goals are unique. For some people the change might mean giving up altogether, while for others it might mean cutting down just a bit in certain situations (perhaps drinking a few glasses of wine less per week).
Anxiety and In the modern world many people are struggling with anxiety, the symptoms can be extremely dehabilitating and take much of the enjoyment out of life. I work with people to get some control over their symptoms of anxiety, so there's a sense of relief and less of a fear of these re-occuring. We also look at their anxiety in more detail and try to understand how to reduce it in a supportive way.
Sexual abuse: I work as a counsellor at Mankind UK, a Hove based nationally recognised charity for men who have experienced sexual abuse. Sexual abuse can have a dramatic effect on peoples lives in a whole variety of different ways. These may include low self esteem, anxiety, difficulties in forming or maintaining relationships, symptoms of trauma (including PTSD) and many others.I offer a safe and supportive space to anybody who has experienced sexual abuse. We will always work sensitively and you will not feel under pressure to talk about anything you don't want to (in fact much beneficial work can be done without directly talking about the abuse).
Training, qualifications & experience
Counselling: I trained at Brighton University seven years ago, gaining a Post-Graduate Diploma in Humanistic Therapeutic Counselling.
Couples: My experience comes from working for Relate in Crawley, where I work with between 4-7 couples per week. I trained with Relate and hold the CPCAB Level 5 Certificate in Couples Counselling.
Anger: I trained in anger management at the Manchester Gestalt Centre, and have worked with many clients with anger problems.
Drugs and alcohol: I worked for several years at CRI Brighton, an agency helping people with difficulties in this area. As part of this role I had extensive internal training.
Sexual Abuse: I am employed as a counsellor for Mankind, a Brighton & Hove based charity which provides counselling for male survivors of sexual abuse.
Bereavement counselling: I am trained bereavement counsellor and worked for several years at Brighton Cruse Bereavement Care.
Disability: I have also considerable experience working as a counsellor with people affected by both physical and mental health disabilities (such as depression) at The Brighton and Hove Federation Of Disabled People.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Carer support
- Drug abuse
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Couples counselling
- Gestalt therapy
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I appreciate that counselling can be a big expense for people and so try to keep my fee's affordable.
Introductory Session: Free
Individual counselling fee: £35
Couples counselling fee: £50
Client feedback is used with consent and is anonymous, here is a small selection of the comments I have received.
What did you find was most useful about the counselling ?
"How much I opened up. I was relatively closed at the beginning but by the end I felt comfortable enough to talk about any issues I had. I felt that subsequently my attitude changed as well to certain problems I had".
"I feel I've gained a real ability to think more clearly and analytically, and am able to apply this to my own behavior and that of others"
"Graeme was really flexible about working on different things".
"From a personal perspective I have always been a closed person and have never really enjoyed talking about my issues or concerns.But Graeme allowed me to do so in a way that wasn't pushy but always managed to dig into my real problems. I definitely feel more confident now about the topics that we spoke together about and I genuinely believe he helped me to develop as a person".
"Finding a pattern in the way I experience anger so I could see an 'end' to feeling angry and stop getting annoyed with myself for feeling angry".
"Everything ! It helped me to focus my mind away from worrying/upsetting thoughts and therefore helped my anger to dissipate.It also helped to focus me on cutting my drinking right back and not using it as a crutch".
"The right mixture of understanding and 'pushing' to effect change in behavior"
"When I first came to see Graeme, I often felt I had anger that 'made my blood boil' and was often snappy or short with my wife over little things. Working with Graeme has been amazing. My wife says that I am a changed man and I'm pleased to say I haven't had the sensation of 'boiling blood' for a long time. I'm able to deal with anger and stress in a much more productive fashion. Graeme has provided me with a range of tools to help deal with stress and anger that are both practical and allow me to understand my own emotional states better"
What was the experience of working with me like ?
"Graeme was extremely easy to get along with.His non-judgemental approach meant that even if there was a subject I talked about which I wasn't particularly proud of, I felt comfortable enough to get it off my chest".
"I liked the way you seemed so enthusiastic talking about anger and felt that you were really genuinely interested on a personal level about my anger".
"It was great ! thanks for all your help. It was really helpful working with you".
"Graeme is a warm, kind and attentive counsellor that gave me a platform to discuss my life.He also helped guide me to a place where my drinking became more controlled and managed".
"It has always felt like I'm working with Graeme-rather than being told what to do or not to do-and each week there were little improvements that have now made me a happier, less stressed and less angry person".
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
I understand not everybody works 9-5 and offer a range of convenient counselling slots during week days including early mornings and evenings.
Types of client