Ruth Durham.Registered MBACP (Accred).

Ruth Durham.Registered MBACP (Accred).


01785 662081 / 07754103755

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01785 662081 / 07754103755

About me

Acknowledging and expressing our innermost feelings and concerns can be quite daunting. Our negative thoughts / "what-iffs" further erode our self-esteem whilst feeding and maintaining our anxiety and low mood / depression.

Counselling can help by either exploring the root cause or addressing the symptomatic behaviour.

Identifying what may "trigger" (e.g. when we feel trapped / lonely / stupid / inadequate / rejected etc.) our  consequent automatic negative thoughts, feelings and behaviour which maintain the destructive spiral can help us to understand the root cause. Such knowledge can enable us to discover our real self  and can empower us to change the negative thoughts which feed the unhelpful feelings and behaviour, thereby breaking the cycle.

Insight can increase our choices and enable us to make more informed decisions as to the different options available for dealing with our issues, whilst additional awareness allows for a different understanding and perception of our experiences which in turn can empower us to give back responsibility to the rightful owners. Being equipped with such knowledge has an associated benefit of building self-worth and confidence.

Exploring un-processed childhood issues / past trauma can help to make more sense of the past and offer understanding and insight into the possibility that part of us is/ may be emotionally "trapped" at the age we experienced the trauma, thereby leaving us to cope in the present just as we did during the original trauma.

Unlocking the past and looking at how we may have interpreted and internalised our early experiences can leave us better placed to see how the past and its often concealed emotional consequences continue to influence and impact on our behaviour the present.

Counselling offers the tools to teach us how to control our behaviour as opposed to our behaviour controlling us whilst providing the space and time in a safe and non-judgemental environment to explore your concerns.  It also enables us to look at how we see / think about and therefore deal with our issues which can offer us insight into how our own behaviour may promote, maintain and even intensify our worries. (Self-fulfilling prophecy?)

I have nineteen years counselling experience working with couples and individuals, six of which I spent working as the only counsellor within a large organisation where I dealt with many personal and Occupational Health issues presented by employees.

I have my own private practice and am also employed as an Affiliate Counsellor with several Employee Assistance Programmes. (Establishments/ companies who contract with organisations to provide telephone and face to face counselling for their employees.)

If you have a question you would like to talk through, then do please contact me on either of my phone numbers. An initial chat may enable you to make a more informed decision as to whether counselling is right for you at this time.

I am a Registered and Accredited member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy, and abide by their code of ethics.

Training, qualifications & experience

Graduate Diploma in Counselling
RELATE trained and qualified couples/relationship counsellor.
I have also undertaken training in the following areas;
Child and adolescent counselling skills.
Working with a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder.
Diploma in Counselling, Psychology and Psychotherapy.
Certificate in Working with Eating Disorders.
NVQ. Level 4 in Management Studies.

Additional training and experience:
Stafford and District Bereavement and Loss.
Emerge (Part of NHS Trust, based at St George's hospital Stafford) Working with adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse.

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited


Accredited register membership

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Anxiety which may arise as a result of lack of confidence /self-esteem.
Assertiveness skills.
Communication skills.
Parenting skills. (Including looking at how the client's perception of their own childhood experience of being parented may be influencing the present.)
Problem solving.
Unresolved / unprocessed issues from childhood which may have caused developmental problems.
Childhood /Adult sexual and or physical abuse


For clients who self refer my fee is £40 per one hour session.

Organisations / Insurance work /Assessments are subject to and dependent upon the specific requirements of the required work.

Further information

I work long and short term and will also carry out home visits dependent upon circumstances and distance involved. My fee will be increased to reflect the mileage and travelling time.

I work with individuals, couples (heterosexual and same sex relationships) and organisations. I also have mediation (conflict resolution) skills.

My training and knowledge relating to "Family Systems" gives me an awareness as to how childhood can impact and affect the emotional development of the children within that family (Life Stages/ Fixation)
It may well be that the understanding of such information could be helpful in enabling us to see how the past influences and affects the here and now as well as perhaps shaping the future.

Maps & Directions

Stafford, ST17

Type of session

Online counselling: No
Telephone counselling: No
Face to face counselling: Yes

Practical details

Sign language: No
Other languages: None


Monday to Friday, first appointment 9.30am last appointment 4pm. I do not offer evening or weekend appointments.

Types of client

Older adults
Employee Assistance Programme
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