Mandy Rubenstein Couns Dip, MBACP, ITEC Dip
Autumn is almost here and with it that feeling of needing to hunker down and prepare for the onset of the cold Winter months. It can be a time for reflection or simply recognising that there is something in your life that maybe needs addressing. Is there something you've been avoiding or putting off? Something you've always wanted to do but just can't seem to make that initial leap? Something you're unhappy with but to change it seems impossible? Big questions. Just maybe now is the time to make that change and do things differently. With all the news, recently, about mental health and particularly men's mental health and how it is now being openly talked about without stigma, could your visit to this page be your first step into reclaiming your life and making a difference to how you've been living it.
Every journey of a thousand miles begins with the first small step. Wise words.....and you've just taken that first small step. Imagine a regular time- usually the same time, same day on a weekly basis for how ever long you need that is yours and yours alone where you can just be yourself. A time, in a safe place, where you can explore, without judgement, anything which is causing you concern.....where you don't have to censor what you say, where you can be real and honest with how you're feeling without fear of criticism or disapproval.
Maybe you've been ignoring things up 'til now but now feel ready to address where you are in your life and maybe how you got to this point - could this now be the time to define more of what you do want and let go of what you don't? Visiting this page could herald the start of something great......change!
" If I really want to improve my situation, I can work on the one thing over which I have control - myself"
If you are experiencing an internal struggle with your self, family or external circumstances and don't know what to do or which way to turn - talking about it really can help.
If there is a problem which seems to be sabotaging your life, jeopardising your well-being or simply causing you confusion and concern then sharing it with another can help provide perspective and clarity. I offer you my presence, time, warmth and commitment to confidentially examine and explore your life, at your pace, so that you may work toward reaching a place of your own self fulfillment and realising your own unique potential.
I offer short and long term counselling and a safe space in which you can feel comfortable to talk freely about your experiences without feeling judged or told what to do. You are the expert in your own life.
I am essentially a humanistic integrative counsellor, drawing on the person centred model to inform my work but also use some Gestalt and Transactional Analysis theories as appropriate. All can contribute to a greater understanding of the self, past and present, which, in turn, can give insight into present thinking, feeling and resultant behaviours which maybe disrupting well-being. It is not my place to tell you what to do or how to live your life - I am more interested in exploring, together, areas which may be presently causing you discomfort or angst so that you can then be in a position of having choice. And just the discovery and realisation of there being a choice is, in itself, empowering.
"Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are-chaff and grain together-certain that a faithful hand will take them, keep what is worth keeping and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away"
Dinah Maria Mulock Craik
Training, qualifications & experience
I hold the CPCAB Level 5 in Psychotherapeutic Counselling, Level 4,3 & 2 Diplomas in Therapeutic Counselling and am currently working towards my Accreditation as a member of the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy and am on the Association's register. My membership of the BACP ensures that I uphold the Association’s ethical framework in working safely with you as does attending regular supervision. I also hold a CRB certificate and Professional Indemnity Insurance.
My background is in body work and I am ITEC qualified in therapeutic massage, Indian head massage and reflexology. I hold certificates in Thai Foot massage, auricular therapy and hot stone massage. I am also a Reiki Master. I embrace several teachings from Buddhism such as loving kindness, compassion and acceptance and regularly practise meditation and mindfulness in my own life.
My interest in counselling came not only from my own personal experience of working with a really effective counsellor but also as a natural progression from the bodywork I was practising approximately 10 years ago. I found that I could no longer ignore the mind/body connection from a pathological viewpoint as, fundamentally, our physical health management is so very dependent on our mental, emotional and spiritual health and well-being. For me, each cannot be viewed as operating in isolation and a more holisitic approach seems to be the key – treating the human being as a ‘whole’ not just the sum total of separate parts. The emphasis, however, is on the ‘being’ – how we view and experience the world individually and together, together with our own unique place in it. I am not you and you are not me but by working closely together in a warm, safe, confidential place where you can just be yourself, we can embark on a journey of self discovery.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Passive aggressive behaviour
Initial consultation by phone is FREE followed by a mutually agreeable half hour FREE ‘face to face’ session. This time together will provide an opportunity for us to get to know one another and for you to talk more. Once we have established that we feel we can work together and what it is exactly that's troubling you, the first session is then scheduled when a more in depth assessment is carried out. This includes establishing just what you want to achieve by entering into therapy. This session and subsequent sessions will be £40 per 50 mins. Cancellation, without 24hr notice, will be charged at the full fee. I do not charge for holidays but would appreciate advance notice and I will do the same regarding my own holidays.
I offer counselling students a special discounted rate...please get in touch to discuss.
Experienced in working with the following:
- Relationship problems
- Self esteem
- Anger management
- Self harm
- Low mood
- Self development
Tel: 07801 467758
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
I appreciate daytime sessions are difficult for those who work full time. I do have a limited number of evening sessions available.
Types of client