Benji Gross MBACP(Accred)

Benji Gross MBACP(Accred)

Beaconsfield
High Wycombe
Buckinghamshire
HP9

Muswell Hill Consulting Rooms
1 Greenham Road
Muswell Hill
London
N10 1LN

07796 537632

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Beaconsfield
High Wycombe
Buckinghamshire
HP9

Muswell Hill Consulting Rooms
1 Greenham Road
Muswell Hill
London
N10 1LN

07796 537632

About me

If you’re looking for support for your child it can be a worrying time for you. It’s important to find a therapist who can understand the unique needs of your child.  Here, I’d like to outline some of the principles of my approach, based on my experience of working with children and young people with a wide range of needs, over the past 25 years.  For a full CV of my experience please see the section below entitled, “Training, qualifications & experience”.

My approach is psychodynamic, which means I build a trusting relationship with the child, and change takes place as we reflect together on their relationship with me, and others in their life.   I provide a safe place for them to explore their feelings and employ a number of techniques which help the child to connect with me and express their feelings openly.  These include dialogue, imaginative play, enacting situations, small-world play, music and other artistic self-expression. I help my young clients make links between what they are doing in their sessions with me and the way they are experiencing their lives and the people in it.  By doing this I help them to become more aware of their inner world which leads to positive changes in their behaviour and attitudes. I use Mindfulness in my counselling work, which helps develop focus, kindness and peacefulness within the sessions.

If you’d like to discuss your child’s needs and start to explore the possibility of us working together please contact me for an initial free consultation.

Training, qualifications & experience

I am a qualified teacher.  I have an MSc in Psychodynamic Counselling with Children and Adolescents from Birkbeck College, University of London and I am an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.

I currently work as a School Counsellor in an infant school and a secondary school (each one day a week) and also work with clients privately. I teach a small class of infant children on the autistic spectrum two days a week.  I also work as a teacher in a specialist Saturday provision in a primary school Barnet where the focus is on making learning fun.

Here is my CV for more detailed information about my training, qualifications and experience:

Benjamin Paul Gross

BSc, PGCE (Primary and Secondary), PGCE (Early Years), MSc, MBACP(Accred)

EDUCATION

MSc  Psychodynamic Counselling with Children and Adolescents                         

         Birkbeck College, University of London, Malet St,  London,   WC1E 7HX

PGCE  Learning and Teaching:  The Foundation Stage                                        

         Middlesex University,  Trent Park,   Bramley Rd,       London,     N14 4YZ

PGCE (KS1 and 2)  Roehampton Institute London,  Roehampton Lane,  London,   SW15 5PU

BSc Hons 2(1) Human Sciences (4 yrs)    School of Biological Sciences

         Units in Education, Psychology in Education, Sociology, Anthropology and Philosophy

         University of Sussex,               Falmer,            East Sussex,     BN1 9RH

A levels – English, Maths, Physics     Nine O Levels                                                 

         William Ellis School,              Highgate Rd,    London,           NW5 1RN

CONTINUING PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT

Protecting Ourselves against Terrorism, Working to Raise Awareness of Prevent

Paul Smith UKCT Support Services and Mark Webster, Metropolitan Police,                               24th Oct 2016

Give Back Generation Programme The Art of Meditation (Guy Burgs) Jan 2016 until Jan 2017 (in progress)

Symposium - Our Future: a Lancet Commission on Adolescent Health and Wellbeing   UCL 10th May 2016

Long-Term Outcomes of Early Child-Parent Attachment: Recent Findings and Neurobiological Correlates

Institute of Child Health (Professor Pasco Fearon)                                                                          9th Mar 2016

Safeguarding & Child Protection  Local Safeguarding Children Board (Emma Biskupski)            26th Jan 2016

Foetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder in Children: Not disruptive, Defiant or Disobedient but Disabled

The Catholc Children’s Society (Dr Mary Mather)                                                                26th Oct 2015

Blood Brothers and Ugly Sisters. The Eighth Annual Conference for Counsellors Working in Schools

King Alfred’s College, Wantage (Nick Luxmoore)                                                                17th Sept 2015

Conducting Staff Support Groups in the Helping Professions Ewa Wojciechowska        Nov 2012 - Mar 2015 (7 days)

Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)   Anni Sanderson        Oct 2014 – Mar 2015 (9 twilights and one full day)

Legal Aspects of Therapeutic Work with Children and Young People       Peter Jenkins     15th Dec 2014

Domestic Violence                            The Catholic Children’s Society (Lavinia Musters)       21st July 2014

Autism: Zero Degrees of Empathy  The King Alfred School (Professor Simon Baron Cohen)  8th April 2014

Body-Image and Self-Harm  The King Alfred School (Tanya Byron)                                        4th March 2014

Bereavement and Groupwork         The Catholic Children’s Society           (internal)       17th February 2014

Angels or Demons? The Sixth Annual Conference for Counsellors Working in Schools

King Alfred’s College, Wantage (Nick Luxmoore)                                                                      19th Sept 2013

Relationships in the Nursery: Feeling Thought about and Responded to

University of Roehampton (Peter Elfer)                                                                                                                                          20th March 2013

Start Making Sense - Conference for Counsellors Working in Schools

King Alfred’s College, Wantage                                                                                          20th Sept 2012

Developmental Social Neuroscience

Institute of Child Health, University of London (Professor Vicki Anderson)                                  18th April 2012

The Impact of Postnatal Depression on Child Development

Institute of Child Health, University of London, Otto Wolff Lecture (Professor Alan Stein)       12th March 2012

Love: An Interdisciplinary Seminar - Psychoanalysis Unit, UCL (Michael Brearley)             8th March 2012

Infancy: An Interdisciplinary Seminar - Psychoanalysis Unit, UCL (Lionel Bailly, Peter Fonagy) 6th October 2011

Autism – An Introduction to Including Children with ASD in School - Hackney                    11th Jan 2011

Siblings: An Interdisciplinary Seminar - Psychoanalysis Unit, UCL (Juliet Mitchell)           11th March 2010

Restorative Approaches in Education - TransformingConflict.org (Belinda Hopkins)     Nov 12th -16th 2007 (5 days)

Solution Focused Therapy – BRIEF                                                              Mar 12th-16th 2001 (5 days)

PROFESSIONAL MEMBERSHIPS

ACCREDITED MEMBER, British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).

Member since Sept 2003.     Accredited Member since August 2015 – accreditation registration no. 060836

PUBLICATIONS

“Protecting Clients’ Privacy,” in the BACP quarterly journal, Children & Young People- For counsellors and psychotherapists working with young people, September 2016.  http://www.bacp.co.uk/docs/pdf/15636_bacp%20cyp%20september%202016%20finals%20to%20press.pdf

It has also been published on the internet - https://tenpencemore.wordpress.com/2016/12/10/school-counsellor-guest-blog-what-i-do-to-protect-clients-privacy-and-why/

“Bullying as an Attack on Difference,” Lesson and circle time,Hertfordshire School Standards and Effectiveness   http://www.thegrid.org.uk/learning/pshe/ks1-2/resources/relationships/, July 2010

“Anti-Bullying Toolkit,” Hertfordshire Anti-Bullying Initiative,Hertfordshire School Standards and Effectiveness   toolkit_curriculum.pdf, (written With Judy Banham) March 2009

EMPLOYMENT

TEACHER (two days per week -  CURRENT)     Oct 2016 -  present

Carrington Infant School 2 Chapel Rd, Flackwell Heath, High Wycombe HP10 9AA

  • Teaching children with ASD in the Additional Resource Provision (ARP) Class

STUDENT SUPPORT COUNSELLOR (one day per week - CURRENT)Dec 2009 – present

Langdon Park [Secondary] School, Byron Street, Tower Hamlets, London, E14 0RZ

  • Providing counselling for children and young people
  • Planning to meet the needs of children as a school team and with other agencies within the borough
  • Leading meetings with carers and parents to coordinate support for clients
  • Providing consultation to teachers to help improve students’ ability to access school opportunities and to raise their achievement
  • Implementation and organisation of accurate and confidential record-keeping and report-writing
  • Attending fortnightly clinical supervision with a Child Psychotherapist and a Group Analyst
  • Conducting a weekly reflective practice peer support group for school staff

PLAY THERAPIST
(
one day per week -CURRENT)                                                                                     Feb 2014 - present

Catholic Children’s Society,73 St Charles Square, London W10 6EJ

  • Providing counselling for children
  • Planning to meet the needs of children as a school team and with other agencies within the borough
  • Leading meetings with carers and parents to coordinate support for clients
  • Providing consultation to teachers to help improve students’ ability to access school opportunities and to raise their achievement
  • Implementation and organisation of accurate and confidential record-keeping and report-writing
  • Attending fortnightly clinical supervision with a Child Psychotherapist and a Group Analyst

SPECIALIST TEACHER (one day per week -  CURRENT)                                                                                                        Jan 2015 – present

The Hyde School, Hyde Crescent, West Hendon, London, NW9 7EY

  •         Teaching pupils a wide range of subjects in a play–oriented Saturday school for local pupils from deprived backgrounds for whom we accessed temporary funding to provide this service (singing, music, art, games).

SCHOOL COUNSELLOR
Jan 2014 – May 2015

The King Alfred School, Manor Wood, North End Road, London NW11 7HY

  • Providing counselling for young people.
  • Planning to meet the needs of children as a school team and with other agencies within the borough
  • Leading meetings with carers and parents to coordinate support for clients
  • Providing consultation to teachers to help improve students’ ability to access school opportunities and to raise their achievement
  • Implementation and organisation of accurate and confidential record-keeping and report-writing
  • Attending fortnightly clinical supervision with a Child Psychotherapist and a Group Analyst
  • Planning and delivering Citizenship lessons for classes and year groups to address issues affecting students
  • Delivering training for teachers and modelling Citizenship lessons and circle time lessons
  • Writing and delivering a Student Peer Mentoring training for the school

SCHOOL COUNSELLOR April 2010 – Aug 2013

Brook Community Primary School, Sigdon Road, Hackney, London, Hackney E8 1AS

  • Same duties as detailed above (for the School Counsellor role at Langdon Park School).

CLASS TEACHERApr 2013 – Aug 2013

The Reintegration into Education Team, Storey Centre, Woodman Street, Newham, London E16 2LS

The Reintegration into Education Team provide placements for vulnerable primary aged pupils on fixed term exclusions, managed moves/permanent exclusions and offer respite placements to prevent permanent exclusions. We work closely with parents and other agencies.

  • Teaching pupils in small classes

CLASS TEACHER Jan 2013 – April 2013

The Courtyard, Langford Primary School, Gilstead Road, Fulham, London, SW6 2LG

The Courtyard is a Primary Pupil Referral Unit catering for children with social, behavioural and emotional difficulties.  The

              intention is to re-integrate the children back into a mainstream school.

  • Teaching pupils in small classes
  • Delivering a personally tailored Personal, Social, Health and Citizenship (PSHCE) programme entitled, ‘Managing Conflict’.

TEACHER/SCHOOL COUNSELLORSept 2011 – Dec 2012

New Horizons Federation, Woodside Road, Bexleyheath, Kent, DA7 6LB

  •       Providing professional supervision for a Head Teacher and a complementary therapist at Pathways Primary Pupil Referral Unit
  •          Conducting Reflective Practice Groups for staff at Westbrooke School - a school that caters for primary age school children with Social, Emotional and Behavioural Difficulties.
  • Providing counselling for primary and secondary age school children with Social, Emotional and Behavioural Difficulties

Teaching whole classes and individual students at Oakwood School, a secondary mixed day school and at Pathways Primary Pupil Referral Unit.  These schools cater for students experiencing social, emotional and behavioural difficulties.

  • Implementation and organisation of confidential record-keeping and report-writing
  • Leading meetings with school staff, carers and parents to coordinate support for students
    •         Developing Anti-Bullying initiatives and teaching students Peer Support skills (mediation, mentoring and buddying)
    •         Link Teacher for Student School Council
    •              Developing student-led eco-school initiatives, such as growing vegetables and outdoor bushcraft education

SCHOOLS SUPPORT AND DEVELOPMENT TEACHER Sept 2004 – Aug 2011

         Minority Ethnic Curriculum Service, Hertfordshire Standards and School Effectivenes

              Hertfordshire Development Centre, Robertson House, Six Hills Way, Stevenage, Herts, SG1 2FQ

  • Delivered training to school staff on inclusion, race-equality practice, Traveller education and cultures
  • Provided consultation for teachers and school staff to raise the achievement of students from ethnic minorities eg Travellers and                 refugees
  • Taught individual pupils, small groups and whole classes to model good race equality practice for teachers and LSAs
  • Worked with subject leaders to enhance school curricula with educational materials and resources
  • Reviewed and updated the Hertfordshire Minority Ethnic Curriculum Service Handbook for Learning Mentors.
  • Wrote a scheme of work about Olympic and Paralympic values and qualities, in partnership with the Black and Minority Ethnic                   Achievement Team, which was rolled out to primary and secondary schools throughout Hertfordshire for 2011-12.
  • Managed countywide drama and music programmes to raise student achievement and promote community cohesion, which         involved supervising external workshop leaders and teaching classes.
  • Wrote and delivered self-esteem and confidence in literacy programmes for small group work, targeting pupils with complex      emotional needs

Oct 2007 – April 2008   Travelling in Asia

INDEPENDENT Education and Youthwork Consultant                      April 2006 – present

         Hockerill Anglo-European College, Dunmow Road, Bishop's Stortford, Hertfordshire, CM23 5HX  4th October 2011                     Training students in Peer Mentoring (sixth form)

         Langdon Park School, Byron Street, Tower Hamlets, London, E14 0RZ          14th November 2011                               Training students in Peer Mentoring (secondary)

         Meynell Games,  11 Beachy Head Road,  Eastbourne,  BN20 7QN                 July 1989 – present

  • Large scale games leader at summer events
  • Delivering training to playwork and education practitioners throughout the country - ‘Promoting Positive Behaviour’, ‘Equal                     Opportunities Practice’, music, drama, art and games leadership
  • Responsible for managing summer play schemes (for children age 5-12) for seven years (1989-96)
  • Coordinated four playschemes in 1996 involving interviewing, selection, training, management and supervision of staff,                             designing, delivering and monitoring the playscheme provision and writing a report for the client, Barnet council.

         Hertfordshire Anti-Bullying Initiative, Standards and Schools Effectiveness April 2006 – Jan 2011

              Hertfordshire Development Centre, Robertson House, Six Hills Way, Stevenage, Herts, SG1 2FQ

  •          Delivering training to senior school leaders and staff to implement peer support programmes in over 50 primary and secondary                            schools
  • Training school staff as mediators and mentors
  •          Mediating disputes between students
  •          Teaching students Peer Support skills- Peer Mentoring (secondary), Peer Mediation and Befriending/Buddying (primary)
  • Developing the initiatives and writing resources

         Use the Key, www.usethekey.org.uk                                                               June – July 2008

  •          Supported school leadership teams by providing practical, expertly researched answers to questions on aspects of school                                       leadership and management related to inclusion and community cohesion.

         Oxford Kilburn Club (OK Club), 45 Denmark Road, London, NW6 5BP         April 2006 – June 2006

  •         Wrote and delivered training entitled ‘Psychodynamic perspectives in working with young people’ to youth workers to develop                           their skills in providing emotional support for young people. The training involved ten units covering Communication, How do                         young people experience me? How who I am affects my work, Adolescence, Challenging bullying and accepting difference,                      Belonging to a gang, When to control and when to contain? Peer feedback

EARLY YEARS COORDINATOR, TEACHER                                   Sept 2002 – Aug 2004

         Brunswick Park Primary School, Osidge Lane, Barnet, N14 5DU

  • Head of Early Years Department, Teacher of Reception and Nursery Classes (Age 3-5) in a free flow unit, managing seven      members of staff
  • Curriculum Coordinator for Personal, Social, Health and Citizenship Education
  • Link teacher for Pupils’ School Council

TEACHER, PSHCE MANAGER                                           Sept 2001 – Aug 2002

         Shenley Primary School, London Rd, Shenley, Hertfordshire, WD7 9DX

  • Teacher of Reception Class
  • Manager of Personal, Social, Health and Citizenship Education
  • Reviewed the Anti-Racism policy and Race-Equality policy in the light of new guidance for the school in consultation with        teachers and governors.  Developed a procedure for monitoring multi-cultural education throughout the curriculum
  • Link Teacher for Pupils’ School Council, Co-ordinator of School Drama Club

LEARNING MENTOR                                                                                              Jan 2001 – Aug 2001

Gospel Oak School, Mansfield Rd, Camden, London, NW3 2JB

  • Designed and delivered individual programmes to help children overcome barriers to learning
  • Worked with a wide variety of staff such as Headteachers, Deputy Heads, Special Educational Needs Co-ordinators, Class              Teachers, Carers, Parents, Educational Psychologists, Speech Therapists, Educational Therapists and School Support Staff
  • Resourced mentoring room with art materials and play equipment
  • Designed formats for referral procedures and action plans
  • Home visits

TEACHER, PSHCE COORDINATOR                                                           Sept 1999 – Dec 2000

         Wessex Gardens Primary School, Wessex Gardens, Barnet, London, NW11 9RR

  • Teacher of Year 3
  • Ran the School Drama club.  Directed a production entitled, “Romeo and Juliet in Wonderland”, which was performed to parents                  and children of the school twice and for a charity fundraising event for ‘The Food Chain’ (Reg. Ch. No. 1003014) in a local    community centre
  • Link Teacher for Pupils’ School Council

TEAM LEADER, THERAPEUTIC GROUP FACILITATOR                                     April 1997 - Aug 1999

Keeping Kids Company, Registered charity number1068298, 259 Grosvenor Court, London SE5 ONP

  • Management of placement counselling staff and administration of projects at Copenhagen Primary School, Islington and Bounds               Green Junior School in Haringey.
  • Supported young people (age range 3-19) with emotional and behaviour difficulties at school and in youth centres, working      closely with their parents
  • Researched and made applications to sources of funding, raising £5000 for the charity
  • Attended case review meetings
  • Developed and conducted therapeutic activities to support class teachers with behaviour management issues
  • Directed two dramatic productions which were performed to parents and children
  • Organised trips to a variety of venues in Britain
  • Attended weekly clinical group supervision with a child psychotherapist

Sept 1996 – April 1997  Travelling in South America

SPECIALIST PLAYWORKER/ GROUPWORK FACILITATOR                                 Sept 1995 – Sept 1996

         The Place2Be, Registered charity number 1040756, Carlton Primary School, Grafton Rd, London, NW3 4AX

  • Planned and delivered therapeutic activities for children with emotional and behavioural difficulties, individually and in small                  groups, in collaboration with Place2Be placement therapists and the Place2Be Team Leader
  • Attended multi–agency meetings including case review meetings
  • Managed and trained youthworkers and volunteers
  • Organised an ‘Environmental Exhibition’ in order to raise money from the Business in the Community Fund
  • Conducted interviews to research children’s attitudes to school and Place2Be
  • Attended weekly clinical group supervision

RESEARCHER                                                                                                          April 1995 – Aug 1995

HCP Productions, Mentorn Films,Elsinore House, 77 Fulham Palace Road, London  W6 8JA

Researched indigenous music and dance around the world for a documentary film.  This involved tracing and interviewing                   people in Britain, Ecuador, Colombia and Peru.  The research was used to make the acclaimed documentary series, “Tribe”.

Sept 1994- April 1995           Travelling in Asia

Oct 1993- March 1994           Travelling in Israel

VOLUNTARY EMPLOYMENT

SCHOOL COUNSELLOR                                                                                         Jan 2006 – Oct 2006

         A Space, Shacklewell Primary School, Shacklewell Row, Hackney, London, E8 2EA

  • Counselling young people between the ages of 7 and 11
  • Attended weekly individual supervision

COUNSELLOR                                                                                                         Jan 2005 – Oct 2006

         331 Young People’s Centre, 331 Ballard’s Lane, North Finchley, London, N12 8LJ

  • Counselling young people between the ages of 13 and 19
  • Attended fortnightly group supervision
  • Conducted a study of organisational dynamics by observing meetings

PERFORMANCE ARTIST                                                                                        Sept 1993 – Aug 1994

         The Rainbow Family

         Co-organised and performed in a tour of the major cites of Israel.  The show, entitled “The Five Elements” combined drama, music and dance, and conveyed our experiences of living together in nature.  The performers were international and included Israelis and Palestinians.

INTERESTS

I organise eco-camps in Europe most summers, where I oversee the children’s activities, programming and leading outdoor bushcraft activities and wide games.  I enjoy camping and walking, football, surfing, snowboarding and horse-riding.  I play guitar in orchestras and a band and compose music.  I practice mindfulness meditation, Kung Fu, Qi Gong and Yoga and am a long-distance runner and swimmer.  I play Chess and Go.  I am attracted by different customs and philosophies and the people, art, music and literature of different cultures.  I have travelled extensively in Europe, Australasia, Asia and South America, collaborating with a range of people.  I can speak French and Spanish and am studying Hindi and Bahasa Indonesia.   I was a member of the drama and music societies at The University of Sussex and The Roehampton Institute London, and was Odysseus in the play at William Ellis.  I have a clean driving license.

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

BACP

Accredited register membership

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Counselling for children and young people

Peer Support training for Schools; Buddy Systems, Peer Mediation and Peer Mentoring.

Fees

£50 per hour - although this is negotiable according to varying circumstances

Maps & Directions

High Wycombe, HP9
London, N10 1LN

Type of session

Online counselling: No
Telephone counselling: Yes
Face to face counselling: Yes

Practical details

Sign language: Unspecified
Other languages: None

Availability

I am available on Mondays in the day and evening and in the evenings on Wednesdays and Thursdays.

Types of client

Children
Young people
Adults
Families
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