Debbie Orfila Dip. Couns. MBACP Registered Member
West Winterslow, Salisbury
01980 863967 / 07803 255172
Welcome to Celestial Counselling.
Everyone will experience emotional difficulties at some point in their lives. Counselling can help you feel empowered and become better equipped in dealing with those tough times. Therapy will encourage self-exploration and help you develop coping strategies.
I am a Humanistic, BACP Registered Counsellor. “Being on this register provides reassurance to clients, employers and the general public that I adhere to high standards of proficiency and good practice” (BACP 2016).
My core approach is Humanistic. I offer Person-Centred, Gestalt and Transactional Analysis, depending upon the needs of the client.
Humanistic therapy adopts a ‘holistic approach’ to human existence and pays special attention to free will, fulfilling one’s potential and individual choice. The aim of Humanistic therapy is to help develop a stronger, healthier sense of self; thus gaining a sense of meaning with whatever is causing you difficulties. It is particularly beneficial for those who are wishing to feel more in control of their lives.
Person-centred therapy provides a supportive space to explore and re-establish your true identity. This approach is based on the idea that fear of judgement prevents people from sharing their true selves with the world around them. This can result in building your life around other people. Person-centred counselling can support you in letting go of any criticism or beliefs others’ have imposed upon you and help you to feel yourself again.
Gestalt therapy focuses on the thoughts and feelings in the present moment. It concentrates on understanding what and how you are feeling, rather than identifying what is causing your feelings. Therefore, any guilt, anger, sadness or shame can be released through this process and healing can occur.
Transactional Analysis looks at possible root causes, increasing your awareness of unconsciously held ideas. By becoming aware of these, you then have the option of changing aspects of your life to how you wish them to be.
I will offer you a safe, confidential and non-judgemental space, where I will support you to explore issues and beliefs that are affecting your life. I will listen and offer emphatic responses to help you untangle the issues you are wrestling with.
I work with adults and young people and specialise in addiction, depression, anxiety, bereavement, stress and anger management. I also work with a wide range of issues, which include low self-esteem, lack of confidence, relationship difficulties and self-harm. Other areas I work with are listed below.
For those seeking a deeper meaning and purpose, I will work ‘holistically’ to achieve your desired balance between mind, body and soul.
My practice is situated between Salisbury and Andover, in a delightful, rural and calm setting. Take a look at the pictures below for a glimpse of what you can expect.
This is a challenging condition that can affect anyone. It develops slowly, often without your awareness. For some people it starts from seeking the experience of a good time. For others, it can be a coping mechanism from emotional or physical pain. Whatever the reason behind an addiction developing, the Addiction Cycle (see photo below) highlights how the process is perpetuated.
An event or situation produces emotional pain (Emotional Trigger), which activates a craving. A ritual is formed, where one obsesses over how things will be after the use of substances or repeated activity. This results in a person ‘using’; whether that is via a substance or habitual action such as exercise. The individual can then feel a sense of guilt, therefore triggering thoughts that they will stop the behaviour or not misuse the substance in the future. However, after a period of time, the person begins to experience the internal pain again, which then causes the cycle to start afresh.
How can counselling help addiction?
I will offer a space to explore the underlying issues surrounding your addiction. This will help to take back control of your life and increase empowerment. I will support you to recognise the void in your life that the addictive activity plugged; therefore, helping you to feel ‘whole’ again.
This is a common illness caused by many things such as environmental and physiological factors. Most mental health experts now agree that brain chemistry plays a major role, however life experiences affect the chemicals in your brain and some people become depressed after experiencing a trauma or stressful life change. This is called ‘reactive’ depression. Experiences such as separation, divorce, the death of a spouse, being made redundant, financial instability, relocation, or a decline in health are common triggers. In its mildest form, depression can result in a person being in ‘low spirits’. It doesn't stop you leading a normal life, but makes everything harder to do and seem less worthwhile. At its most severe, major depression (clinical depression) can be life-threatening, because it can cause suicidal feelings, whereby individuals are struggling to find any hope or enjoyment in life.
How can counselling help with your depression?
Together we can explore your depression to gain understanding and pinpoint its’ source. Many times simply identifying the root causes of depression can enhance the outcome and provide some relief. Together we can also look at and access your strengths, autonomy, and capacity for change.
Anxiety is a word we use to describe feelings of fear, worry and unease. It incorporates both the emotions and the physical sensations we might experience when we are worried or nervous about something. Although we usually find it unpleasant, anxiety is related to the ‘fight or flight response’, which is our normal biological reaction to feeling threatened. Back in the time of hunting and gathering, anxiety served us well, but today with so many things to stimulate the brain, our bodies get confused and aren't sure what we should be fighting or fleeing from.
How can counselling help your anxiety?
By exploring together, the root causes of these feelings, I can help you address any underlying beliefs, thoughts, actions, and behaviours that are preventing you from leading a more fulfilled life.
There are times where you have so much to think about, or don't have much control over what happens. When placed under too much pressure, the feelings we get will sometimes cause a perception of being like a ‘rabbit caught in the headlights’ and life can become difficult to cope with. Occasionally stress feels like a blanket of fog has come over you and it can be difficult to find your way through. High levels of stress can have a negative effect on physical and mental health.
How can counselling help with your stress?
Together we can discuss the underlying issues that may be causing stress in your life and work on identifying your personal triggers. Once these have been pinpointed, ways of coping with them can be explored.
Most people feel angry sometimes, it's part of being human. Anger is the natural response to feeling attacked, deceived, frustrated or treated unfairly. It isn't always a negative emotion, but it can become a problem when it starts to harm you and others around you. Does your anger negatively impact your overall mental and physical health? Does it cause destructive behaviour? Anger can have an adverse impact on your relationships and work. It can also change the way you feel about yourself.
How can counselling help with anger?
Together we can look at your thought patterns and explore the reasons behind how you interpret situations and react in life. We can explore if past experiences have shaped the way you respond today and look at productive strategies to handle your anger.
Coping with the loss of someone close takes you through a range of emotions. There is no time limit and no right or wrong way to feel. Sometimes you are shocked and upset by your changing and powerful emotions when bereaved. At other times, you can be taken unaware when grief suddenly creeps up on you unannounced. Bereavement is very personal and I will support you to cope in your own way.
How can counselling help with bereavement?
Counselling can give you time and space to talk about the person/pet who has died. You may need help and support following a bereavement that happened a long time ago. Are you stuck in your grief and unable to move on? Is your grief stopping you from coping with everyday life? We can work together to understand your process and how the loss of someone dear has impacted on your life.
Training, qualifications & experience
My qualifications are accredited by the UK’s Counselling Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body, CPCAB, and I work under the Ethical Framework of the BACP. The spiritual side of my qualifications, Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Skills and Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Studies, were gained through an approved CPCAB Psycho-spiritual counselling course operated in Glastonbury.
I completed my Diploma in Bournemouth, where I studied Integrative Counselling, which is a combination of Person-Centred, Gestalt and Transactional Analysis. I have completed the Certificate of Proficiency with the BACP, which allows me to gain entry onto their professional register.
An obligation of my training was to work with an independent counsellor and so I have experienced, first-hand, what it is like to undergo personal work in a safe and supportive environment.
I am also trained in Motivational Enhancement Therapy, a form of motivational interviewing which enables the client to focus on change.
Kings College London on Drugs and Alcohol - Understanding Addiction.
ASIST Training (Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training).
Psychology and Mental Health.
Motivational Enhancement Therapy.
Working with Anger and Young People.
Psycho-Spiritual Counselling Continuation.
Drug and Alcohol Awareness Training.
Volatile Substance Abuse Professional Training.
CBT- Differences and similarities between CBT and the Person-Centred Approach.
On-line Therapeutic Presence.
Addictions from an Attachment Perspective.
I am a Volunteer Counsellor with Turning Point, where I work with issues around drug and alcohol addiction.
I have worked with young people between the ages of 13 and 25 at YPI Young Peoples Independent Counselling Service in Basingstoke. Here, I worked with depression, anxiety, stress, self-harm, body image, anger and bullying.
I have also trained and worked with The Samaritans. This has given me much experience of working with clients’ who feel suicidal.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Carer support
- Drug abuse
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Panic disorder
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Relationship issues
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My sessions are charged at the rate of £40. Payment is due at the end of each session via cash or cheque.
I will consider home visits.
Concessions are available to students, counselling students and those of limited means.
Each session lasts 50 minutes and I work on a WEEKLY or FORTNIGHTLY basis, unless either party is on holiday.
Cancellation requires 48 hours. In the event this is not possible, the counselling fee of £40.00 will be payable.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Daytime, evening and weekend appointments available. Short term and open ended counselling offered.
Types of client