Aubyn De Lisle MUKCP, BACP Reg.
585A Fulham Road
I am an experienced practitioner and have a private practice in Market Harborough, Leicestershire and Fulham Broadway in central London SW6. I provide counselling and psychotherapy to adult individuals, and professional supervision to other practitioners. You may feel trapped with relationship issues, work problems, depression, anger or anxiety or post traumatic stress. Family issues and anxiety are also increasingly recognised. In these cases and more psychotherapy and counselling are a powerful resource for living life to the full: you don't have to put up with just surviving.
Many people feel they are blocked from living a fullfilled, happy life and know where the causes lie but can't see where to begin with them. Other people might seem, from outward view, to have a perfectly good life. They can't place their finger on what the cause of their anxiety, depression or block is, they just know it is there. Perhaps there is difficulty with self-expression, the sense of yourself being reduced, squeezed or confined somewhere very small or invisible.
In all these instances, I can work with you in central London or Market Harborough at your own pace, toward aims that you choose. My approach is integrative, oriented to fit each individual, and I know that it is our relationship as much as anything else that is key to success. I work with sensitivity and respect together with you to offer help in the face of particular problems, or the most prolonged and intense difficulties. I can also offer EMDR (eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing) when appropriate.
People have described me as a counsellor having "extraordinary clarity of insight", "very grounded", "real integrity", "warmth", "a refuge", "helps people progress", "reassuring", "inspiring", "exceptional wisdom", "safe", "gentle humour", "adds an extra dimension of spirituality". Clients can come to me direct, and I also take referrals from GP's, the NHS, personnel departments, and other health practitioners.
For example, I work with the following issues:
- Stress and anxiety
- Problems with confidence, self-esteem
- Relationship issues, divorce
- Dealing with loss, bereavement
- Family and parenting difficulties
- Problems at work
- Eating disorders, self harm
- Unresolved issues from the past, abuse
- Dreams and nightmares
Training, qualifications & experience
Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy
EMDR Training parts 1 & 2 with EMDRIA approved course (Alexandra Richman, MA (Clin Psych).
Attachment Focussed EMDR 3 day intensive with Laurel Parnell
Voluntary practice at The Bower House, Market Harborough
Victim Support Serious Crimes Unit Leicester, specialising in domestic violence
CBT training (British Psychological Society accredited)
Psychodynamic, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Creative Imagination, TA/Relational training
DSM psychiatric diagnostic training
Somatic Experiencing/working with Body centred awareness in psychotherapy
Hoffman Process 2007
Transformed Self (Australia) 2009
PGCE (Secondary teaching)
Previously in multinational corporate business, and also in small business as an employer and manager.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Attachment disorder
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Dreams and nightmares
Non-specific dissatisfaction with life
Two day experiential workshop by arrangement: The Transformative Power of Not Knowing
Bower Support Services: Enhancing your Toolkit series for Counsellors and Psychotherapists: Working With Dreams. A morning CPD workshop in two parts.
Professional supervision to other practitioners.
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Cognitive therapy
- Existential therapy
- Gestalt therapy
£50 in Leicestershire, £60 after 5pm
£60 in London, £70 after 5pm
- Being heard and understood in counselling
- Boundaries - Why they matter and how to recognise them
- Anxiety and the guilt factor
- Opening to possibility in counselling
- Relationship trouble and physical reactions
- The wounded self – The torture of narcissism
- EMDR and how it can resolve stress and PTSD
- Getting to the Root of Unhappiness, Anxiety and Depression
- Understanding Self-Destructive Relationships
- How Counselling or Psychotherapy can Help
- Money issues in counselling
- Couples in counselling and genograms
- Defusing Anxiety and Pride through the Therapeutic Process
- Cyber Bullying and Trolls – Time to get to grips with it
- The Challenge and Potential in Not Knowing
- Suffering and Pleasure in the Counselling Process: Opening Pandora’s Box
- Relationship Problems and the Stories We Live By
- Repairing Emotional Damage through Therapeutic Relationship
- Can Depression be Linked with Optimism?
My approach is very much directed by the individual client, and depends on trust in the relationship. Sometimes therapy looks like 'just talking', with the client doing most of the talking - although a great deal of training has gone into that process. I also offer EMDR when appropriate. However below I outline two other aspects of the way I sometimes work.
Working through body awareness
Increasingly, I have become convinced that an effective, gentle and profound way to access real and permanent change is through working with the way feelings and traumatic reactions become trapped in the body. Without any 'hands on' contact, but by gently guiding the client to bring sensations to awareness and work with them positively it is possible to create release from trauma which may have unconsciously been trapped for years. How this looks is like the client simply sitting in their chair, concentrating on the sensations in their body, and sharing with, being watched and guided by the therapist. There is a wealth of neurological research - polyvagal theory is one perspective, Somatic Experience another - to explain and support why and how this works.
Working with dreams and images
Have a look at the 'articles and workshops' page on my website www.adlpsychotherapy.co.uk to read about the value of working with dreams. Their powerful images, feelings, and their freedom from the 'sense' imposed by our consiousness with help of a therapist offer a way to see and understand deeply - that 'aha! awareness - that we simply can't gain by ourselves or with the aid of books.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Monday, Tuesday in London and Wednesday and Thursday in Market Harborough.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|
Supervision & training
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