Lila Ramsahai, MA, BSc, MBACP
0782 8157 294
My name is Lila and welcome to the website.
I decided to be in the 'helping' profession because of my own personal experiences that fuelled a strong desire to help others. I find helping people coming very 'naturally' to me and I mainly work with adults. It is definitely not easy to seek help and a courageous first step to be on these pages. I am a fully trained and experienced therapist since 2006 and a member of the BACP, the governing body for counselling & psychotherapy in the UK.
Whether it concerns anxiety, depression, worries or a sense of meaninglessness to life it can be very helpful to talk with a trained therapist and try to get to 'the bottom' of the issue. It can give more clarity and understanding of your emotional distress but also give guidance in how to cope with your current situation. Its good to talk.
Depending on your needs, I offer 3 types of therapy and these can be easily combined.
My training reflects a broad range of psychological theories which enables to use a more integrative knowledge in understanding our feelings, thoughts and mind. The first session always includes an assessment and it will last for 1 hour and 15 minutes (after that all sessions will be 50 minutes). All sessions are charged £45 including the first session.
As mentioned above I offer 3 types of therapeutic help, these are;
1) 'Standard' or mainstream psychotherapy (please see list of issues I can assist you with)
2) Intercultural therapy or ethnic minority counselling
Especially useful when dealing with the following issues: cross-cultural marital problems, mixed-race
upbringing, bi-lingualism, multi-culturalism, language usage and communication, identity crisis, loss of
identity or any issue related to 'culture, language usage, communication and identity'.
3) Karmic Psychotherapy
Karmic psychotherapy is a holistic therapy for the mind, body and soul. It combines Eastern
knowledge of Karma with Western knowledge of the theory of the mind. In short Karma is "a concept
originating from Hinduism (India) which explains causality through a system where beneficial effects
come from past beneficial actions and harmful effects from past harmful actions. It creates a system of
actions and reactions throughout an Atman's (= the eternal self) reincarnations and cycles of rebirths.
Actions include one's thoughts, feelings and emotions.
Whether it concerns generalised anxiety disorder (feeling anxious about many aspects of life such as work, relationships, love, finance, family life , ageing etc.), depression or anxiety, psychotherapy or counselling has often proven to be a good place to start with your current worries. If however you suffer from bipolar disorder, manic depression or panic disorder it is advisable to seek therapists that are more specialised in these areas.
Please see the bottom of this page for the following information:
- About Counselling and Psychotherapy in general
- How to arrange a session
- What to expect from a counselling session
- What issues can I discuss?
- What about confidentiality?
- How many sessions will I need?
Training, qualifications & experience
My clinical qualification includes a BSc. degree in counselling & psychotherapy which I gained in the UK (Surrey). I also hold an Masters' degree in 'Intercultural Communication' which deals with issues concerning 'Culture, Religion, Language Usage (bi-lingualism) and Intercultural communication'. I have been in private practice since 2006 and receive regular clinical supervision that overlooks my clinical work and practice. I am a member of the BACP (MBACP) and currently working towards my accreditation with them.
Any issue related to culture, religion, immigration, language usage, communication, bi-lingualism, multi-culturalism, mixed race upbringing and mother tongue can also be discussed in my practice. Apart from having a passion for languages and cultural diversity I have lived for long periods in South-America, The Netherlands and Spain whereas my residency since the last decade is in the UK.
My training and experience enables to practice as an ethnic minority counsellor, intercultural or cross cultural therapist, karmic psychotherapist or psychotherapist.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas I am fully trained and experience dealing with:
Issues concerning Culture & Religion, in particular due to a multi-cultural upbringing:
Were you raised in a multi-cultural household as a child? Or have you been exposed to a very different culture in childhood due to immigration or any other reason? Studies have found that individuals can experience 'confusion' about their cultural identity when they experience several cultural values, beliefs and norms in childhood. For example, it can raise questions to where you really belong and who you really are especially in cases where your own cultural heritage has not been adhered to or compromised in some other ways. It can leave you feeling very confused about your sense of belonging in the world.
Issues concerning Language usage, in particular due to bi-lingual or multi-lingual upbringing:
When immigrating to a different country, especially in childhood, one's mother tongue can be compromised or 'lost' in the whole process of acculturation ( the process of adaptation to the new country 's values, beliefs and norms). Studies have found that many ethnic minority parents believe it is better to speak and adopt the host's country's language at home and neglect their mother tongue once they have immigrated to a more prosperous country. Parents will typically engage in this behaviour because they believe their children will be more successful in the host's country's education system when they are fluent in the host's country's language. However studies have shown that nothing could be more far from the truth where for example education results do not suffer when one's mother tongue is maintained alongside the host's country's language. Therefore it is not unusual that children who's mother tongue was compromised in childhood to experience some form of 'identity loss' or experience an 'identity crisis' later in life or as adults. It can for example trigger feelings of inferiority compared with others who are very grounded in their mother tongue.
Karmic Psychotherapy: see beginning of the page
Fees for Brighton and Crawley: £45 per session
- Payments: cash or through card machine
- I offer short and long term therapy
Sessions lasts 50 minutes except the first session which includes an assessment and will last for 1 hour and 15 minutes.
Offering counselling in Brighton and counselling in Crawley or counselling in East Sussex and West Sussex, that also covers counselling in the surrounding areas such as Haywards Heath, Burgess Hill, Hassocks, Lindfield, Balcombe, Cuckfield, Ansty and Handcross.
About counselling & psychotherapy in general:
The following is a definition of counselling according to the BACP:
"Counselling and psychotherapy are umbrella terms that cover a range of talking therapies. They are delivered by trained practitioners who work with people over a short or long term to help them bring about effective change or enhance their well-being"
A counsellor/psychotherapist is not there to tell you what to do rather encourage you to talk about what's on your mind in order to uncover any root causes and identify your specific ways of thinking. The process itself can be very healing, that will enable you to start perceiving things as they are where solutions can be created , issues reconciled and better ways found to coping with everything.
Where do I go from here? How to arrange a session?
Once you have decided to work with me the next step is to contact me so we can have an informal chat and arrange a day and time to meet. The initial assessment is essential and it will last for 1 hour and 15 minutes. It will establish your needs and aims, the length of future sessions, fees, termination & cancellation policy, data protection & confidentiality.
What to expect in a session?
The future sessions will lasts 50 minutes, which will be weekly on the same day and same time and there is ample flexibility for any changes. It is held at the same place each time we meet and the consulting room is very private. In each session your life will take centre stage that will include your significant experiences, feelings, thoughts, desires etc. where I will help unravel all of these with you. As such, like in all talking therapies, the sessions will be interactive.
What issues do you deal with?
You can discuss lots of issues within counselling & psychotherapy, see list.
What about confidentiality?Confidentiality is an essential part of the therapeutic relationship. All that takes place between us is treated with respect and discretion and it will be discussed in full in the first session when we meet.
What about the length of therapy?
The length of time you will need help varies with each individual. It will depend on your needs, expectations and the work undertaken. Deep-rooted problems may require long-term work (months/years) while specific issues can often be addressed within a much shorter period.
You can 'target' a specific area in your life in the form of 'focused short-term therapy', which can be a maximum of 12 weeks.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Appointments only, for an informal chat please call 07828 157294
Types of client