Alexandra Kubit-Hope MSc. MBACP - Green Stairwell Counselling
Green Stairwell Counselling is the practice of Alexandra Kubit-Hope, located in Dartford, Kent. I am an integrative counsellor, which means that I will not limit us to one fixed way of working, but that I will choose the best way of working with you depending on your individual circumstances, and what your individual expectations are in regards to what you would like to achieve as a result of therapy.
What to expect in your first session
It is perfectly normal to feel nervous about something as new and unknown as counselling may be for you. Hopefully during the first session you will be able to relax and tell me about your individual situation, and problems or issues that are troubling you. I may ask some additional questions to help me understand your situation better, but you will never be forced into talking about something that you do not want to. We will discuss and agree on what would be the best way for us to work together, and agree on the initial number of sessions, and time and day that we will meet. Depending on your individual needs, you may only need a few sessions, or long term therapy. I will make suggestions on how we move forward, but the final decision rests with you.
How counselling can help
I believe that you and your circumstances are unique. It might be that at this moment in time you need a better understanding of why you feel, think, and act in a certain way at present, which may involve looking at your past, or perhaps right now you prefer to concentrate on your current situation and see how you can view or handle things differently in the present, in order to have a better quality of life here and now. You may feel that you need a bit of both, as understanding what happened to you in the past can help you to successfully shape your present and future. Finally, you may not have any strong ideas of what you would like to achieve, but you feel that things are out of control, and you would really like to talk to someone who will not judge you or tell you what to do.No issue is ‘too small’ for counselling. If it bothers you or disrupts your life then it is big enough both for you and me as your counsellor.
I believe that you already have a huge potential and arsenal of resources to help yourself on the way to healing and leading a satisfying life, but often access to these resources can be somehow blurry or obscured, or impossible for you to access. My role is not to give you advice or tell you what to do, but to work together with you to help you find a state where you are satisfied and happy with your life. This will involve exploring and expanding your strengths, resilience and knowledge, which will be unique to you and your individual circumstances, and which will enable you to take the first steps towards a happy and fulfilling life. I like to call it your ‘toolbox’, which hopefully you will find helpful, not only during therapy, but also long after the therapy is finished.
I hope you will find that I am a warm and genuine person and counsellor, and able to create a safe, confidential, and non-judgemental environment in which you can feel safe and comfortable to talk to me.
Training, qualifications & experience
I hold MSc in Therapeutic Counselling from the University of Greenwich, and a Postgraduate Diploma in Psychology. I am an experienced counsellor and a registered member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
I work with individual clients in a one-to-one setting. In addition to my private practice, I also work as a counsellor for Mind, and as a bereavement counsellor for Cruse Bereavement Care. I have experience in working with a wide range of issues including bereavement, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, suicidal thoughts, and emotional abuse amongst many others.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Attachment disorder
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Physical abuse
- Postnatal depression
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Helping people with bereavement and loss is a particular interest of mine, and I have several years’ experience of working with bereaved people. Death can often be a taboo subject in society when even the people closest to you do not know what to say, or simply avoid talking to you. At the time of deepest despair after the death of a loved one, you may find yourself either isolated or surrounded by well-wishers urging you to think positive and move on, which does not really help you. The process of grieving can be (made) even more complicated when a death is very sudden as a result of suicide, accident or murder. Surprisingly, the death of someone who hurt or abused you in any way may also prove very difficult to deal with. Sometimes you may feel that you are denied the right to grieve properly when a relationship with a loved one who died was kept secret from others, who cannot now fully understand the extent of your grief.
You may find, that even years after the loss, you are not feeling any better (and everyone expects you to). This is not at all strange. I believe that time can contribute to healing, but that healing cannot be left to time alone. It is very important to begin the process of talking, and understanding that grief and pain can never be eliminated, but that you can learn to live with it.
The overpowering feeling of loss can of course be brought on by things other than death. You may decide to seek counselling because you suffer from a different kind of loss, for example, a loss of health, happiness, life satisfaction, job, money, security, loss of love or friendship, loss of opportunities and many others.
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Cognitive therapy
- Humanistic therapies
The duration of the counselling session is 50 minutes.
Fees are £40, or £30 for students undertaking therapy as a requirement of their counselling training (payable by cash or cheque at the end of each session).
My current availability is Wednesday morning, afternoon or evening.
My therapy room is located in central Dartford, close to buses, and is only a 5 minute walk from Dartford train station. Free parking is available across the road.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
My current availability is Wednesday: morning, afternoon or evening
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|