Kay Wnekowski BA Hons

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Bringing positive change to people's lives.

Are you looking for someone you can trust completely, who can support you and guide you through difficult times?
I'm a warm, friendly, straight talking, dependable and competent counsellor.
My approach to life is youthful and combined with the benefit of much rich life experience and a broad and varied toolkit, I have succeeded in helping many satisfied clients over my career in counselling.
People tell me I'm a strong woman who is dependable, reliable and above all compassionate.
I am a member of the BACP and hold a Degree and Diploma in Transactional Analysis Counselling and have attended many other trainings to boot.
Over the last 12 years I have accrued experience working both within private practice and within an NHS setting, working with a variety of issues.
I would describe myself as an Integrative and pragmatic counsellor, implementing the latest cutting edge skills and therapeutic tools with genuine warmth and compassion. My aim is always to help you resolve your issues and get your life back on track.
My tool kit comprises of Transactional Analysis ( a fantastic tool that will rapidly increase self awareness, help you to make sense of things in a whole new way, improve relationships in your life, enhance your communication skills and gently change the way you think, feel , behave and relate. )
I will also use my training, knowledge, experience and skills of C.B.T, (Recommended by N.I.C.E ) Motivational Enhancement therapy, Brief Solutions Focused Therapy, NLP and Hypnotherapy plus more besides. On the other hand, perhaps you would benefit from Life Coaching to help you make changes and achieve your goals. The great thing is that with such a diversity of tools I can help you to feel better, enjoy life more and move forward at a pace that feels right for you.
I especially find, that when clients come to counselling they also benefit from experiencing some Life Coaching towards the end of our work together. When the problems that brought them to counselling in the first place have been resolved, it seems important to have a new sense of purpose and direction.
People come to see me for a variety of reasons. Some feel stuck, some feel despair, others are are suffering with depression,health challenges, loneliness, anxiety, in need of anger management support, bereavement or relationship issues. Others, want to know how to change their situation, achieve more satisfaction, are interested in their own personal development, or just need support to help them achieve their goals or improve the quality of their lives.
Some clients want to explore their past, work through traumas and gain new perspectives.
Generally though, people come when a problem arises and their usual ways of coping in the world are no longer working; causing them to often feel depressed, anxious, scared , angry or out of control.
So, are you experiencing a problem in your life right now, no matter how difficult, hopeless or frustrating it feels, that I could support you with?
Or, perhaps you aspire to be on track to achieving your goals?
Perhaps you are facing a relationship breakdown, have been thrown by a major life event or other significant challenge?
Maybe you are experiencing difficulty managing emotions like anxiety, anger, guilt, sadness or low mood or just not aware of feeling your feelings at all?
Whatever issue you are coping with right now, you can be assured that I will be with you every - step - of - the - way.
I can help you understand what's going on for you and support you to make changes that will leave you feeling empowered and able to face the world from a brand new perspective.
You are not alone and needn't struggle by yourself because together we can make a difference by 'clearing any weeds before planting flowers' instead.
I work both short term and long term for those clients who want to engage on a more deeply therapeutic level.
Imagine now, experiencing life on different terms, feeling understood, supported and able to find new ways of getting your needs met; making small changes quickly and easily, through using a whole variety of brand new skills and tools. Change is never easy but best experienced in small manageable, bite sized steps.
It is true, that a lot of very small changes that are relatively painless, still add up to a significant change, whatever that may be for you.
But, please feel reassured, that I will work quickly with you to put you at ease and establish an equal relationship, in which you will feel supported, significant, really listened to, therapeutically challenged in a way that will ease you out of those old patterns, unconditionally accepted and encouraged.
I will help you find new perspectives, even when you think there are none.
Your Self esteem and confidence will rise as a result and slowly you will be coached into gaining mastery over the aspects of your life that you didn't know were possible.
In describing my counselling style, I am warm, friendly, easy to connect with, caring, interested, positive, dependable, dynamic and direct.
I am committed to helping you achieve your very best outcome.
Needless to say, I also have a good sense of humour which sometimes brings a light touch to the work I do:-)
I have a private practise in Bagshot, Surrey, where I have a stunning consulting room with separate entrance, WC and dedicated phone line.
I would describe my consulting room as modern, spacious, clean, light, bright, luxurious, airy and very comfortable.
To help you decide whether to take the next step or not, why not read what other people have gained from their experience with me?
And then, take the first small step by picking up the phone or emailing me now to arrange your appointment.

Daytime / Evening rate: £45 per (one hour) session

Training, Qualifications & Experience

BA Hons Degree in Counselling using Transactional Analysis (4 years)
Diploma (Metanoia Institute) in Counselling
Diploma in NLP, Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching
Diploma in CBT
CBT (or counsellors already trained within another modality)
Lightning Process practitioner
Practitioner training skills for Eating disorders
Breaking the Cycle of Depression
Solution Focused Brief Therapy
Schema Therapy
Stress Solutions
Transforming aggression
Understanding Male and female difference
Motivational Enhancement therapy
How to lift Low Self Esteem and Build Confidence
Working with Personality Disorder
Working with Dual Diagnosis
EFT level 2 Practitioner

Areas of counselling I deal with

• Abortion
• Abuse
• Addiction(s)
• Affairs and Betrayals
• Anger Management
• Anxiety
• Bereavement
• Child Related Issues
• Depression
• Emotional Abuse
• Generalised Anxiety
• Low Self-Confidence
• Low Self-Esteem
• Panic Disorder
• Phobias
• Physical Abuse
• Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
• Postnatal Depression
• Relationship Issues
• Self Harm
• Separation and Divorce
• Sexual Abuse
• Sexual Issues
• Sexuality
• Stress
• Trauma
• Work Related Issues

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Lack of Motivation

Anger management

Anxiety

Depression

Trauma

Feelings of being out of control /not in control

Self esteem- Changing and growing the way we think about ourselves

Sexual Trauma

Stress related health issues

Conflict Resolution/ anger management

Parent conflict/ Parenting support

Breaking negative patterns

Avoidance / Passivity

Assertiveness

Support in making decisions 

Explore your wants, needs and feelings

Internet addiction

Relationship break ups

Same sex relationships

New You -New Life

Social confidence

M.O.T your life

Family politics and conflict

Learning to love again


Communication issues

Relationship coaching

Healthy eating /weight management

Loneliness/Emptiness

Personal Development - Discover your identity

Affairs / Betrayal / Infidelity

Lack of intimacy

Health concerns

Relationship /dating problems

Low mood

Loss

Workplace issues

Divorce and separation 

Parenting

Getting back to work

Lifestyle challenges

Dating /  Being single again

Therapies Offered

• Cognitive and Behavioural Therapies
  - Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

• Humanistic Therapies
  - Person-Centred Counselling
  - Transactional Analysis

• Other Therapies
  - Integrative

Fees

Current Daytime /Evening Rate: £45 ( 1 hr)

Further Information

Testimonials (printed with kind permission)

" You have been the most positive person I have ever met. Words can never be enough to show how thankful I am to you for everything you have done for me. No one has ever believed in me or understood me like you have"
Client L

"Thankyou for putting the sunshine back in my life."
Client D

"Thankyou from my heart for your guidance and wisdom. My time spent with you has given me a totally new and wholly positive outlook on my life."
Client J

"Kay tapped into my needs straight away. With her guidance and help I have taken back control of my life. I have learned to be strong, confident and assertive and I use the life skills I learned every day."
Client K

"From the first conversation with Kay I felt immediately at ease. I heard a caring, warm and confident person that I could connect with, something I find quite difficult to do on a private level. After 6months of attending counselling my belief that 'life is hard' has now changed to 'life is a challenge and you can only embrace it !' I now find that I have more realistic goals both short and long term, so thank you Kay for coaching me back onto the road of life!'
CL E

"Thank you again for all your support, kindness and generosity over the last year and months. You went way beyond the call of duty and I really appreciate everything."
CL J

"I feel extremely lucky to have found Kay. When we first met, I hated the word "counselling." But, over a period of time, Kay helped me to develop my inner confidence and re-write my negative beliefs created in my childhood. Not only that; Kay helped me to become much healthier by advising on better eating. Now, I get up earlier, eat well, exercise reguarly and have much more energy to work harder at my job. Thank you Kay."
CL C

"I found Kay to be an extremely positive person with an enthusiasm for life which rubs off. After my sessions with her, I felt better equipped with lasting advice and techniques to cope with events and feelings."
CL B

"Having benefited from counselling in the past, I was confident that it would work again for me. The difference this time was Kay's approach- right from the start she provided me with a huge support structure and the tools to work through my problems but most importantly she made me feel that what I was feeling was important, she listened and respected me, never patronised me and has helped me move forward far quicker than I imagined. With Kay's help and expertise, I feel like 'me' again and I can give no greater compliment than that."
CL K

"Counselling has been a very powerful and worthwhile experience for me. I've found Kay to be extremely professional, positive, supportive, experienced and skilful. It has been hard work at times but I've learnt many skills that I can use to support myself in the future."
CL J

"Counselling can seem like the hardest thing in the world when you're not feeling at your best but by making a decision to start, you'll be making the first step to a better life.
I worked with Kay for 6 months and when I first met her, I was negative about everything and couldn't see a way through my troubled times. With Kay's help, guidance, expertise and understanding, she slowly but surely, showed me how to love and respect myself, how to be happy and not be afraid of life.
I now wake up every morning with a smile on my face, ready to face the day and my future is brighter than ever before.
If I had to recommend a counsellor/ therapist to anyone, Kay's name would be top of my list. She truly is inspirational and if you're prepared to work with her and work hard to get results, you'll be setting yourself up for a life - changing experience. And remember, you only get out what you put in!"
CL H

"Kay helped me through a really difficult part of my life. She was a refuge for me for those weeks. I enjoyed our sessions, even the difficult ones. I never felt rushed or pressurized. There has been a lasting (I hope) change in me. I am much more confident now. When I started counselling I had hoped for a magic wand to make all my problems vanish. What Kay gave me was a dirty great shovel to rebuild my life with. Counselling for me is about using that shovel to make lasting steady progress. It is seldom easy, but the work is worthwhile. Thanks Kay"
CL S

"Going to see a Counsellor is not necessarily easy. By actually making the first move you are already on your way to where it is you want to be. Thats a big step and sometimes the hardest one to take. Its not an admission of failure in fact it is the opposite.
Somehow Kay makes you find the answers. She wont give you the answers, but she will give you the support and push, you need, to enable you to make the discovery yourself and you will thank her for it."
Client E

"Before I came to counselling I was unsure what to expect, feeling extremely low about myself and my situation, I had experienced a lot of loss and like many hadnt had the happiest childhood, I went along feeling total despair and bewilderment but also immense relief that I had taken the step to get help. From the first session Kay made me feel safe and ok, I was able to express myself my thoughts, feelings and experiences and wasnt judged or told I had done the wrong things. Kay helped me see the reality of my situations and helped me to understand the bigger picture which contributed to those situations. I was able to deal with the backlog of negative thoughts and emotions as well as process current situations in my life. I now feel better about myself and my life, Im surer of what I want and need and that I am the best person to make sure it happens. I am happy and looking forward knowing with my new skills & understanding I will be able to handle what is thrown my way and maybe help others along the way but I know that Kay will always be there in the background if I need a little help. I cannot wait to live my life, its FAB!!"
Client E

"I found Kay on the internet and the first thing I noticed was her picture and how friendly she looked. When I first met Kay I felt really at ease and the room I sat in was warm and very cosy and I felt really relaxed. Kay is a great person and I didnt feel pressured into anything as it was all at my own pace. After leaving each session I always had things to think about and felt really positive. Kay always had a different perspective on things and I have learnt so much from her.
CL

Thank you so much for giving me the tools that have made things so much easier to deal with. I am a different person now from our first meetings and feel a lot more confident and able to enjoy life to the full. "
CL W

"Kay will be able to make you see the bigger picture of all that influences you and what you are and will help you work through ways to manage or overcome things in a positive way. She will stick by you and help you through, even if you think you can not change your feelings or thought process."
Cl H

"I went to Kay after the birth of my daughter. I was feeling overwhelmed and anxious about life and felt as though I couldnt cope. I had lost a lot of self confidence and felt isolated and alone. As a result relationships with my husband and friends felt strained. Kay has helped me to develop strategies to manage my anxiety. She helped me to understand myself far better and to adjust my expectations of life, myself and others so that they were more realistic. I now feel as though I am able to cope with my feelings of anxiety when they arise. I feel more at ease with myself and happy with life."
CL L

"Kay, thank you so much for all your help and guidance. By pointing out the paths available and convincing me to turn around when I`d reached a dead-end you have led me on a journey of self-discovery. By pointing out stuff others close to me had not realised or did not say, you made me stand back and question the way I think. You made me realise that two of my unhelpful behaviours: gambling on the internet & doing depression were both me looking for escape routes from the situations I found myself in life whether it be looking for excitement or feeling trapped in my job. By asking me to talk in an objective manner about the past you helped me face up to the fact that I had for a long time been scared of failure. By making me write down my thoughts every day you made me realise that I can act with self-discipline. By encouraging me to break down tasks and time into smaller units you made me feel proud of my achievements. I believe in myself again. The techniques you taught me will stay with me for life. Thank you."
CL A

"Kay's a warm listener with a quizzical sense of humour. She helped me challenge my assumptions that the best times were in the past -life's fun now. Thank you for 3 years of good sense and comfort. I shall miss you."
Cl A

"Whilst Kays professionalism is obvious from the outset, her caring nature ensures that one-to-one sessions are very relaxed. Sharing experiences with her is easy, sometimes sad, occasionally hilarious, but her advice always resounds long after the session. Im glad to have let Kay into my life."
CL L

"Counselling was very helpful for me as it got me through a very rough time in my life. I was going through a very difficult crisis in my relationship which was close to total breakdown. The continuous advise and support offered by you was a great help. I learnt about myself and my weaknesses and it helped me understand and value myself as I am much more. Thanks to all the hard work we achieved understanding, respect, trust and happiness again. I would strongly recommend counselling to anyone that recognises the need for it. Recognition of the need for help is the first positive step."
CL S

I underwent Couples Counselling on the brink of a complete breakdown in my relationship, over a six month period the sessions helped both myself and my partner come to terms with what had happened, recognise how much we meant to each other and how much we wanted to be together .. we are now planning our wedding and our future life together
CL P

Counselling with Kay has made a big difference to my life. Through learning new skills I have been able to control my anxiety, and take a more balanced view of my life and relationships. Ive also learned that I have the power to take positive action and make things change!
CLH

Thank you so much for your support and guidance over the past few months. I really feel that this experience has helped me in a way I never thought possible. You have helped me understand more about myself than I expected to and I would recommend your services to anyone. You're brilliant! I hope you continue to help others in the way you have helped me.
CL N

" Trust is so important to me- and Kay is so worthy of it. She challenges when appropriate, knocks you off your comfort zone and as a result, positive changes occur. Kay is a professional, deeply human, resourceful and very caring counsellor. Thank you Kay. "
CL J

"I can't thank you enough for all you have done for me. I now have my sparkle back and get excited about things and am loving life - a far cry from the person who walked through your door thinking I was useless, no good and just wanted to stay in bed. Thank you for giving my sunshine back."
CL S

"I came seeking your help as a last resort and now wish it had been my first choice. Thank you for helping me see things as they are which has allowed me to move on with life and embrace the future - not fear it."
CL J

"Kay provided me with a safe environment in which to confront a few harsh realities about my life. Being able to do so has allowed me to move my life along from a particularly dark period. Her non-judgmental style, combined with a knack for asking just the right question, steered me to firstly recognise and then address, some behaviour patterns that I hadn’t appreciated had developed so insidiously within me.

With her practical and pragmatic suggestions of how to take a step at a time I was able to start changing the way I lead my life. Every time I left a session with Kay I would take time to let the experience sink in and to approach changing my life with confidence and optimism. I always left a session with something positive to do.

I can thoroughly recommend Kay to anyone who wants the circumstances of their life to change – she will be a great guide to help you move forwards."

Cl AB

"Thank you very much for everything you have done for me.

Coming to counselling was not an easy decision and I did not really know what to expect from the sessions but thanks to Kay’s warm and friendly approach everything seemed to be going fine from day one. She has helped me to understand more about myself, my feelings and emotions and I felt positively challenged by her to think and look for answers. She has enabled me to explore my identity, motivated and inspired me throughout my journey.

THANKS KAY."

CL T

"Kay, thank you for everything you have done for me. You have been my lifeline and have become more than I could have ever wished for. The lessons that you have helped me learn have turned my life around and will stay with me always. You will remain with me, my inner voice continuing to keep me on the right track."

Cl M

For further information and a lot more details please visit my website www.surreycounsellingservice.co.uk
Call, text or email me now for a convenient appointment on 01276 470175 0r 07766 761601 or kaywnekowski@hotmail.com
Or, why not email me with brief details of your issue and I will reply accordingly.

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