Alice Tew BSc. (Hons) Registered MBACP Counsellor & Psychotherapist
I work with people who are feeling lost, stuck or overwhelmed with life, work, parenting, and relationships, or people who feel like they keep repeating the same 'mistakes' to find a healthier way of living so that they can be happier, have more meaningful relationships and reach their potential in all areas of their life.
I also help couples who feel like they have lost their way and are on the verge of separating, those who don't feel heard in their relationships but want to make it work and those who would like to reduce the impact of their conflict on their children to find new ways of being with each other so that the feelings of love can return and the family unit can be a happier place that fosters growth and satisfaction. I also offer sessions for separated and divorced parents to work through co-parenting related difficulties together.
I offer a safe, non-judgemental space for you to explore the issues that are troubling you. I am often told that I strike a good balance between being gentle while encouraging change. I offer a real and honest approach that meets you where you are and challenges you to grow into your best self. I know it can feel really scary to open up and talk, especially when you've been used to bottling things up, so a big part of my job is making sure we work at a pace that feels right for you.
You might be feeling like you're making a fuss over nothing, that you've tried counselling before and it didn't work or that you'll be made to talk about things that you don't want to talk about. All of these things are common concerns. They are all things I have worked through before and I am happy for you to email me or come and visit me to talk through how I can help before you commit to working with me.
How I work
For me, humanistic counselling and psychotherapy brings to mind the image of two companions on a journey together, working towards a better way of living as they go. Humanistic therapy is different from other types of therapy such as psychoanalysis or CBT. What I like about the humanistic approach is that it takes into account all aspects of the person, rather than just their thoughts or behaviours.
To enable me to fully to understand your perspective, it is essential for me to have holistic approach that considers all aspects of the self – body, emotion, intellect, soul and spirit. I take into account all of this in order to help you to find a way of living that feels right for you, rather than living as you think you 'should', or in a way that you feel others expect you to.
The integrative part means that I draw on other theories to inform my work with you. I have a particular interest in shame and early relational trauma.
Often we think of trauma as big events like car accidents. Early relational trauma is more of an ongoing sense of not being seen, of not mattering, of not feeling safe with a parent or other caregiver.
I'm also interested in the links between psychotherapy and neuroscience - a therapeutic relationship can quite literally help your physical brain to heal. By experiencing a new, healthy relationship with me, your brain can create new pathways, which can be strengthened and can lead to lasting change.
What I am offering to you
Above all I believe in change. I have been in places myself that felt utterly hopeless, feeling certain there was no light at the end of the tunnel, and I have been fortunate enough to work with therapists who were able to sit with me in the dark and help me find my own way towards light and hope and change.
When working with my own clients, I have also had the privilege of working with men, women and young people who have struggled for years with feeling stuck, who have some sense that things could be better but just don't know how to get there.
During therapy with me I will offer you these three things consistently:
Firstly, I look at your world through your eyes rather than mine. Coming to therapy isn't about spending an hour a week with an expert who will tell you what to do to fix your life. While that may sound like a wonderfully simple solution, chances are, the things that I may think will “fix” a life just won't fit for you. We all have different priorities, different viewpoints, different needs. My job is to help you find the best way for you to live and the first step in doing that is seeing things from your perspective.
Secondly, I value you for who you are, unconditionally. For me, people just are valuable. We don't have to do anything to become valuable, we are born valuable. While people may make choices that can be labelled as good or bad, healthy or unhealthy, I believe these choices don't alter our value as people and our right to take up space in the word. There are times and places for judgements but you won't find that in sessions with me.
Finally, I come to our sessions with an attitude of authenticity and a promise to be genuine with you. I don't come to our sessions playing a role. I come as I am – with my qualifications, skills, understanding and experience, and also as a human; kind and warm hearted, with flaws, but resilient.
Training, qualifications & experience
BSc (Hons) Counselling & Psychotherapy which included
- A placement at Base51/NGY, an organisation for young people aged 12-25.
- A placement at a charity supporting carers.
- Clinical supervision, ensuring a safe and ethical practice and ongoing professional development.
- Personal therapy, ensuring ongoing personal development .
I have also completed the following courses, which are endorsed by COSRT
- The Fundamentals - Working with Couples
- Couples and Conflict
I regularly update my learning through reading, research and additional training.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Asperger's syndrome
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Borderline personality disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Carer support
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship issues
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Schizotypal personality disorder
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
£35 per 50 minute session
Optional £20 introductory session (30 minutes)
£50 per 90 minute session
My practice is in Bingham, which is on the border of Nottinghamshire, Lincolnshire and Leicestershire. It is within easy reach of Radcliffe, Cotgrave, East Bridgford, West Bridgford, Grantham and all surrounding villages.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, 9am-5pm.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|