Anthony Frost

I’m Anthony Frost and I am a Psychosexual (Sex) and Relationship Therapist with additional training in Sex Addiction Counselling for compulsive sexual behaviour and out of control pornography use. My original training was as a Psychotherapist and CBT therapist, so I also work effectively with issues such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and trauma, all of which often co-present with sexual and relationship issues. I am also trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing) which is a form of therapy that helps you process and recover from past traumatic experiences may be affecting your mental health and well-being. My clients regularly experience positive change in their lives, taking away from the experience a deeper and more helpful understanding of both them and their partner (with the proviso that you do have to do the work).  I am based in South-West London: Kensington SW5 and Putney SW15. I offer in-person, face to face appointments or online via Zoom. 

Psychotherapy or Counselling? 
Counselling tends to be shorter-term and focuses on supporting you through a current difficult experience whereas Psychotherapy typically involves a more in-depth process of self-exploration, for example, looking at how ways of thinking, feeling and behaving that formed in early life are affecting you now and what new attitudes and skills you can develop to live a happier and healthier life. 
 
People come for counselling and psychotherapy for many reasons.  Some of the most common reasons include: 
- Anxiety 
- Depression 
- Loss and bereavement 
- Alcohol, drug, food, exercise, pornography and sex addictions 
- Relationship and sexual difficulties 
- Problems with anger 
- Insomnia and stress 
 
In counselling and psychotherapy sessions, the work involves talking with a therapist and exploring the many different aspects of your life experiences. This helps to understand ourselves more deeply, including what has shaped us and why we think, feel and behave in certain ways. It also helps us to learn new, healthier ways to cope with life's many stresses. 

Psychosexual (Sex) Therapy 
Difficulties with sex and intimacy are quite common but also very distressing. As a  
Registered Psychosexual (Sex) therapist in south-west London I draw on various therapeutic approaches to help adults of all ages to work through a wide range of relationship and Psychosexual difficulties. In addition to my Psychosexual and relationship training, I draw upon four therapeutic modalities: 

• Cognitive Behavioural Therapy which looks at our responses to phenomena . 
• Person-Centred Therapy which looks at the ‘here and now'. 
• Psychodynamic/Psychoanalytic which is concerned with how elements from the past influence us in the present. 
• Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing which aims to help you to process the negative images, emotions, beliefs and body sensations associated with traumatic memories that seem to be ‘stuck’ and can contribute to mental health and Psychosexual difficulties. 

What causes Psychosexual / sexual difficulties? 
There can be various causes for sexual difficulties and their origins may be: 
- Physical (illness, disability/chronic illness, accident, surgery or medications) 
- Psychological (depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions) 
- Emotional (unhappiness in a relationship, unresolved grief, shame) 
- Situational (certain situations or environments) 

What is Sex Therapy? 
Psychosexual therapy, also known as sex therapy, is a talking and behavioural change therapy, that focuses on addressing both the psychological/emotional and physical causes of sexual dysfunctions and also, working through a wide range of sex-related issues such as fetishes or ‘quirky’ sexual behaviour. Much like a relationship therapist, a sex therapist offers counselling with the aim of exploring and understanding the cause of a problem and utilises strategies and tools to help in overcoming the difficulty. Many people also seek sex therapy to explore their sexuality, increase their confidence, or enhance their sex lives and relationships. 

What Can a Sex Therapist Help With? 
Sex therapy and counselling can help with a range of concerns and issues that might be affecting you and/or your relationship. These can include: 
- Sexual difficulties 
- Sex education 
- Understanding or exploring sexuality and interests 
- Fetishes and Kink such as BDSM 
- Compulsive sexual behaviours (sometimes referred to as sex or porn addiction) 
- Managing problematic sexual behaviours 
- Sexual anxiety and building self-confidence 
- Intimacy after trauma/abuse 
- Impact of Menopause/hormonal changes on intimacy 
- Sexual intimacy after surgery, illness or injury 
- Alternative lifestyles such as Polyamorous/open relationships 
- Issues affecting Trans people 
- Gender issues 

As a Psychosexual therapist, I provide a safe and confidential space for you to talk about the sexual difficulties that could be affecting you. Some of the more common difficulties that I can help with include: 
- Erectile Dysfunction (E.D.) 
- Premature Ejaculation 
- Difficulty ejaculating 
- Vaginismus Involuntary tensing of the Vulva) 
- Vulval / Vaginal pain 
- Low / no desire 
- Arousal difficulties 
- Anorgasmia 
- Sexual Aversion / Fear of intimacy 
 
With regard to sexual dysfunctions such as Erectile Dysfunction and Vaginal/Vulval pain, it is important to rule out medical/biological causes via your GP before commencing Psychosexual therapy. 

What is Relationship Therapy? 
Relationships are as unique as the individuals that are in them. What one individual may seek from a relationship may be different to another person seeks. The relationships that we experience growing up play a pivotal part in defining what we like or don’t like and how we subsequently experience them as adults. In addition, as individuals, our outlook, desires and needs often change over time, which in turn can affect a relationship, particularly if the other partner’s needs remain the same or change in a different way. 
 
Over time, people often state that their relationship is not as it started out. Relationships change, as over time, the partners change individually and, as with life itself, is unpredictable. This often impacts on the relationship. The first 12-18 months of a relationship can be characterised as the ‘lustful, romantic’ period where, for many, the partner is the priority over all else.  
 
As you settle into a calmer state of love you may notice changes in your partner or the level of romance or sex, they may start a new project or see friends more. This is all normal but in the same sense that we can understand a lot of effort was made by each partner at the beginning of the relationship without even being consciously aware of it, relationships need effort and commitment to do well. Over the lifespan of relationships, the dynamics, more often than not, will change. 
 
What can Relationship Therapy help with? 
As with Psychosexual therapy, relationship counselling can help with a range of issues that might be affecting your relationship. These include: 
- Arguments 
- Different/unmet needs / wants 
- Problems with communication 
- Cultural differences 
- Money 
- Infidelity 
- Children / families 
- Sex 
- Growing apart 
- Seeking help in separating 

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) is a comprehensive psychotherapy that helps you process and recover from past experiences that are affecting your mental health and well-being. Many difficulties have their roots in past traumatic events, whether that’s someone being bullied, criticised or abused in some way during childhood or as an adult. However, it isn’t always obvious that this is the case and talking therapy enables us to identify the cause of the difficulty and utilise EMDR to neutralise the influence of the traumatic event(s). 
 
It involves using side to side eye movements combined with talk therapy in a specific and structured format. EMDR helps you process the negative images, emotions, beliefs and body sensations associated with traumatic memories that seem to be stuck. These can contribute to a range of mental health problems. 
 
EMDR enables you to see things from a different perspective and relieves the symptoms that you were suffering. It can be used to help with a range of mental health difficulties including anxiety, depression, addictions, behavioural difficulties and relationship issues. 
 

I also work with Men who have Sex with Men (MSM) and ChemSex.

Counselling/Psychotherapy, Psychosexual Therapy and Sex Addiction Counselling for individuals:  £100.00 per 50 minute session. in Putney SW15 and £110.00 in Kensington SW5.

Psychosexual Therapy for couples: £120.00 per 75 minute session in Putney SW15 and £130.00 per 75 minute session in Kensington SW5.

Couples / Relationship Counselling and Couples Sex Addiction Counselling: 
£120.00 per 75 minute session in Putney SW15 and £130.00 per 75 minute session in Kensington SW5.

I am not registered with any health insurance providers. 

Therapy/counselling sessions for psychological issues usually take place at the same time and place on a weekly basis. For physical sexual dysfunctions and relationship counselling, sessions usually take place fortnightly. At the first session, we will discuss what you’d like to focus on and, you’ll have an opportunity to experience how I work. We will agree together on a structure for our sessions. I will support you in finding what works best for you. The first  session, which allows us to talk through the issues, is followed by an in-depth assessment which usually takes 2-3 hours either in one longer session or over 2-3 sessions. 

I am happy to have a 15-20 minute informal conversation with you by telephone or online via Zoom, to answer any questions you may have and there's no obligation to continue.  Please call me on 07504 841 989 or email me via: afcounselling@btinternet.com.  If I am unable to take your call, please leave a message stating convenient times for me to contact you. To maintain your confidentiality,  I do not return missed calls where no message is left. 

How to get to me: public transport, parking & walking

Kenway Road, Kensington, SW5

Underground:

• Earls Court and Gloucester Road Station's on the District and Piccadilly Lines are approximately 12-15 minutes walk away. Kensington High Street is approximately 20 minutes walk away.

Buses:

• Routes C1, C3, 74, 328, and 430 stop nearby.

Parking:

• Pay and display parking is available on adjoining streets.

Putney SW15:

Underground and National Rail:

• East Putney Underground Station on the District Line is approximately 4-5 minutes walk away
• Putney National Rail Station is approximately a 15-20 minute walk.

Buses:

• Routes 37, 170 and 337 stop nearby whilst routes 14, 22, 85, 93, 220, 270, 414 and 430 serve Putney High Street SW15.

Parking:

• Pay & Display parking is available on Keswick Road SW15.