Dilnia Horton

I am a qualified integrative counsellor, and registered member of the BACP. I work with adult clients, who see me for help with a variety of issues including anxiety, panic attacks, depression, low self-esteem and difficult relationship patterns.

How I work:

My intention is to provide a counselling space in which you feel safe and supported in order to explore whatever concerns you. I feel a trusting relationship between client and counsellor is vital. I also believe that counselling can provide a place for you to share your concerns at your pace, and be listened to fully, which often doesn’t happen in our daily lives. By listened to fully, I mean without judgement or disruption. Together, we can gain understanding to help you. Counselling is a two-way process, and I work in a collaborative and enabling way. My role isn’t to tell you what to do; I may gently challenge you, or offer insights or observations, but without being authoritative.

As an integrative counsellor, I work in the way that is most suitable to you.I will draw on a number of established counselling and therapeutic approaches depending on your needs. I don’t have a fixed or predetermined way of working therefore, as everyone is different and what helps one person may not suit you. We may explore behaviours, beliefs, feelings or habits that are concerning you, which may involve looking at past or present relationships or how past relationships affect you now.I work holistically, which may include exploring thoughts, emotions and bodily feelings, as our physical sensations can help us understand what is going on for us. I also may suggest creative tools such as drawing or writing, or visualisation. How we work will be agreed between us.

Emotional focaused therapy (EFT)

Emotionally focused couples therapy is based on the premise that a strong relationship is based on feeling that your partner is emotionally available and responsive to you. What this means is that your partner is a safe person for you to share your feelings with, someone you can depend on and reach out to when you need reassurance that they love you.

Emotionally focused couples therapy came out of research done by Dr Sue Johnson on adult attachment that demonstrated the importance of a couple feeling a secure safe bond together. She watched couples argue and realised that the driver behind arguments was that couples were attempting to reconnect to each other. They were attempting to get reassurance:

"Do I matter to you?"

"Do you love me?"

"Will you be there for me when I need you?"

"Can I count on you?"

The issue often is that when couples fight they get defensive and critical of each other and don’t recognise what core feelings are fuelling the argument. Underneath the anger and protest, the core feeling may be aloneness, powerlessness, feeling unloved, unworthy or "not feeling good enough". Emotionally focused therapists work with couples to de-escalate the conflict so there is enough trust and safety to speak about core feelings.

 I helps the couple to identify "feeling messages" and then face their partner and share what they're feeling and needing in an open, heart-based way. These heart-based enactments provide the couple with a new experience of reaching for each other. Effectively it’s asking for reassurance and learning how to express needs. They also experience being emotionally responsive to their partner, through giving reassurance and attending to their partners needs.

Why counselling therapy?

If you are at a crossroads in your life, therapy is a place to explore your options in a safe and contained environment. Sometimes there's no 'win-win', so we must choose, albeit with regret. I can offer support as you come to terms with change and adjustment. Sitting with me, I can hear what might seem unspeakable and can consider what might seem unthinkable. It is a confidential service. The prospect of talking to a stranger about your problems in life can be quite daunting. However, this could be a turning point in your life. During your sessions, we will together explore your issues in-depth, making meaning of difficult feelings and patterns, and how it may be a call for change and transformation.

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Are you a student?

I have a concessions rate for students, just drop a line and I will give you my answer soon and support you to get out of your issues.

Some information about me
As an integrative counsellor, I use psychodynamic principles, incorporating with person-centred and cognitive behavioural therapy, Emotional focused therapy and many other creative therapies in my work. I have experience in counselling within the Health services and other primary care settings. I work with adults on a 1:1 basis, offering short term or longer, open-ended support.

My aim is to foster a positive and honest therapeutic relationship, an experience, which you can take, forward and improve your relationships on the outside.

Confidentiality

I provide a confidential, safe, non-judgmental space to explore what may be contributing to your current difficulties providing you with an opportunity to gain another perspective and explore other options and ways of managing your issues.

Availability 
Tuesday 1PM- 3pm

Wednesday 8am - 10 am

Thursday 8am- 10am, then 1pm - 3pm

I provide individual therapy, and couple therapy both short and long term sessions.

You can follow me on LinkedIn as Dilnia Horton

Other areas of counselling I can work with

I have experience working with anxiety, trauma, losses and low self-esteem, Rape, trauma, eating disorders, anxiety, relationship issues, anger, culture differences, struggles with study, acceptance. etc
I also have experience working especially with women who had history of abuse and trauma that are impacting on their wellbeing, self-esteem and relationships.
As a counsellor I believe in mindfulness, I also work with people who might struggle to find a balance between their beliefs and the difficulties they are encountering.


Contact me by phone, or email me and we can arrange a day and time suits both of us.

• Face to Face can be paid on the day in cash from £80-£120 depending on earnings. Couples therapy is £120
• Online session is £70 and paid in advance of the session (at least 48 hours) through bank transfer. Payment is made into my account and then we can organise our sessions.
• I also have the option "concessions" to book 6 sessions in advance to take advantage of the reduced price of £420 which is 6 sessions for £70 each.
• I listen to your needs and what you can afford to pay, Instead of stay in pain come forward and we will work together and find the right fee you could afford and no obstacle toward your progress,
  
  I do look forward to working with you.
  
  Please contact me by email and I will always try to respond promptly.

Here is my website for more information

https://dilnia-counselling.co.uk